May I change the decision reagrding giving birth to a 2nd child ?

Again, the decision is yours. No one else can make the decision for you. I know you are not asking for the decision to be made by anyone else. You just want opinions. However, you must go with your heart. That is the only way you will know it is the right decision. To let anyone else lead you to a decision could lead you to the wrong decision.

If you can afford two children, and you WANT two children, then you should have two children. Don't have another child just to keep the first one company, if that's your only reason.

I think some parts of what you said is really realistic and reasonable. It is true that when someone is in a very serious situation, only brother/sister can provide sincere and intense help. I support your decision if you want to give birth to a second child.

In my opinion, if you can afford a second child, that would be good for the child. Even if you cannot afford it, I am sure when the second child is born, things will change and somehow you can manage it. Sure, definitely you can change the decision regarding giving birth to a 2nd child. It is your call. Kids learn from one another and having a second child would bring company for the first child even when they are growing up or have grown up. I have friends who come from single child family. They have cousins and friends, but they are lonely especially when it comes to family matters. Personally I have 2 sibblings, but I still wish for more. This is because when I need them, they are not available. LOL.

I think you need to make sure you can afford a 2nd child before you just go ahead & have one. Although i agree that a sibling is a wonderful thing for your daughter, there's still no point in having another one if you are going to struggle so much financially that you'd be living well below the poverty line & your kids wont have a good enough upbringing! I think, perhaps you could leave it longer & see if your financial situation improves & if your daughter is currently lonely, allow her some more time to play with other children :) This is not something you can rush in to & if you think you can afford another one but end up not being able to, then your kids will be the ones to suffer.

How old is your first? I know there are plenty of only children who are well adjusted. :) It's a decision only you (and your husband) can make. No one else's opinion really matters.

Whilst it is true that a sibling would give your child company it should not be the sole reason for having another child. As my Mum found out when she had my sister as company for me it didn't work out as planned and we fought terribly. When I was planning my 3rd child there were a lot of factors I had to consider before I went ahead. The age gap between the baby and my other children as to how they would accept a baby, could I afford all the equipment and having another mouth to feed, how a baby would fit in to the family routine, was the house big enough, how would i cope with looking after the other 2 as the pregnancy progressed? These are just some of the things I found faced me with planning another child although it was something I had considered on and off for a while. I would not wish to influence you one way or the other but I hope I have given you something more to think about as having a baby - whether 1st or 5th - is a huge emotional and financial commitment. Good luck in whatever you decide :)