Friends change, but what do you do when they won't admit to it?

Sounds like you may have grown up and became a bigger and better person while your friends sort of stayed a bit immature and self centered. Maybe they don't WANT to admit they have changed. Not sure how old you all are. Maybe they don't want to get older and pretend not to while you have accepted and embraced getting older and wiser. Just explain your feelings to them and if they get mad, they get mad. I wouldn't be rude or hateful, just honest and open about your feelings adn let it develop from there. If they are truely your friends, they will understand your feelings and you can either grow into a different kind of friendship or go your separate ways. Good luck

It seems like a new status quo has developed in your relationship with these people. You say they complain about not seeing you but yet when you make plans they flake out...it sounds like they don't really want to spend time, and are just giving you "lip service" when they say they miss you so much. I don't know what I would do in a situation like that because I have not really had such an experience, but I believe I would not want to spend much time with them. It's fine for you to not have "things in common" anymore, that shouldn't break your friendship, and the fact that they feel the need to "makebelieve" things are the same, suggests they don't want to "work" on the relationship at all, and just want to have a somewhat superficial relationship. I can just imagine what they would say and how they would say it. It's your choice. If you feel you have to spend time with them, just try not to bring up things like that. Staying to light, superficial topics of conversation is probably the best way to get through it til you all get back into some kind of groove with each other. If you feel like you want to NOT spend any time with them, you shouldn't, and it doesn't have to be with any "rude" or "hateful" attitudes, just be real about your feelings and show that you don't harbour any grudges but that you just don't want to renew the ties you once had...if you really feel that way. Of course, they may take it the wrong way no matter what you say...sometimes things are what they are...and if you feel they would probably do that, then you know what to expect! Be prepared for it, so it won't be a shock to you! I hope you find some real friends soon! All the best to you!

People change, as we grow older we someitmes turn into something that could be for good and maybe bad. I guess your friends do miss a part of you, the way you were before. Just how they thought what you were back then, just to bring back those good ole memories!;) As we grow, we meet different types of people. We learn from them, the same thing they also learn from us. By these, we come to realize the things that we usually do and make ourselves a better person. I believe your friends may still be like what they are, but just as you, they also have to attend to other responsiblities that they now have to take care of.

everyone changes over time. everyone. we may not know it but we all change but its easier to see the change in other people. people change to adapt to their environment and the hardships they have to face in life. change isn't a bad thing. change is gradual so we never realise most of the changes taking place. heck. birds of a feather flocks together. you belong with friends that would think alike so if your friends from 8 years ago changed (in opposite direction from you) then its time to change friends.

I dont think You have done anything wrong. I have undergone the same problem. But my case was before and after marriage. I had plenty of friends before marriage and I really used to have best time with them. I still cherish those wonderful moments. Now that i am married and have a kid, some of my friend still expect me to be the same old chirpy girl which I am not. I have so many other responsibilites and some friends dont realize this. So I strongly relate to ur problem. Continue being yourself. Prioritize ur needs and be yourself. This is WHAT I DO.

yeah i hear ya. they always change, every time a friend or a cousin gets married and i always tell them don't change and forget about me and they always do. i don't get that, when i got married i never changed.