Asking for monetary help..

Just as Ecclesiastes 3 says, there is a time for all things. Sometimes there is a time for humility and a need to drop personal pride and ask family for help in finances, just as we would ask for help in health and other matters. Family is there to support each other, so why not drop pride and use it.

Have you checked in to government help? YOu've paid the taxes that pay for thoose programs so you're just as entitled (if not more) than the other people on them.... Hubby and I were deep in the hole at one point, just from the excess the insurance wouldn't pay when I had my twins, nothing too serious, and all our other bills and managed to work our way out. I believe the formula we used was off of cheapskate monthly or something like that, they're now known as debt proof living.... Good luck. I know it sucks when money's tight.

I don't think it is shameful, because there is nothing wrong with asking for help, and it wouldn't be people's choice whether or not to give you money. That said, I don't know that it would work. People are becoming more jaded and there are many scams out there. I would still talk to your church, even though you have not been a member for long. Our church when I was a child helped my mother, even though it was only with babysitting, after we had been members for all of two weeks.

I don't think there is any shame in it. I don't know how you'd get a lot of people to see it. A lady a couple weeks ago posted 10 times, the site she had set up for people to donate money for her and her family because she said they were about to be thrown out of their house for not being able to pay the rent. And each time her discussion was deleted. So I imagine it would be hard to get the word out.

I don't think you'd get a very good response. I think you'd have more luck getting a bigger loan from a family member, friend, or a bank. It might also depend on who you approach. People who don't know you very well will probably be less likely to help you out. Your closer friends, if they know you well and know you weren't being irrisponsible would be more likely to help you. Good luck.

All of us have financial problems that's why we're here in myLot and other earning sites. The thing is, the problem with this type of asking money is that there are those who abusive this type of help, that's why people no longer buy into the thought anymore. I have over 30 emails everyday saying that their kid has got some sort of sickness. It's sad that people like this make the venue for helping a lot doubtful. I suggest you ask for local community help or the church or the government. And ask (swallow your pride) ask help from relatives and friends because they see your situation and somehow could understand.

Its not good to ask for monetary help in public forums or from strange people. You can seek help from your relatives, friends or even some NGOs. LOL..

Around here there are often jars set up for people to make donations in the case of hospital bills at businesses. Restaurants and convenience stores often have them. Benefit auctions or singings are held too. There is nothing shameful about it when you are in true need. I like to help people when I can. It's kind of sharing our blessings.

I think it is normal to ask moneytary help from others. I usually ask for moneytary help from my friends and my friends also ask for moenytary help from me. I would like to help other when they need money even if I am short of money. Sometimes, I feel shamed if I can't provide with moneytary help to my friends when they really need moneytary help.

No it is not shameful but with all the scams going on , I don't see you having much luck on the internet. I know that I would not respond. What I have seen some families do is have friend or coworker...someone that really is aware of the familiy's situation, write up a short story explaining the family's bad luck story. They post the story to several coffee cans and ask local businesses to display them. We have had a few familys in my area that circumstances put them in a grave financial situation. We did the coffee can thing and you would not believe the wonderful response. A local band also has done several benefit concerts for such family's pulling in a great amount of money. I'm thinking it would be best to keep it local because even if people don't really know you ...they will give because thats what communities do...they pull together. Also your story is not likely to be questioned as it would be on the internet. Most businesses will not sponsor donation cans unless the cause is legit. Hope things get better for you and your family!! Ps...local churches are wonderful for helping out even if you are not a member! there is plenty of help to be had, you just have to ask the right people and search the right places. Again...do not feel shame. I have had to ask for help before...something not easy for me to do. A wise man told me to put away my pride for the sake of my family. he said my pride was selfish and depriving my children. So true. We all need a helping hand from time to time.