Is it better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?

sometimes it's not you who choose who to love, love chooses you somehow, nor do you choose when you love. there are times when love comes at the wrong time, and there is nothing we can do to stop it. to lose someone we love dearly is painful. pain is a part of life, we have to accept it and move on with our lives. at least we have the memories, kept safe in our hearts. there is nothing like the feling of being in love with someone. being in love is a beautiful feeling and experience and each and every time it happens, you are blessed to be able to feel it. even if we experience heartbreak, the love or act of being in love makes the ride worthwhile. so it's definitely better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all. easier said than done though, haha.. .

i think have loved that never loved, cause is an emotion that will completely shaken yourself and any one must feel once in their life even if the relationship one day will finished.

I think it is indeed better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. I believe it is really sad when someone hasn't loved at all. The heartbreak is well worth it. Heartbreak is a necessary sorrow.You get hurt but you definitely will emerge a stronger person. After all, experience is the best teacher.

Without reservation I think it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Every person that I have opened myself to love has taught me something that I needed to learn. Before meeting my husband I had another great love. His work and our changing life goals broght the relationship to its natural conclusion. When it was over I did not view it as 'love lost'...it was an amazingly spiritual bond that prepared me for what I have with my current partner. Prior to that love I had married my childhood sweetheart. When we divorced just a couple of years after being married it taught me what I did and did not want in any future partner. So it was not a failure or a loss...just a life lesson I needed to learn. I have loved gal pals and then the relationship changed and was over. The loss of a loving friendship can be painful too. As is the loving a pet knowing that their lifespan will ususally be much shorter than ours. However, every pet, person, gal pal, family member that I have opened myself up to love has, when they left, given me valuable memories that I would not have had without allowing myself to love them. On the other hand I have a close girl friend that is in her fifties that has been too afraid to open herself to loving anyone. She has never been married, owned a pet, given her total trust to anyone, has no real friends. I believed we were close..but I am beginning to see that after 20 years she has not opened herself up to the loving bond I thought we shared. She is guarded, judgmental and fearful of letting others get close. Compared to the losses I have felt when friends or lovers betrayed me...I will still take that over living in a closed, crystalis, self-protected lifestyle predicated on fear-based suspicions and perceptions. Give me life, love, passion, hurt, loss. Yes, give me the full range of human emotions. At least with that I know I am alive...I am learning, accepting and yes, letting go. Because whether we like to admit it to ourselves people come into our lives for a REASON...a SEASON..or a LIFETIME. Let us enjoy what my hubby said love is when we first met...."Love is something people go through together." I want that far more than I want to leave this world like my friend...to have never have loved at all. Good topic goddessglamourpuss...thanks for posting it.

i agree with the others. It is better to have loved than not to experience it at all. Having the capability to love or to feel it is the most miraculous part of our life. It means that you are willing to hurt and experience so much pain. Being in love, doesn't mean that you have love because you want to just be happy and taste all the good things in the world. But when you chose to love someone, it means that you are giving the other person the right to hurt you and being hurt just nurture you how to handle your next relationship better.

getting hurt is a part of being inlove..and yes it's much better to loved than never experienced it at all, you can never really tell who you will love and eventually loose him that's part of it just make sure that in every relationship you had you learn something,, anyways experience is a good teacher.

like all emotions love is a learning tool. If you never loved, you would never experience the depth of passion needed to know that you belong to that one special person and they to you. Once you have loved, you know it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. To never love at all is the height of selfish and true self denial.

Its a very nice feeling to be inlove and to be loved in return. Its also giving your heart the possibility of getting hurt and crying in the end when love no longer exisits in the hearts of the lovers. We fall out of love or the other party falls out of love and which case there may be, etting hurt is involved. Having loved and getting hurt in the end is better than not loving and getting loved at all. A heart break is not as heavenly as falling in love but its part of loving and getting hurt is a way of becoming a better person in the end. What matters most are the the hurts but te happiness and the joy of loving and being loved in return. Its the positive sides of loving that despite the hurt you still want to love and beloved after a heartbreak.

The heartbreak is well worth the experience of loving someone even if it doesn't last forever. I can't imagine not having the desire for love in my life. I am single and I like living on my own but my heart is always open to possibly loving again.

It's true. I believe a person who did not experience being in love or loved is the poorest person on earth. Love is what makes us unique from all the creation on this planet. God created us humans with feelings. We should experience love because this is the greatest gift that God has given us.

It's really difficult to say which is better. Maybe different people has different feelings. For me, I belong to the fist type. Suffering from the parting, I can't face the fact that we won't be together again in the future though I still love him. He said he still loves me. He made this decision just because of long distance realism. To tell the truth, I hate him but still love him, which makes me so sad and I'm relly disappointed with any love. When I'm alone now, I'm relly feeling lonely. Remembering the honey days before, I think it's my last life. Though past forever, it's a rich memory.