For anyone that has kids:

I know what you mean. I have been wrestling with this decision for months now. I am due in a few weeks but have finally decided to have my tubes tied. This is my 3rd pregnancy and all 3 have had complications. My first ended in losing the baby at 5 months. I then learned I had an incompetent cervix. With my first son I had to have a cerclage (stitches in the cervix to hold it together during the pregnancy so I could carry the baby to term). I also had to endure 5 months of bedrest because of high blood pressure and also had gestational diabetes. This pregnancy I also had a cerclage and for the most part it went pretty well but then came gestational diabetes then preterm labor which I take medications for and now they are telling me the stitches in my cervix may break at any time so I have been on bedrest for a couple weeks. Thank goodness it is already near the end of my pregnancy and I am scheduled to have a c section in 3 weeks. I think 3 complicated pregnancies are enough for me. I will enjoy my 2 sons. I am going to quit while I am ahead before I have anymore worse complications. But inspite of all this it has been hard for me to come to the decision to get my tubes tied because I always think what if later on down the road we want another child. Or what if god for bid something were to happen and I remarried and my new husband wanted a child of his own. I just couldn't help thinking these things but I finally had to say it is time for me to put my health first and remember all the problems I have had. And I realize that maybe some of us are not meant to be pregnant and I must be one of those people so I will be thankful for the child I have and the one that is due very soon.

I am 38.And pregnant with my second and last child. It was a bit of a surprise. But after this, Yes I will be done. I don't find it difficult to make the decision. But a few years ago my answer may have been different.

I'm going through this right now as well. We have three beautiful boys. I don't feel like I want to be done having kids. BUT, dh got a vasectomy last february so I'm kind of stuck. We didn't think we could make enough money to have more kids. But now my husband is thinking about becoming an officer and we will make enough. So I have been thinking about asking dh to get a reversal. But I'm going to wait a couple of years and then ask.

well my youngest is 9 months old and both of my kids are girls. i really have mixed feelings. its like on one hand i want another one, but on the other, i dont want to deal all the uncomfortable stuff about being pregnant, then the stuff after the birth (the labor doesnt bother me since i had one natural and the 2nd one was easy) and then them not sleeping through the night for awhile. I was lucky though, both my girls slept through the night early. All that stuff passes though. My hubby doesnt want another one. 1) we cant afford it right now and 2) he thinks we'll have another girl =/. I almost got my tubes tied, but i knew if i did, i'd get very depressed knowing I couldnt have more kids if i wanted to. So, i want my options to be open =)

oh,i seriously think not having another baby cause i consider enough the girlie i have.i thinked to do something definitively for stopping this but then i renounce cause i thought what if after 10-15 years i change my mind or what if i loose my girl as a punishment for this definitive contraception.i may be a little crazy but i wouldn't be so radical

I have 4 boys; 16, 13, 2, 11 mths. Yes I think I have plenty, but still feel like I don't want to make it permanent that I cannot have anymore. I have always wanted a little girl and for some reason can't seem to have one. I was going to get my tubes tied after the 4th, but our insurance got messed up and I wasn't covered at the time I was suppose to have the surgery so it never happened. I don't know if it was meant to be that way, but I am glad I didn't get fixed. My hubby refuses to have a vasectomy which is fine with me, but I just don't know if I can go through having my tubes tied. I am sure if I had a baby girl I could handle getting fixed, but I feel I am missing something if I do it without having a girl. But then again, how many boys would I have before I even got my little girl?

I'm only 22 and I have a 1 1/2 year old daughter. My husband doesn't want any more children, but I can't stand the thought of just having one. He hasn't done anything drastic yet (vasectomy) so maybe I still have some time to talk him into it.

I had my tubes tied almost three years ago. I had to have an endometrial ablation, and in order to have it done, I had to have my tubes tied. It was a little weird after the surgery to think about not being able to have more kids, but like you, I have three and can't afford anymore. The only time that I feel guilty about it now is when I think about my husband. He doesn't have any kids of his own and I can't give him any. It doesn't seem to bother him though, so I don't worry about it too much. You'll get more comfortable with it and soon you won't think about it at all.

if i have a choice i want to have no kids