my parents anniversary
By 00fear
@00fear (3216)
United States
August 12, 2007 3:34am CST
hi, i need advice from you about this. see my mom and dad are completing their 25th anniversary next october and my brothers and i are planning like a year early like my cousins did to my aunt and uncle. im saving up money and well so far so good as far as i know. although i wanna save up more than it usually cost for a party this big. well before saving this is why i came for your help. okay my mom and dad told me each in different places (my mom when i went to eat lunch with her and my dad when we were coming home from work) how they wants to spend their 25th anniversary and its in mexico. i dont know if it was like a joke cause they sounded like that or serious thing cause they also love it over there because its there hometown. well my parents might of thought that i forgot by now when they got married since it was a way while back when they told me, so my brothers and i want it to be a surprise and were acting like we forgot their date of marriage and they feel like we dont care for them but we do. well the thing is, if we are going to make this in mexico, is it okay to invite our family over here and pay for them to go to mexico? i find this inviting thing and they have to pay is not right for me. i really dont know about these things thats why im asking. i assume is not right because well i have a cousin who is like that (knock on wood cause i dont want to end up being like them for talking about them) who made a party for her kid at chuck-e-cheeses and they invited their closes friends and family (including me) and they made each guest pay for their own food and i heard behind peoples back that it was wrong they did that, inviting people yet they have to pay. then its not called invitation. well please help me?thanks
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3 responses
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
13 Aug 07
It would be very expensive for you to pay for everyone...how about a party with a mexican theme and include as part of the gift a night or two for your parents in Mexico. Make it an anniverasary party and a send off party! Authentic food, band or DJ and everything else you can find to give the mexican flavor to the party!
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
12 Aug 07
I agree with you 00fear on the aspect of inviting people to a party or celebration and then expecting them to pay their own way. I have never believed in doing that because it seems very much like a "gift grab." I feel that someone should only invite the number of people to an event for whom they can afford to pay the bill (whether it's an at-home party, in a restaurant, what have you.)
In terms of your parents' 25th anniversary, I agree with the first member's response. I think it would be really nice for you to throw a lovely party for your parents in your current location and then you and your siblings could all contribute to paying for a trip to Mexico for your parents as their gift. This would allow them to celebrate their special anniversary alone, in a romantic way, but would also allow them to spend time receiving well-deserved best wishes from their friends and family.
If you are considering paying for guests to go to Mexico (which would be expensive!!), you could throw a really nice party for everyone and also create a wonderful itinerary/trip for your parents. In the long-run, more of the money you've saved will be going towards celebrating your parents and less towards paying for other people to go on the trip. I think it would be money better spent...and I wish your parents every happiness on their anniversary and for many more years to come! :)
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 Aug 07
If you can't pay for everyone to go to Mexico, maybe you can have a party and as your gift, you give your parents plane or train tickets to mexico. that way everyone will be at the celebration and your parents can have a second honeymoon.
