Are You Close to Your Family or Not?

I have to say that I am blessed with a great family! I have 3 sisters and we all get along great! Our families get together with our mom for every holiday and we even make sure we get together once a month to celebrate birthdays! I have had two illnesses and I would have been lost without my family because they stepped in and took care of my kids and everything! I wish you all of the best and hope that your family members will come around and do what is right! pddata22

I'm not close to my family either. My parents were divorced when I was so young that I have very few memories of them being married, and after that I lived with whoever would take me, for the most part. There were very few of my family members who didn't abuse me, and there were times when I was left with nowhere to live. I moved from Kentucky to Michigan when I was 18, to live with a guy that I met online. That sounds pretty bad, but it was actually the best decision I've ever made in my life. I've only been back to Kentucky once since then, when my great-grandfather (who was one of the very few people who was kind to me) was dying. While I do sometimes speak to members of my family on the phone, I can't imagine ever being close to people who abused and abandoned me in the ways they did. I feel sorry for my son sometimes that he won't have an extended family like many kids do, but I wouldn't trust my family with my child even if I did live close to them.

I don't understand why you can't get your mother's house. You're certainly entitled to it especially after taking care of her. I'm very close to my family. I spend most of my time with them. I also want to take care of my parents as they get older. This is quite common in the Philippines. We even have extended families that include grandparents, grand uncles and aunts, grand nephews and nieces, in-laws, etc. Filipino families are very close.

well dnt wory everything will b OK soon in ur family and about me so i m more close to my mother and i should be close to her as she is the one who gave birth to me and i think everyone should be close to his parents and should love them

My hubby and I do not have any family to speak of. Both my parents have passed on and I never had siblings. My hubby's father left when he was around 2 years of age and his mother is not someone he chooses to associate with. What we have learned is that there are circumstances in life where the family of origin connections are not what most people would like or hope for. To fill the void of not having meaningful family connections we have sought out like-minded others that have become what we call 'soul family.' We have, by mutual consent fostered bonds that are supportive, caring, compassionate, understanding and that has helped to make us feel connected to others in a way that was not possible within our family dynamics. Perhaps you need to look outside of what your family represents. I am sure that if you make a clear intent to yourself that you will eventually attract people into your life that are willing to share and care...you will. There is a known law of attraction that brings like minded beings together when we are able to open ourselves to that possibility. Good luck with this part of your journey.

When I was little my father left us to work in other countries... I am a lot closer to my Mother... I guess all of us have different stories.. anyways There still God.. Anybody in this will world my not be there but God is always there to help us..

Time and Time again more and more familys are running into problems like you have here. Sometimes my one sister only comes around when it is good for her, but just like your problem when we need help she is nowhere to be found. I myself am close to my family. I believe and this is just for me, whatever anyone else does is for them, but everyone only has one mom and dad and I want to cherish them to the day that they pass so that I have no regrets....

That's not family. Those are people you're genetically related to and you didn't cause that. You need to understand those people are toxic and you need to stay away from them. It would be beneficial to surround yourself with friends who care about you and have them become your "family by choice". A real family cares about you through good times and bad and you would do well to assemble a chosen one. I have and it consists of others who have no relatives who care. We're all without people who care in our real families but we depend on each other as a foster family. It works well for me, anyway.

That's a very sad story you have there friend. I guess that happens when families aren't really used to being closely-knit. Specially if only after several years then you try to be close, it simply doesn't work. It's really a sad thing for these things to happen. I guess this is one of the ill-effects of divorces. I'm very close to my parents' families. We practically grew up together (living in one house on my mother's side) plus now, every month we have gatherings such as birthdays and anniversaries. Hope someday when you have a family of your own, you'll get to appreciate the beauty of a close-knit family. Don't worry, you can still change things, just don't follow what your parents and relatives have done. Indeed you can start your own. Good luck to you and to your future family. Don't lose hope. Always trust in God. Take care. =)

Oh..Oh..what a sad story that I've ever heard since my boarding the myLot planet three(3) weeks a go. What a diligent person you are, shrouded with all of the predicaments and ordeals, but still smiling(on your inserted picture). I still cannot believe it when it come to that extends, ponders me a moment on typing all of these texts. Having said, not to say 'family' but the 'hellish'. So how could you earn your living right now?

Ya dear, I really felt sorry hearing your story. Its relly hard to live this way and i can understand how strong you are really that great. Keep It Up.......! And comin to my family i always stay with my family, i enjoy with my family i.e my parents coz i'm a bachlor yet. Our's is a joint family we all enjoy a lot we are five brother's viz.., my dad has two sons and my uncle has three. No, Sisters thats our bad luck. To tell you we're 14 members in a family but all celebrate every day we joke with each other make fun always. My two big brothers are married and both of them are having cute little kids. I Always thank GOD for giving me this good family honestly. Family means a lot to me............!

My heart goes out to you Waterwisdom. I can understand where you're coming from. I've never been close to either side of my family. I was always mistreated. I've resolved to be the victim no longer, and recently had a phone altercation with a particular relative. At this point I don't see any chance of a reconciliation with my family. I find that I can love them better when they're far, far away. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow me on NoMoreCollegeDebt.blogspot.com as I try to make $8k in sixty days using only a computer, a lot of free time, and some determination.