What do you think about Pre-nups?

I have very strong views on this sort of thing, I am a very independent person and I don't really believe in actual marriage certificates and such, I don't think they serve anything but a form of ownership of another, instead of a marriage certificate I believe a form should be filled out of what each pary brings into the relationship, it should be made compulsary to save problems upon breakup. Here is my simple idea. Two people want to get as we call it get married..Number one they both fill out a form of all they are bringing into the relationship, this should be done by every person wishing to share a place regardless of gender. If the couple wish to make a form of marriage a ceremony takes place as is now but the woman just tacks the mans name on the end of her name allmade legal.. Scenario that the relationship does not work, one solicitor is employed to check what was brought into the relationship by each party is given back and what was made or bought during the partnership is regarded as property of both so that part of things gets worked out legaaly also, the woman drops the mans name and as far as I am concerned a lot of legal fees and hassles has been saved....I think I should be Prime Minister Of Australia what do you reckon...??? hahahahah

I would do it if he asked, but I would hope any man I was planning to spend the rest of my life with would trust me enough to know I wouldn't want half of the money he earned from the sweat of his own brow, just what I am naturally entitled to after putting my own hard earned money into our household and lives. After all, a marriage is about creating a union between 2 people, which entails support (financially or otherwise), so I would expect that I had enough money to set me up sans him, and vice versa for him as long as neither party was being a sponge and wastrel. I think it might cause a big rift between us, so I'm not saying I'd be fine with it because it would feel to me like he had doubts about us being long term. I think I'd only sign it to prove the point that I'm not in it for his money, but it would NOT be a happy situation.

I don't know hot I feel about it. While it does seem just practical, deciding on how your relationship is going to end seems a bit cold.

I personaly don't have a problem with them. I actually think there is a time and a place for them. And honestly what is the problem if you are married for love? I can't see how someone would have an issue unless they are in the relationship solely for money. People have to protect their interests. And when you have but so much money I think you have to really start wondering whether or not a person is with you because they care for you or if they are only looking at what they can get from you.

My first marriage ended in divorce, we never had a pre-nup, my ex had 4 houses, I did not try to take any of them even though during our whole relationship he lived off me so he could put his wages into his properties. I never thought about a pre-nup - his parents did and told him to get me to sign one but he refused to even bring it to me. He knew that I had more pride than that and that I would have shoved it down his throat if he had presented it to me. I am independent and have always worked for my own living. If we had had kids and I had been dependent on him financially, i.e. a stay at home mum, things might have been different. Personally I would NEVER sign a document like that, nor would I expect my husband to sign one (as it's not just men who have lots of assets, some of us women have them too LOL).

I think having a prenuptial agreement represents a level of fiscal responsibility that would be a boon in a partner. I will never have enough money to need one for myself, but I would want one if I were ever in the position of bringing more resources into a marriage. I guess it also sets the stage for having a relationship where finances are out in the open and can be talked about with greater ease. Mistrust? More like practicality.

I think pre-nups are a great idea. Especially in my family. Too many people get divorced in my family. A pre-nup is a pre-caution.

I think they are a wonderful option for those that have something to protect. You are correct, many marriages end in divorce, so why not be safe than sorry? No one enters a marraige thinking it's going to end, they are putting their best foot forward to make it work, all the same, many still fail. So if I had something worth protecting, I would have had a pre-nup. I don't, so I didn't, LOL.

I consider a pre-nup to be covering all the bases. If you stay married great and wonderful. If you end up divorcing then the one with the money does not have to give most of it to the other party. Sometimes people do marry for the money and then they will divorce to get it so they don't have the commitment. I think pre-nups are a great idea if you have enough money or other assets for someone to want to marry you just for that reason.

I suppose it is easy for me to say since I have been married for 20 years and neither of us had anything when we got married but if ever I were to get married again, I have no problem signing a prenup. In fact, it would be my idea. I don't want anything from anyone. If I am getting married, it is for love not money, and I don't want money that the guy had before I stepped into his life. However, if he approached me with mistrust, I would question whether he was ready to commit. I know realistically people get divorced all the time and expect that it could happen to me but I do want to be sure the guy is 100% sure I am marrying him for HIM and not money or material things. But definitely...I would sign a prenup and not worry about it. I actually am quite content to leave with what I came with if we broke up. I don't believe a guy owes me anything because I was married to him. It was a mutual decision.