How to teach child not to be jealous?

I have a six year old daughter and a two year old boy, but I don't really have a good answer for you. I don't get the ther child a present on the others birthday though. I try to keep things even for the most part because it is easier and keeps them from fighting over things, like toys. But my daughter is really into everything being "fair" right now and it drives me crazy!!! She doesn't understand that things are not always fair and equal, and I don't really know how to get her to understand it and be okay if she doesn't get something that her brother does. It could be as simple as getting my little boy socks, she gets upset because she didn't get new socks!! Even if she doesn't need anything or whatever, so I just tell her to get over it because I am not going to get her something just because her brother NEEDED something new. She gets to do all kinds of fun things on her own because she is older but she doesn't get it still. I don't think they should get presents on the others birthday or special day, just because life isn't always like that so I don't want my kids to think they deserve something just because someone else got something new or whatever.

It is hard i know but i hard if you always not compare his or her work with other kids that is better. Like if your kid is doing something not so good then do not tell him/her that "See the other kid is doing this so good but you cant". This makes them jealous. Rather try to teach him how to do it better. This kind of small things may help but i do not have a kid still i had good friendship with many kids in my family but you know teching own kid and others kid is kind f different...i cant teach them 24 hrs so it doesnot depend only on my teaching, their parents are also responssible so in that case if i could teach my own kid that would give me better reflection of the fruitfullness of my teaching

Hi, well at that small an age,the kids being jealous, is very normal, and sibling rivalry etc, are all part of the growing phases of their lives. Yes, slowly they will over come this, for which we have to start working when they are young only. I agree that when we are celebrating ones birthday, or if someone has brought a gift for one child and not the other, there is no harm at all in giving a return gift to the other too, so that she or he doesnt feel bad, it neede not be at par with the or the same kind of gift, anything small is alright too, and kids understand that fast as well. And when asked, you should explain it to them, that its her birthday, so she gets this and this is your return gift,and vice versa, they are quick to undersatnd. And with age the understanding sets in, and the jealousy gives way.