True love.

@lena2000 (2392)
Belgium
August 14, 2007 3:07am CST
I have been searching for love now for a very long time. I have looked for it, I have let it find me, but I can't seem to find the right person. When I am in a relationship, it never seems to work out. I think it has a lot to do with me choosing the wrong men, and also me having so many insecurities and issues to deal with. How will I ever find love and keep love? I have been single now for a little over a year. My last relationship was with my sons mother. Also, being that I have a 2 year old, I don't want her to see men coming and going. I want a stable, secure, long lasting relationship. But it never works out that way for me. What can I do to find sincere love and keep it?
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14 responses
• United States
14 Aug 07
You would be surprised where love will show up. It will creep up on you when you least expect it. Keep the faith!
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@lena2000 (2392)
• Belgium
15 Aug 07
True love is like chocolate ice cream, if you've never had chocolate ice cream, how can you know what it tastes like, if you have had chocolate ice cream, how could you ever forget?
@viliux27 (103)
• Lithuania
14 Aug 07
You must not look for love.When you dont look for love it comes eventualy. In theese days the families seperate faster than earlier...I dont know how but i have the feeling it came from america or something...
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@lena2000 (2392)
• Belgium
15 Aug 07
Thanks.
• Canada
15 Aug 07
My suggestion is to keep on what you are doing...and most of all love yourself. Focus on feeling worthy of love and a happy parterhship with a special someone. I work in the self-development field and truly beleive we do not get want we want...we receive what we EXPECT. Your past experiences have obviously led to a concern that you will never find anyone. I caution you about holding those thoughts because all too often whatever you assume to be true...will become REAL for you. After my first marriage broke up I was determined to live the best life I could with or without a partner. I kept busy, went out, joined a Jazz Club, danced and tried to put my best self out there. Perhaps working on your insecurities while you are waiting would help. We often attract people based on what we need to learn. The more whole and healthy you feel...the better your chances for attracting a partner who is also emotionally healthy. After all like often attracts like. Good luck in your search...keep believing that there is someone out there for you and hopefully he will appear.
@jen_n514 (218)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
your discussion confuses me...you mentioned there "choosing the wrong men" and later you said "my last relationship was with my sons mother" - are you female or male" oh well whatever your gender is...i think you need to deal with your insecurities and issues first..in order for you to have a lasting relationship..bec if you have a lot of hang ups surely it would affect the relationship that you have or you'll have... hope soon you'll find the right person for you... keep smiling...:D
15 Aug 07
don't fadup.you will get right friend soon,it give you knowledge of boys but not all boys are wrong habbit,some of them are good with the girls.soonly you will find the good male who realy love and die for you.the person who realy love you they won't make or feel your unhappy at any cost.all the best.........
• United States
15 Aug 07
What I find works best is just pursuing some other goals and you'll find that true love falls right into your hands when you least expect it.
@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
14 Aug 07
hey first, you should stop being jealousy if you have been. love people the way they are, show your partner love and care, then trust and be faithful to your partner. this i am show will help you keep a relationship, dont hang on people and expect them to change. above all learn to forgive and forget.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
15 Aug 07
I too want to find the right person for me. However, I am not looking for love right now. I am working on myself. I know that I have a lot of issues that need to be worked out. The only way for me to attract healthy people is if I am healthy.
• Philippines
14 Aug 07
In my own opinion, searching for the "true love" begins loving yourself and accepting the things you cannot change. There's no perfect relationship in this world. It is a matter of accepting and loving the person we have chosen despite of his failures. True love is unconditional. But the success of any relationship depends on both parties. A constant communication, trust, respect and loving each other for what he/she is, is the real meaning of "true love".
@rhys_12 (43)
• Philippines
14 Aug 07
I believe that we don't have to look for the right person to be loved. It just comes into our life without realizing that the right person we've been looking was almost there waiting for us. Being into a relationship, there should always be the so called Trust - for each other, respect and open communication are just some of the needs for a good relationship. And never go to bed unsolved discussion. This time be wisely enough in choosing somebody to part of you life. It is always the two persons involve to make the relationship long and lasting. It is not only YOU to keep it but also your future partner. Just wait for it will surely come.
@FishXu (14)
• China
14 Aug 07
i have the same feeling as you.i have also expected true l ove for long,but it never comes.when i was in love and thought it was true love i had been looking for,something wrong always happened. now i am single and don't want to worry myself with that .maybe it will come suddenly someday.oh,i am very much young anyway. blessing you !!
• Pakistan
14 Aug 07
if you are searching for true love in todays wworld i am very sorry to say you are the biggest stupid of the century dear we asians cant find true love now a days how would you there is only one relation existing now and that is flirt and time pass
14 Aug 07
love and to be love are something that make people happy . sometmes we want to love but others will not accept it .this makes people depress indeed ,but we still have a loving---people heart ,one day they will feel and accept !!!!come on ,my friend !!
@sherleen (73)
• China
14 Aug 07
i wish you find the right man at the right time. good luck! you can get true love one day.