Do you visit cemetery?

I am not sure that the tradition of going to the grave is a good one, I think it is not so much that the person we loved is there, but their body's remains are, and for some it is a way of being close to someone who is gone. I do go to the cemetary, I don't find it the issue, but then my mom didn't have it as important as your mom. I do however try to go at certain times of year, her birthday, mother's day, that kind of thing. And yes sometimes I need to make that kind of connection I need to feel closer to her. My uncle puts flowers on graves at specific times of year because that is the way my family has always done it, but I don't think he has any emotional attachment to this. I am not so sure that the traditions of the whole burial process is a good one, maybe it would be better if people were cremated and their ashes spread on the wind, or put out somewhere that had meaning to them while they were alive. I mean the person my my was, has never been a collection of bones in a grave, I find that for me the connection is one I make with those who knew her, loved as I did, those who also remember her, this for me is more important of who she was than tending a grave.

No I do not visit the gravesites of any of my relatives. It was not part of our family traditions because my Mom raised me with the same view as you have about them 'not being there.' My Mom was cremated when she passed away a couple of years ago and part of her ashes are spread in our garden. I am still not sure what I am going to do with the rest. She wanted them to be spread near animals at her favorite zoo. I am not sure that is legal...so some of her ashes in our home in the urn we made for her. I feel closet to my Mom when I look at her many possessions we have of hers througout the house. They are constant reminders of her presence and the memories I have of our shared life experiences. Having said all that though I know many do receive great comfort from being close to their loved ones graves. Each person has to handle their loss in whatever way works for them. It is a very personal thing..with no right or wrong answers.

Yeahhh.I will visit my grandmotehr and grand father cemetery once a year!Because i still miss them much!

Well ever since my grandfather passed away a few years ago I visit his grave ever now and then with my grandmother who visits his grave a lot more then any of us do and thats pretty obvious. But im ashamed of myself that I dont go visit his gravetomb more often I mean its only a few min from where I of course if I had a car then I would be going a lot more often.

It's been 7 years since my grandmother who I was very close with passed away. I've probably been to her grave 4 times in that time. It's not that I don't want to go because it is a tradition in my family to go on mainly special occasions, but I have lived out of town going to college and started out on my own in those years so I really don't have the opportunity to go. But as I think about it, I think about her a lot and all the memories we shared and I feel closer to her that way than at the cemetary. I actually feel kind of awkward and really don't know if i should speak out loud or just sit and think at her grave. Does anyone else feel this way?

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