My niece is being abused and I don't know what to do!

United States
August 14, 2007 12:04pm CST
I just returned from a family reunion in Mississippi and I live in Georgia. My sister just started working for the post office about a month ago. The first day of the reunion she asked me to watch her four kids becuase she had to unexpectantly go to work and deliver the mail. She lives in a two bedroom trailer home in downtown Hattiesburg which is a terrible neighborhood, so I was reluctant to go over there in visit her kids, due to the fact my two small children were there with me two- am three yhear old and my four month old. The home was very dirty, there were dirty clothes all over the floor, flies everywhere, and a very dirty refrigerator. I spent a night to watch the kids early in the morning. When I awoke, I found that my sister left us with the front door open. I was mad at that. Also my 11 year old niece which is the eldest, quickly made breakfast for all of her smaller brothers, who are 6, 3, and 1. I asked her who usually keeps them when the mother has to go to work and she said she does by herself and sometimes the mother is gone from 5 in the morning until 7 at night delivering mail. T o make the story short as possible. My niece said that her brothers were making her life miserable, the smallest one had burns all over his body from curling irons and etc she told me. And she said she wanted to come back to georgia with me. When she told her mom she wanted to come back with me, her mom flipped, pulled her by her hair out of my car, called her a b word and told her she is nothing with out her. My niece was terrified. I asked her does this kind of abuse always go on and she said yes. I wanted to take her with me but my sister said if I left the premises with her daughter she would call the police. So we called the police to do everything legal. The police that showed up knew my sister, and even though me and my niece told him the story about how my sister called her names, pulled her hair, slapped her and threaten to kill her, he took her side and said my niece is a minor and needs to remain with the mother. I did not go there to take my sister's daughter away but I also want her to be treated good and not taken advantage of. I am back in Georgia now andI worrk every minute for my niece in her three brothers, what should I do? Should I forget about the whole thing and focus only on my two little children or what?
2 responses
• United States
14 Aug 07
The best thing to do would be to contact the division of family services. You can report abuse anonymously, where your sister would not know who did it. But, I know this takes time, it wouldn't hurt to just give them a clue that they need to go and check on the children. I wish you the best of luck with this, I hate hearing stories such as this. I also hope that the children will be safe until something can be done. Is there anyone else who could try to talk to your sister about what is going on in her life and in the childrens lives?
• United States
14 Aug 07
I really dont want to get my sister in trouble but I want the best fro my niece and nephews also. I know she was leaving them alone with the new boyfriend, but I doubt that she would do anything bad in the next couple of days. My niece told me she really would love to go in to foster care rather than to stay with her mom, so I know it has to be pretty serious. She also said she drinks whisky, her new boyfriend smokes week and argues alot. When I asked someone what the child protection services will do, they said they would have to have proof of the situation and I think my sister would be doing everything by the books fro a while but may go back to her ways when she feels she is in the clear again.
• United States
15 Aug 07
My sister will curse anyone out who tries to tell her what to do or give her advice. She would only listen to a person with authority. She already admitted that she needs counseling.
@mkirby624 (1598)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I live in Hattiesburg. You need to contact DHS and give them all of that information. You also need to find out what school she goes to (probably Grace Christian) and speak with the counselor there about her. If there is a counselor, and there should be, he/she could bring your niece in and talk to her, and the school can also contact DHS to reinforce it.
• United States
15 Aug 07
I need to know what the numbers are. I don't know what they would do because the youngest child has a lot of burn marks and scratches on him but you can tell they are old marks. I do now that the children where out of school today becuase she took them with her to meet her boyfriend. I don't know what to do.