Terrible 2's and 3's - a problem?

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I have only one child. She is now 9 years old. I went back to work when she was 2 months old but I can remember as if it was only yesterday, coming home and looking into those beautiful eyes. I felt like I would just squeeze her and lovingly hug her to me. To be honest people, the problems you guys are facing I never had them to that great degree. I had just some samll ones where her curiousity would get her in trouble. One call from me "dont touch it" and she makes a face and moves off to something else. Of course if she is too quiet I know i have to rush to see what she is up to. The cats in our home - 18 of them - would disappear when she goes to my mother's house. She held them by the tail and pull them in whatever direction she chose to go. I was always fearful that they would scratch her but they never did. she could not do anything wrong for her grandmother. She was just her baby. i gues now I have the problems because she does not want to read just watch tv. Books sends her to sleep. Movies she would watch all night if allowed. I guess what I missed at one phase was made up in another. Be firm with your child and let him/her knows that you mean it. For haven's sake parents dont be double standard. If you mean say it and do it if you dont they will know, no matter how young they are, and will exploit it. Children test parents to see if they are who they are to be - the one in charge. Dont forget it. I did it too to my mom so I expect my child to do it to me too. Be loving but firm, set up your boundary and let them know where you stand. Tantrums will be thrown and crying and all the works but let them know that you love them but what they are doing is wrong. They will learn to respect your authority, your love and you as the parent. My daughter at 2 and a half was attending basic school. Now this child has never thrown any tantrum and thrown herself on the floor and carry on before,can you imgaine my shock when this happenned? I gave her two slaps her bottom and told her dont you ever do it again. Trust me people never saw it again to this day. children adopt and adapt things from other children but I tell my daughter " tht is not allowed in here nor do I want to hear that you do it anywhere else!" and friends this is final. Stand your groudn dont let their little eyes filled with tears and tantrums break you down. stand your ground and dont let them have the upper hand. Be firm at the same time lettign them know that they are loved but the actions are wrong. Hope this helped! Good luck and God bless with your toddlers