Is it time to end the friendship?
By babyangie27
@babyangie27 (5176)
United States
August 14, 2007 1:42pm CST
Ok I am having a huge problem and I need some advice.
Here is some background,I have been friends with this person since I was 14(13 years) and my hubby has been friends with her hubby for 20 years.
Well about a year and a half ago I had gotten some cell phones. They asked me to see how much it would cost to put 2 phones on my account for them(I know big mistake)well I checked it out and got the phones. We lived next door to each other at the time and so i took the phones over and told them how much their bill would be,everything was fine. They moved to a bigger place in April of this year and since then have refused to pay their bill. The phones of course got turned off.
So I have talked to them both and at first they said they would pay whenever they got their checks,and they would give me the phones back because they "were tired of dealing with this"
So I talked to them again yesterday and when I brought up the bill they said they had to go and we could pick up the phones whenever we wanted. Now I am stuck paying the whole bill myself,so I can have my phones turned back on again.
Ok with all this said,what should I do? They should still pay me even if I have to pay the whole bill right?
We have all been friends a long time but this is not the first time this kind of thing has happened.
What should I do???
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6 responses
@nichole1983 (1187)
• Canada
6 Jan 08
You got duped. Since you signed for these contracts and phones you are held liable for them and not them. Yes if they were true and truly friends they would pay you for what they have accumulated. Only thing that you can do is to take them to small claims court to get or if anything get anything out of this. With them really not being binded to this contract they hold no liablitly for this so im thinking that you are SOL (S&*t out of luck) on this one... for being a good friend to these people you just got messed over. Let this be a lesson to you that you dont do these sorts of things to people anymore. You also mentioned that this wasnt the first time something like this happened. with that being said why did you do this again for them?
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
6 Jan 08
You are right about everything,and as far as why did I let it happen again? Well I have always beleived in giving people second chances,or 3rd,4th,whatever.
But as far as those two people go,never again. I learned too late,and now I know better. See I am a nice caring person and I thought do onto others,but hey I guess I learned that is not always true.
@nichole1983 (1187)
• Canada
6 Jan 08
Giving people a second chance comes within reason. With what they did to you before why would you do that again. You are just losing in the long run. I don't fully agree with giving people chances but in reason I will depending on what they did in the first place. If you keep doing being the person you are you are going to get walked all over.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
12 Nov 07
They paid it and that was the ned of that,thanks going to court was my next step until they finally paid it.
@TheCatzMeow1 (579)
• United States
19 Aug 07
I responded to your betrayal post. How awful that they're doing this to you! They sound like some of the biggest users there are. I can't believe someone who's been a friend for such a long time would treat you this way. It seems like they don't think their #&@& stinks. You could always take them to small claims court to try to get back the money they owe you. They need to be taught a lesson one way or another.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Yea it has taken me a long time to see things but now that it is all laid out in these discussions i think I need to get them out of my life for good.
I am giving them a notice to take them to court,I need to do what is right for me.
Thanks for all your words,they made me laugh,lol,and they made a great point.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
19 Aug 07
Its very obvious that they have been taking advantage of you for a long time, and you weren't able to see it! Its always a good idea not to get too "close" to a friend, because some people can't help but take advantage of the "Friendship."
THis person has shown her true self and you need to realise that shes not a true friend. My advise is... Do what you have to do with the phones, and forget about being friends with these people. Treat them as you would a neighbour, but don't trust them as you would a friend. They have shown you their true worth!
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Yes I should have known better,from the things she has done to me in the past. I have always believed in second chances,she has had so many,I can see know what she is all about. They no longer live next door to me so once they pay their part of the bill I will have no need to speak to them anymore.
It is so sad to see this though as our kids played together so well,but they refuse to come pick up my daughter(as I have no car) and they won't allow her to spend the night because of her medical issues. Oh well I am done with them,I don't deserve to be treated this way any longer.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
15 Aug 07
How sad to end such a long friendship. I don't think i'd end the friendship but i do think maybe it is time to put a little distance between you. If they are really good friends, they will make good on the money issue and appologize for your inconvenience. I hope they do....good friends are priceless.
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I know over the years they have done some really wrong things to me and my hubby but I have always forgiven them and moved on,I just am tired of trying to mend a friendship that doesn't seem to mean as much to them as it did to us.
Thanks
