how do you turn a someone you dont like off?

I've had this happen to me a few times before. The best thing to do is to ignore him. If you give him any kind of attention..whether positive or negative, it will only urge him to do more because he sees a response and like you say, he likes a challenge. So, the best thing to do is to ignore him. Don't engage him in any kind of conversation or contact. Don't give him a change to be alone with you. Surround yourself with friends. I know you think that you're being rude and mean but the truth is, HE is the one that is being rude and mean and trying to "bully" you into going out with him. Shame on him! He should respect your wishes and leave you alone.

Well, if you have a boyfriend he should be the one to "deal" with this persistent suitor of yours. If you don't have a boyfriend, it's time to get a fake one! If you have a really close guy friend, someone that the stalker doesn't know, ask him for a favor to pretend to be your boyfriend. Show the stalker and tell the stalker that you're already seeing someone. A decent guy would back off in such a situation. The down side of this is that the jealousy might bring out the real psycho in him and your problem could get worse. In that case you might have to move out of that neighborhood, change your phone number, and tell the stalker you're moving to a different country!

LOL - I don't really know what you should do...maybe you could tell him your not into guys anymore! Ha! That'd probably make matters worse knowing men LOL. Or bring a guy friend around to pretend he's your new boyfriend. Have you tried down right ignoring him?

I agree with the first poster; ignore him completely. If that doesn't work tell him point-blank to leave you alone. If that doesn't work let him know that if he doesn't leave you alone you will make a complaint of 'stalking' to the police. I hope something works for you. Good luck.

I don't like to say directly because I'm afraid to hurt his feelings So I try to make him understand for himself I ignore, but not on a rude way

oh dear.. sometimes.. u have to get straight to the point.. just tell him what you feel and make it straight to him..

Awwww, that's a rough one to deal with. It's hard to be nice in the face of someone who is basically harassing you despite you having made your wishes known. If you truly don't like him (even as a friend) then maybe the next time that you can tell him that you are seriously thinking of having charges brought up against him for being a stalker. (Or mention something to that effect to his roommate) I would add that 'I don't really want to do this, but you are giving me no choice here.' (If that doesn't stop him I'd be surprised.) Being nice is one thing, but having it fall upon deaf ears is another. It may sound drastic, but basically what he IS doing is stalking and harrassing. If it makes you uncomfortable, then you must do something to get the point across. I think most people would back off if they thought that maybe they might get into serious trouble over it. Notice I'm saying that you should mention this as a 'possibility' of action that you might do...but if that doesn't work, then you would need to follow through and actually do that and file a report. If he still does this after mentioning to him that you might report him, then you might have a more serious problem at hand with him, and I wouldn't think you should feel guilty over protecting yourself. Let your gut be your guide, and good luck with that!