Happy B-day Mommy, we miss you!

i am sure that last year was not the last year for you. I think this will go up and down all your life. my mom losta child 28 years ago and she still have days that she cries. When u love someone and they die, you will never really get over it,and u will always miss them but I think that u will be more able to remember the good things and that they are in a good place now - without any pain at all!

Gday 34Momma maybe its because youve grown more as a person and realising that while your mums physical presence isnt there shes always in your heart there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You have nothing to feel guilty for just remember shes always in your heart for you to talk to when you need :) Take care ozwombat-pete :)

I, too, lost my mother back in October of 2004. It does get tough on her birthday & on that day she passed away. Anyway, the only way that I see this being answered is to wait another year & see what happens then. Even a good friend or family member that you knew all your life would not be able to REALLY a definite, honest answer.

I think it really does make sense to me 34 momma.Because you did not break down and cry this year you shouldn't feel bad.YOu love your mother dearly and she knows that.I think your reason for not crying is you're getting on with your life now. She is in heaven a safe and happy place and you are keeping her in your heart but going on with your life.She will always be a part of you and have a place in your heart regardless.So dont feel bad.

I believe that it means that you are starting to heal. There is no need to feel guilty about that, it is a good thing. I loss my mother 27 years ago at the age of ten and I am still missing her. The healing process can take time. Let it flow. Don't fight it or question it. Just do it.

I understand what you're feeling...my dad passed away last Feb. 2005...and last month was his birthday...we went to the cemetery to visit him...I still do miss him a lot but I've noticed that the lost is not that painful anymore...I think it's true what they say that "Time heals everything" I think in your case, you're starting to heal...just keep it up and always remember that your mom is in God's hands now...she is happy and free from any pains of this world..^^...just like my dad...^^

Hi 34momma! I do know that feeling quite well. And each year it gets so much easier. I didnt believe it when someone said that to me but now I know what they are talking about. I dont know if it means your getting on with your life but I do know its alot easier to cope with these happy days. You take care now. Oh and yes it does make sense to me.LOL

I think that your upset is the same as it was, you've just learned how to deal with it, that's what time does, it teaches us how to cope with how trauma's & worries. Try not to feel bad, your mum loves you very much & is in a better place now & one day you'll be reunited again :)

I am sorry to hear it but this is the time which has this power to hel us. I believe in it so strogly and i have this believe that only time can heal us completel and nothing else lke time. So you will be ok and with time and ofcourse when you are with your kids and feting around with them, that is a world you can forget everything else for it. It is not anything you can feel bad, this is the way things goes here on the earth

I went through the same with my grandfather, and I was so worried that if I stopped being upset, he would think I didn't care. Then a friend reminded me of how much he would love to be still alive and would be so proud of me for being strong and living my life to the fulest, since he couldn't anymore.

Time is the great medicine to any pain and misery of people,your leading a happy life is the best wish to her in heaven.