Does age really matter? (age gaps)

In my view this question is too general to give a simple answer. So I will try to break it down this way...yes, age matters when two people claim to be in love and one is say..15...and the other is 25. Ten years during this phase of human development can make a vast difference in the outcome of the relationship. At 15 the brain hasn't even finished developing...so a person who 'thinks' they are in love have no real frame of reference. Lets get real here...at that age most teenagers are caught up in a hormone induced state that doesn't always create lucid decision making capabilites! (laugh). However, if you were to take those same two people when the 15 year old is 25...and the 25 year old is 35...well they could probably have gained enough emotional maturity to handle being in love and relating. In my case I married a man who is younger than I am...and the gap didn't make any difference. We have been together 17 years and we are partners in life..and business and it is all good. By the time we met we both had careers, had travelled, been married when we were much younger...and had a strong sense of individuality and independence. When couples are formed with life experience, self-confidence and a willingness to have separateness within their togetherness..things ususally start off and remain healthy. In my view you can only truly love another when you love yourself and know who you are and what you want. Without that boundaries can become an issue...as does power struggles, control and manipulation. Relationships are not for the faint of heart under the best of circustances..but it takes a grounded sense of self to weather the storms that inevitably come up. And they well...because that is a natural part of life and also how we grow.

Age shouldn't matter in two people are in love. But when there are other people involved such as family and friends that tell you differently it can become an issue for some. My husband is 8 1/2 years older than me and we've been together 15+ years. Sure we've had our rough patches in our relationship (who hasn't?), but we've stuck them out and have grown together.

Age is nothing but a number, if you are truly in love with someone, you two have a your lives together (or as together as they can be), and you are both legal, then it is all good.

I don't think age matters but the commitment to each other matters. I mean the reason why a person ended up with a relationship with another is because they wanted to commit to that relationship right? So it requires both their commitment to each other for the relationship to work. Even if you experience and encounter all types of emotions, happiness, sadness...with problems or not...if you are strong enough to hold on to that commitment, you will be surprise to see everything will work out just fine. And of course you need to add a lot of prayer for that commitment to hold on and strong enough to conquer all.

I think age doesn't matter if there is true love between each other.However , in my culture , a couple with a age gap will make other peoples feel uneasy, especially a young boy with a old lady.

hello, yes i do i agree of what you said that depend on some level. an older guy to a younger woman i think its more succesful relationship than the woman is older to a man. coz what i've seen more infidelity comes when the woman is older thatn the man. so for those woman out there and want a younger man you have to be careful. that's why age does matter in a relationship. even how understanding you are or lovable time will come that the man will find a new one.

i think that if you love somebody than shouldn't matter that gap between the two lovers :D

If it leads to get married, then age gap is important for me. I don't want to marry to a man who is older than me a lot. It is not likely that I like to go out with a man who is older than me 10 years old. Because we will have many different opinions and disagreements. My husband is older than me 4 years and I think it's suitable.

For me it depends for bothe parties but as of the moment it gives me a scary reaction when my ex husband abandoned me and our daughter. He run away with my cousin then late 2005 he filed an annulment as we agrred upon that next time he will betray me ........i just need an annulment and he did it. He was stating in his petition for annulment that...........i am older that he is when we got married. My other cousin said.........he is crazy nobody forced him to do so. After 24 years of marriage he just keep on whenging that i am older than he is when we get married. He was born 24th of February 1957 and i was born on 9th of december 1955. ifit matters to him then he did not marry me before. So that thing leave me now the scary feelings or the feelings of the doubt if someone younger than i am could still be trusted just in case he will ask me to marry him......someday. It depends on the "feelings" of both parties...........but for me i am still in doubt. Responsibilities and matured od having his decion or shall we say knows how to have his own decision making count most. If maybe that younger guy than i am is more responsible, can handle things with out his parents and sister or brothers decision...... who knows then? My answer Is there any possibility for both man and woman could meet even they are very far from each other?

The practical of "ONE LOVE" will solve any relationship. Not for true love, blind love, monkey love,.....or what ever et ceteras. If we are talking about the statistic for reasons in break-up, plenty of it. Because reasons is the human creations when there is no longer 1LUV. Bye for now. Me, Michael

for me age is not a big deal. no matter how far your age gap may be when love strikes your heart there's nothing you could do. love is always young at heart!!!

Age doesn't matter to me. Yes, you are right as long as they reached the maturity level and they are capable enough to face their responsibilities, age doesn't really matter. What matters most in a relationship is how you handle things like everyday adjustments. Well, we can not deny the fact that we should adjust our partners everyday because it is.... a lifetime adjusment.

The only time it would matter is if one of the people are under the legal age. Other than that I'm fine with it.