when love meets poverty,how do you choose,leave or not?
By xinben
@xinben (20)
China
5 responses
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
16 Aug 07
I think this depends greatly on the situation.
If the two of you are in love and plan to make a difference to your financial situation together to make life better, there is no reason to break it off.
As long as there is love there, and you have a roof over your head and food in your stomach, and you have some motivation to better things, you should stay together, because losing love is one of the worst and most painful things in life.
Malyck
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 07
I'm trying a bit pulling out the aura and we share half of the logical phase:
we need to balance everything. this is what we should do at this era.
because if we talk only poverty stuff, it's too narrow.
The thoughts are always contra-vice versing:
One side said,"I love you, even you don't have much money."
The other side roaring back,"Love YOU?!! How you feed me with?"
The first option is about emotional cliche, seems very nice and warm statement if somebody who is falling in love with you always saying this to you. But we NEED it.
The second option is about emotional plans, the future explanatory. You will need something (or much more plans, instead of love) to look after your family.
Study Case:
1. It's not a new things now, when we had somebody nearby us (we knew them from the relationship had begun since they mature lover couple without adequate earning, until marriage age and had a kid/family and good earning), then suddenly they are in front of lawyer's desk trying to arguing each perspective and facing a divorce gate.
2. Ever see two big rich families. A son and another family's daughter get married together, and not happened until 3 months, they had divorced.
Silly, they are rich, must be happily ever after. Why could it be happened?
Poverty and money is just one of the basic perspective we need for a family, it's important though. Love and Money is always getting along together. But what we need is to organize them into a balance life. Just like when you are ready to be loved and to love somebody. You need to share half part of yours to your partner, and so does your partner.
Balance is everything. Easy to say it out, but hard to apply it.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
16 Aug 07
I am not in love with his money, I am in love with him. He is not in love with my money, he is in love with me. We love eachother for eachother, not for what we have, or what we hope to some day earn. Let our circumstances change, and we'll still love eachother till the end of time.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
Hi xinben! I agree with you, situations like that can only be seen in movies. It will be very difficult when reality sets in. How can you feel the love in your heart when the stomach is crying out so loud in hunger? I just hope this will never happen to me because I could never be sure what will I do if I am in that kind of situation. I will just be hoping and praying that love endures all...which means I will stay and endure it all.(WOW!) Have a nice day and take are!
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
16 Aug 07
Hi Xinben
Even though I am living in the EU and here people usually marry and stay together because of love, no matter how poor or rich they are, I cannot imagine that in poor countries people marry but don't stay together when they get to live in misery, and with not enough money. It all depends on how real the love is, because with or without money the real love will endure everything :)