Should i go out with my best friend ex-boyfriend yes or no?
By binny29
@binny29 (1527)
India
11 responses
@1289786 (51)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I saw that if you're really into him/her then go for it. I mean, its hard to saw if your friendship is going to come crashing down. More than likely it won't. Going out with best friends always has its ups and downs. You two probably really know each other, and because of that you guys will probably get along great. Just sometimes it might get a little awkward =).
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
9 Aug 08
That would be a very big mistake-infact you stand to be seriously misunderstood as the cause of the broken relationship in the first place, and that will not help your reputations if you care about your name and image at all!
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Aug 07
This is a tough question. You have to see whether your best friend and her ex-boyfriend had really broken up. Perhaps you can ask your best friend about it. If she leaves him, she should have some reasons for it. If you like this boy and you think it's fine, then just go ahead.
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
20 Aug 07
I wouldn't personally...But if you really care for the ex bf of your best friend I would have a talk with your friend first to find out how she truly feels about it if she would mind you going out with her ex...
I know from being on the other side of the fence so to speak that with that happening it can ruin trust and friendships I had a childhood friend go out with my ex and we have a son together and she didn't talk to me at all but every chance she go she threw it in my face that she had him and I didn't..They have a son together since they were married for 7 years but she left him...
Now he is my husband and we have a new child together our daughter...It's funny how life works but if it were me I would talk to your friend first because friendships are so important and if you did it without talking to her may hurt the friendship or cause problems hugzzz and good luck
@ranitam22 (1146)
• United States
16 Aug 07
nnnnnnnnnnnnnoooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!
That is a sure way to break up a friendship. I don't care if it was a mutual breakup or no. Me and my friend have an unspoken rule of never doing that. I don't think I would want my friend's sloppy seconds no way. There are too many men out there to have to recycle one through the friend circle. I don't even know the situation, but I would say no way!!!
@relundad (2310)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Personally for me, if a person has been in a relationship with any of my family or friends I have no desire to be in a relationship beyond friendship. For me that is off limits. I would not entertain it. And would not be willing to risk the friendship with my best friend. Chances are since you and your best friend would share many things in common, for the same reasons that a relationship that did work out with them, you would find the same issues. It's just not worth it to me.
@zaichn (319)
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
In my opinion, it's not really good to look at to if I'm in your best friend's place. It's like seeing my ex-girlfriend going-out with my best friend. It happened to me by the way. It's just so awkward seeing them together.. He's my best friend, he is dating my ex-girlfriend.. if they want to have night outs together with friends.. then definitely I'm the best friend.. so I'm the first one that they'll invite.. When I see them on the dance floor, it's like imagining that I was the guy that danced with that sexy girl before.. Not that I get jealous of what they are doing.. But it just feels so awkward. Maybe I still have silly feelings for my ex-gf.. But I know we both have moved on. I guess I just feel that my best friend should have dated other girls rather than my ex if he really respected me..
I think what you should do is talk to your best friend about her feelings for her ex-boyfriend.. Or like reactions if she sees her ex date someone else (don't say that her ex- is going out with you directly). If she says that she has moved on with him and she's okay with that. Then that's a very good sign.. But I think you should tell your best friend about it before you start going out with her ex. It may cause you you're friendship.. Best of luck to you!
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 Aug 07
How important is your friendship? I would advise no on this. It is not a good situation to be in. It is very uncomfortable for your best friend to see you with ex-boyfriend and I am sure you would end up feeling uncomfortable as well. It can cause much jealousy and resentment between you and your friend and I don't think that is necessary.
@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
16 Aug 07
Hi. Personally, I think you know what the answer to this one is, especially if shes your best friend...
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 07
that's a no-no! you don't usually go out with your friend's ex. even if your friend says that he/she is ok with it, but you never know, deep down he/she might mind. you're dating his/her ex anyway, someone he/she used to go out with and have feelings for. that might hurt. better stay away from the ex and cherish your friendship instead. but oh well, love makes us do crazy things. think wisely, good luck! ;)