How often do you get a friend request...
By gr8life
@gr8life (6251)
Malaysia
August 17, 2007 12:30am CST
and what will you do with it? Do you delete it right there or you will take some time to check the person's profile and interests and decide later whether to accept or to deny the request? Or you just accept any friend requests without checking on their profiles? How many friends you have right now here and what do you do with them? I understand that not all of our friends here are active. After certain time, do you finally decide to delete inactive friends and only keep those who are active? What happen when you don't hear, not even once from your active friends here but in fact they are contributing a bunch of discussions daily? Do you ignore them too or you just pretend you don't care that they never respond to you?
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18 responses
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
if i know the person like my friends i accept it right away., but if i dont know them i will look at thier profile first then accept... i didnt delete any friends list that are not so active...
and for those friends that are still active but i didnt hear anything from them... i still give a responce to thier discussions although sometimes i cant coz i m not on the net all the time...
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
17 Aug 07
I usually get a few friend's request everyday and I usually check the person's profile to see if there are discussions which would interest me before deciding if I am going to accept the request or not. I haven't browsed through how many friends I have right now but I notice that some of the previous regular friends here are not here anymore. I would really love to keep only active friends on my list because I really want to get to know people and I would be happy if any of my friends would leave me a private message before they completely disappear from mylot, afterall we have been talking back and forth for awhile. I haven't delete any friends so far, but it wouldn't be a bad idea *laughs*.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 07
Hello wondericequeen,
Seems that you are more popular than me! Ha Ha Ha! I only receive friend request once a while; not every single day. I always approve my friend request and yes, I don't delete any of inactive friends that I have here. I just hope that those inactive friends will appear once a while and respond to me. At least I know that they are still here!
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
18 Aug 07
Right. I hope some of my "older" friends here would re-appear somehow because I kind of miss the conversations with them. We spend so much time here and it's hard to say that we are not emotionally involved with each other. We are humans after all *laughs*.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
20 Aug 07
Hello wondericequeen,
Emotionally involved? You make me re-think of the statement! Ha Ha Ha! I understand what it means and well, you don't have to reply "Don't get me wrong!" Ha Ha Ha! I am just kidding. There is no life without laughter huh!
For the time being, I still 'see' people that I knew when I first joined My Lot and the loyal ones still here, responding to most of my discussions (that s including my dearest friend ...you!) Unfortunately, out of 70 friends that I have here, I do have few inactive friends that I never heard of before.... So lets see why they are so quiet sitting there, showing their face to me, smiling but never responding!
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
24 Aug 07
I get two to three friends request everyday. I have been accepting them. They do not communicate in any manner - through discussions or through responses or through messages. Most of the people think becoming friends means their topics are responded to. I keep deleting such friends once a month. IT should be two way traffic.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 07
Hello ssh123,
I fully agree with you. I seldom send friend request and whenever I receive one, I will accept it without checking the profile. They are free to do what they love to do, to respond or not respond. As for me, I love to try hard to respond to my friends here unless I really don't have anything to say. I hope whatever makes me happy here will make my friends happy too!
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@vhansen (2029)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I don't get alot of friend requests but when I do get one I except it.I will check the persons profile to see who decided I was worthy enough to be thier friend.I don't ever delete anyone,active or not.I don't dump friends in real life for not being around much and I don't here either.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 07
Hello vhansen,
I don't dump my offline friends too and never deny any friend requests here *smiles* Anybody can be my friend and they are most welcomed... In fact just now, I checked my friend list and right now, I have 78 friends here. For most of us here, that is a small number but for me I am happy with it and I hope to get more and more friends and hope that they are all active here *smiles*
@noyida (795)
• Singapore
4 Sep 07
I used to get about 5 a day when I just started. Occassionally the number drops. Now I rarely get a friend request..its like 1 every week. Nay, I'm not concerned about the friend request cause I knew I had found some good friends here like Abbey19 (infact, I met up with her recently in GoldCoast). Then I got you as one of my great friend in myLOT and another one Syain1972 (whom is not so active of late due to her morning sickness). My friend who introduce me to myLOT is not as active as before cause she is too engrossed in finding financial freedom through internet... Now my concern is and hope is to meet some of myfrens from myLOT especially squaretile and syain1972 as we are from the same country. The next time I visit Kuala Lumpur, I would love to meet up with you too. How about that?
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 07
Hello noyida,
Sure, no problem. The next time you come here to visit, just let me know! You are lucky that you still get friend request once a week. I seldom get one nowadays. I seldom respond to others except to my friends here. So, most member don't even know that I am exist! *laughs*
Glad to hear that you met up with your My Lot friend while holidaying. It must be great, huh?
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
mostly everyday or whenever i make a new discussions people would just add me up coz of my discussions :) and i really appreciate them for adding me up and having me on their friends list :)
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 07
Hello ifinallyfoundmybaby,
That's great and glad that you get to know more friends here. I do feel good whenever I get a new friend request and will not wait any longer to approve it *smiles*
You know what? Normally I respond to others direct from my e-mail and once done, I will delete the e-mail. But I still keep your 'scary joke' discussion in another folder as I really like to read it over and over. Well, it was scary and yet, funny *laughs*
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
17 Aug 07
The first thing I will check is if they have responded to one of my discussions lately, if not I will take the time to see what kind of discussions they make - if their topics could be in my interest. If not then I will deny. I take alot of time responding to the section "discussions my friends started" so I do not need people taking up space there =)
I have alot of friends now, however it is time for some deletion since some of them has left mylot!
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 07
Hello Marie2473,
Thank you for your response. I never spend too much time on checking the profiles. I always approve my friend request. Only later I will check what kind of discussion they started and will give them more time to see how active they are... I won't delete them as I have no problem to keep track of my less than 100 friends. But, later if the list gets longer, I might need to do like you too...
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
17 Aug 07
I do get friend's request most of the time when I response to discussions outside the email notifications I received. I would just accept the request as I do not reject any requests. It is not nice to reject anyone who comes knocking at your door, right? As to whether they are actively responding to my discussions or not, I am concerned but not too bothered. I just leave them there. Having one friend is better than having an enemy :P
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Hi gr8life. I get requests on a daily basis. I do check out the profiles, and have only turned down two that I can recall. I have deleted a few for personal reasons. I don't like to delete anyone, but there are some who I have not heard from or seen any posts from in quite some time, so I probably will go through them and delete the ones I think won't be back. If I had friends that stopped responding to my discussions and I saw they were still active, I would have to assume that they probably dropped me as a friend. It would hurt, but that's life. I currently have over 200 friends. Whenever I get a request from a newbie I will accept them because I know how it felt when I first came to myLot. Everyone wants to be accepted.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
22 Aug 07
Hello worldwise1,
Sorry for my late reply. I agree with you. Everyone wants to be accepted here and none wants to be denied as a friend. I do the same too. I accept all the friend requests without checking their profiles. I don't see it as a harmful thing to do. But, like you said..it hurts sometimes... when you don't hear from them. Whether it is online or offline, it is still life, isn't it? Life must goes on then...
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
18 Aug 07
when i'm a newbie on mylot, i can receive a friend request everyday, and sometimes, i receive over 5 friend requests everyday, but now i receive a freind request every 3 days. They are often newbies. Frankly, i don't need many freinds here, because most of them don't give me any response, and i often respond my friends' discussions.
I don't view my friends' profile at all. I pay more attention to their discussions.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
22 Aug 07
Hello wonderful,
I don't check their profiles too before I accept them as my friends. I don't really think it is necessary to do so. Anybody can be my friend and I understand the feeling of being rejected. I always respond to my friends' discussions first before I move on to other discussions. I seldom get a new friend request nowadays because of this.
@helloravinder (433)
• India
21 Aug 07
In the beginning i used to get 2-3 requests in a week but now a days i'm getting 1-2 requests in a month. I think it is because in the beginning i used to write a lot here in mylot but now a days i'm not posting too much. It's because now a days i'm too busy in my work.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 07
Hello helloravinder,
Yes, I understand your situation. Most of us have life outside My Lot that we need to concentrate on too *smiles* I am glad that I am still being able to hear from you, at least... I also receive less friend request nowadays compare to the last time when I just started here. One of the reason is because I used to respond to my circle of friends here instead of any other members who are not in my list. Well, they don't really 'see' me here, I guess *smiles*
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
22 Aug 07
Hello hulaiwei,
Welcome to My Lot and I hope as a newbie here, you will enjoy yourself. I always accept friend request and never deny any. For the time being, I have not that many... around 70 friends here and I just love to have more friends in a near future!
@evanpoe (122)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Only been on here for like 3 days now, but I've averaged about one request per day. If I see a request I'll just add them. I figure if they bothered to request me then it's flattering so why not? If they turn into a nuicence later on I can just delete them I guess. I'm here to meet people and share myself with others too so I'm not going to judge someone solely on their profile.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 07
Hello 2babita,
Glad to hear from you again. Very seldom for me to send a friend request but whenever I received one, I will definitely accept it. I don't check the profile either..for me, every one here can be my friend and I love the fact that I have many friends here *smiles*
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I always check out the profiles of my friends requests before deciding. Only a couple of times i have denied because the person had not replied to any topics I had and visa versa. Eventually I will go thru and delete the very inactive. Some of my friends don't respond to my discussions but thats ok. I see them on various topics and I value their views...no i would not delete them for not responding to mine. sometimes there is just nothing to add.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 07
Hello sid556,
That is the right thing to do. For me, I just accept whoever send me a friend request. It is very rare for me to check their profiles *smiles* I don't delete my inactive friends too as I don't think I need to do that for the time being. My friends here are less than 100 and so, I don't have a difficulty to keep track of them *smiles*
@trutallica (164)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I take a gander at the profile - if it seems like a spam profile of sorts, then they get denied.
If any indication shows that I'm about to be re-directed to another site - I hit the X button quick and hit deny.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 07
Hello trutallica,
OK, I understand that. But I think most of us are OK people here. You won't get spam too much. As I never check the profile before approving a friend request, I will just give them more time and see what kind of discussion they will start. If it is more to a discussion that I don't prefer, I just ignore it. But I won't delete them.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 07
Hello drmusic,
Seem like you are a newbie here. Welcome to My Lot and I do like your name! You love music very much? Well, it is easy if you don't have too many friends but just wait for another few weeks or months, and you will see how many friends you might have here *smiles* As for me, I seldom send a friend request but I always approve it. I don't even check the profiles. I feel good to have more and more friends here. It will make me feel wonderful and just great!