Let's say you're offered say $25 dollars for each day you don't touch your mate

I think your topics are great and helpful too.

Thanks Malyck, I love finding out how people think - you know I'm like this in real life. One friend who is an actor and screenwriter (no - one famous) told me I'm good practice for the Jay Leno show!

=] I'm like this a lot more in real life that I seem to be able to be on this website. I only joined myLot two days ago, but I feel like I can't come up with any good discussions that will not only attract peoples' attention, but also hold their interest. This is a really great topic, getting some insight into how people view their relationships, and their needs etc. Jay Leno here you come! =P Mal.

Yes but how long could you go?

Well, that's where it gets really tricky. I could say we'd last a week or two, but considering we are really close, I can't truthfully say we'd last that long. In the end, it would probably be only a day or two, if that. After all, there are more important things in life than money!

What if you weren't with her - like she was at her mom's?

LOL no doubt! I wonder how many ppl would do it or rather try to solely for the cash ya know...AND how many marriages would end up in divorce of the couples who did participate....I've got an advantage since I'm first off not an affectionate person in the slightest..I'm the opposite of "touchy feely" and cant stand it really LOL AND my husband and I have an unusual marriage to begin with so it wouldnt be a difficult task at all LOL

You likely show affection in non physical ways. I think if it were just a week or two eeryone would survive!

No but it would be an interesting social experiment!

Even if you go through only say, three days without affection...the same amount that one of you might go away to visit relatives...and you'd have the rest of your lives to be together? Other couples do it. In fact, my husband's job requires him to go on Tdy's - business trips - I used to go with him but can't now with a baby. He's away for a month or so at a time. Its compulsary for work. Soldiers go away for war. My husband's job requires him to be away at night and sleep during the day so we rarely see eachother. Its the sacrifice we make to provide for the family. I think I would sacrifice three days or even a week if it meant being able to put money away for my baby's future. Thanks for participating - have fun!!!

I'm not sure why you thought that this was intended for females. Guess I would go a few days without any affection. Even hugs. Sometimes when you have a family you make sacrifices. Two days without touching is litte compared to working long hours. My husband works nights so I rarely see him during the week - again its a sacrifice we make for the families future. We go to school so we can change our careers and see more of each other. Two or three days with no affection is nothing if you think it will help pay off bills, and buy needed things - and that after those few days you have a lifetime of hugs, kisses and hand holding.

And I say this and adore affection - I'm super affectionate person. But for my kid - my family - a few days - a week - even a month - out of a life time of touches? Absolutely - I think if offered this - I'd be selfish to turn it down.

oh btw is that your baby - sooooo cute! Worth any sacrifice don't you think? I love that you gave such a thoughtful answer - thanks so much!

Definitely. But what if say during the alloted time, one of you went to visit family - you couldn't touch anyway...how long could you be away?

How long could you be away? I guess you have no children - for my child - anything. Already, my husband works nights and sleeps days. So I don't see him. And I maybe taking a job on a weekend day. If I could get money for not touching him to pay bills or for my baby's future I would - especially if a few days a week of not touching - which happens anyway - we could have the rest of the week! For me, I'd sacrifice anything for my family. ITs only a few days or a week. Especially now as my 73 year old mom has three growths on her intenstines - lymphoma - its going to be expensive and its mostly my brother and sister who will help. I'd love to be able to visit - often - in fact right now I'd like to so she could meet her grandson. So you better believe I would take up this offer if offered to me. Have lotsov fun mylotting....Yators

Thanks for replying, well there is no second thought,and what you are talking of is a different situation all together as we go to meet family, out of our own choice and time, and we stay there with outhers for as long as we like, there are no offers and conditions therer. An i would return as soon as my meeting them is over, that is a compulsary meeting and being with the ones we love, so both the situations are different.

Yeah, 25 is pretty low - but it does add up! 100 would be better certainly!

You could still live for her - after a few days you could be affectionate. In the meantime you can practice other ways of affection - love notes on the mirror, her favourite dish in bed, and you can flirt outrageously for those few days so that when you finally break it will be lots of fun - and you could go on a relaxing vacation afterwards and touch and touch all you want!

Bother? Why bother to ask anything here - because I want to know what you think Suspensful and everyone else here - even if its not what I do. See I would, I have a kid, and when you do, its all about them, and you make sacrifices. I would go a week without hugs, kisses handholding - though I adore and live for these things. I would practice affection in other ways, love notes, making favourite foods, being sweet - and flirting outrageously. For me this would be a way to heighten intimacy. Flirt - but don't touch. Get really really close - but don't touch. Then, just when its getting too much to bear - it will be as sweet as the very first time. :) And well worth it. My husband works nights and we don't see each other during the week, let alone touch. Its a sacrifice we make while we go thru our schooling to change our careers to more flexible ones (he's in aviation) so that we can be together more and have the life we want. Just as soldiers go off to war for months and can't touch their mates, and may never be able to again. I would surely not touch him for a week or even a month to get us that much closer to paying off bills, buying diapers, putting money away to live out of the city (dangerous here in ABQ) and save for baby's college. We have the rest of our lives to touch! To hug and kiss and cuddle. My baby and our family's future is totally important enough for me to make that sacrifice. Thanks for participating - your answer shows clearly that you love your mate very much - yay!

I think that's great. Touch is a great form of commuication and connection. Without we're lost I think. We don't function quite the same.

Oh not - not avoid her - just not touch her for a few days - as long as you can hold out. It could be sexy - flirt outrageously - don't touch - get close - run your hands over certain parts - but don't touch....and then in a few days - not only do you have money to go on an exotic vacation - it may just be like the first time! And you could decide to pay bills. Besides you have the rest of your lives to hug, cuddle, kiss and hold hands....and learn affection in other ways - if you don't already practice it - leave love notes on the bathroom mirror or in her lunch, bake her some cookies and the like!Hey why is it you used to tell her. BTW - great handle lastangelboy.

Aww. Yes, were it a real opportunity!

Its the same here too, and on the weekends, he keeps to the same schedule, but at least I get to see him in the evenings, but we are like an old married couple and basically do our own things, chatting occasionally on what we're reading...So we could likely do it for a bit.