Does your spouse become annoyed with you for relatively minor mistakes? or...

That's why it is important to find someone of your own nature to marry. If you are a sanguine, find a sanguine, if you are phlegmatic, marry a phlegmatic. Then there won't be such minor differences. This is where even love marriages fail. One should take time to understand each other's nature before living together and also should be ready to compromise if a misunderstanding happens. Listening to heart always does'nt make any sense, we need to think from brain too. I don't have a spouse yet. May be i'll come up with another much better input after i get one:p

My husband really doesn't get too upset about those things. When we were younger, he did for certain things, but for the most part, I really never encountered that. I am usually the one who gets upset over leaving the stove on or the coffee pot on, but not really mad I can't say.

Yes for me its an issue. I hate telling my hubby to turn the stove off. I dont want to sound like a nag. But if I dont he will sometimes leave it on. And yes its a big deal because Im afraid of fire.

It was an issue for me when I was married, my husband was a control freak, I of course didn't clue into that for years, I just believed him when he said I was lazy, stupid and worthless. and that was why he had to be like he was. But now If I make a mistake or forget something, so what I did it I am sorry and it is no big deal , I walked around on tippy toes for to many years waiting for the hammer to fall to allow it to happen any more.

I don't know how long that you've been married Miami,But I think everyone has got a few pet peeves(Hot Buttons)about the way certain things are done. I don't know if it all stems from the way "Mommie" always did it this way or that..or if it's a phobia of sorts. If you've been married for any length of time ,you should know the partners hot buttons after a while and try to avoid pushing them.

hi! me and my husband dont get annoyed easily on minor things like that. we do have misunderstanding sometimes, but we dont give much time to minor mistakes. maybe only for a moment.

It can be an issue for me but it is never a minor issue. Mostly I was telling my friend at lunch the other day that if I were to go back to work, not only would I still have to take care of the kids 100% of the time but that I would still have to make sure that laundry is done, and cleaning is done. I would not get any help on that level. So last night after I had cleaned the floors in our bedroom and working on the girls room now today, well lastnight. My hubby is in bed, and I made a comment about how he is king of the house and he got upset by that. I thought, how is that a bad comment. He said he felt he does more than his fair share of stuff around here and I did not respond. He said "You must have an opinion of this that I do not do this at all" I said "Honestly I do not want to talk about it" He was in a mood and I know that ultimately it would end up in a fight...So we dropped it. It can be tough when you are trying to help contribute in many ways but all in all, the sad truth is that there is only so much you can do and you have to deal with the little things, Sometimes I deal with the large things to until I know it is a better time to discuss them. It was not a good time to discuss my opinions of what he considers doing his part. So I did not bother.

My partner does sometimes get annoyed with me for not doing certain things, usually they are things he could just as well do himself or it's the one thing I haven't had chance to do or something. As for me, I get annoyed with him for little things but not individually, it probably seems like I nag him but he has so many bad habits! If he constantly does something or doesn't do something then I'll get annoyed with him. Not for not doing it but because it means he's ignored me and because he still never does whatever it is. I mean, even simple things like opening the bedroom curtains in the morning. We agreed that the last one up does that and makes the bed. As he's almost always the last ine up, it never gets done. I think it seems bad that I get annoyed with him for a particular thing but I'm not annoyed with the one thing, it's usually that he's done a lot of little things and I end up being annoyed with him and he seems to think it's trivial because of the particular thing which was the last straw, so to speak.

It is for me; I get irritated really easily. I am trying to work on this because I need to be a bit more flexible, and each thing really isn't that big of a deal. Of course, some things are just really annoying.

Me and hubby worked together on things so we didnt have that problem we would just say did you forget and then correct it soon ,

I must say my wife is the best. She puts up with so much and keeps her cool. Every once in a while she will explode but not without good cause. It usually takes months of our son and myself screwing up before she blows. Me on the other hand, well I get annoyed when the same thing is screwed up and the only response is 'sorry'. I can accept sorry for the first couple of times but after that it is just too much and I get annoyed.

To be honest - no - never. My man and I have been together for over 20 years now, and we just don't argue or pick fights with each other, or become annoyed with each other over little things. It's just not our way! We're both very laid-back, easy-going sort of people - and we both believe that life's too short for stressing out on silly little arguments and stuff. I couldn't stand living with someone who picked fights over daft, little things - I would have walked out within a few months (LOL!), and he feels the same, so we usually just laugh at stuff, and don't let things get us down.

It use to be an issue for me but not anymore. I have given up trying to remind him to do the little things like some of what you mentioned as it only creates more tension between us. I would rather deal with it myself and just treat it like that is just him, being lazy and forgetful. He doesn't see the little things as being priority over what he has to deal with in our lives, bills etc and his job, so its all good. I have learned to accept it the way it is, and I tell ya life is so much better and I don't worry about the little things now.

Hi, it all depends from person to person i feel, and our moods. If we are in a good mood, then whatever our spouse may do or not do etc, its all over looked and if we are in a foul mood, then even the smallest of errors are enlarged and are a point of making an issue. It is natural to become annoyed at times, but it also depends on what the thing was, if its something that my spouse has no knowledge about, and was doing to help me out, i cannot afford to get angry coz its not his fault. We should not expect them to work and be like us, we are different from them, we are two different people with two different natures, likes dislikes, feelings and emotions.

Sometimes, but I think it's a stress issue, wanting to at least be in control of the tiny things in life when the large ones seem to be after you.Plus she knows I'm not going anywhere, ever,lol...so she knows I know what's going on in her.But I think you're right about the slightly different priorities too, and sometimes they just don't gel, but it's all good if you keep it in perspective.

Ever since I got the shingles, my husband no longer gets angry for minor errors. Before that, he was always complaining about this not done and that not done. Then again, I started to answer back, which does work wonders.

I'm always reminding hubby when he forgets things but its ok b/c he is always reminding me too. He'll forget to put his popcorn bowl in the sink and I'll forget to turn the oven off lol. It's all give and take here. AT PEACE WITHIN

It's not really an issue around here. My hubby is very laid back and doesn't sweat the small stuff. If I forget or didn't have time to do something he'll either do it or ask me if I'm going to do it. If I say that I'm not going to have the time he'll just do it himself. The only time I get on him is if he does something that will cost us money, like leaving lights on in the basement and I don't catch it for a week, or leaving the hot water running in the sink when he's off doing something else in the kitchen. Neither of us stress to much about the little things that don't really matter.

Hi Mia! The only thing that annoys my husband was when I make him wait even for just 5 minutes. And he never lets me get off the hook by keeping silent about it. He'll complain about it and I end up, sitting there, having to endure his "lectures" on being always ready on time. Sometimes I just let him talk but if he makes the mistake of starting his lectures and I'm really in a very bad mood, it's him who ends up being silent. I don't nag him but my few words usually hits the mark.

Not mistakes, but my ex would just get on me about my vegetarianism all the time. Because I wouldn't ever make him anything with meat in it when he'd come over so he'd get all on me about it. If you choose to eat with me, you choose to eat what I make, then you get what I give you.