Relatives or Friends - Given a choice with whom do you prefer to spend your time

as my situation is right now, friends, because even if i wanted to spend time with relatives they would say please not again, no more love please. strange are the ways of the world, those whome you love the most dont value it. kai bolnar bapu, love, apple.

I would choose family. I just really love my family. I adore spending time with my grandpa, I love being with my mom, and my dad always makes me laugh. Even my sister is special, and my brother-in-law is a true blessing. So even though I love my friends, I would have to say I'd prefer to spend my time with family.

At risk of repeating responses, even I would vote for friends over relatives. Relatives have a typical way of back-biting and anything and everything you confide in them will eventually circulate among the entire clan. There is just no keeping a secret with relatives. Also not all relatives are helpful. I mean I have seen relatives who are jealous of someone successful in the family and become very happy when something bad happens to that person. They also spread a lot of useless gossip. But friends (only very close ones) I have seen are really helpful, sympathetic, selfless (within human limits) and they don’t go about spreading gossip about you. Your secret is safe within your friend circle. You can also say whatever you want to your friends without the fear of offending or insulting anyone. There is always the chance of a ‘make-up’ after an altercation. But with relatives you always have to be very careful how and what you say, otherwise your simple comments tend to be blown out of proportion and you are looked upon as impertinent within the family circle. So if I have to unwind, its always with friends.

The only living relative I have is my son.So this question for me is a no brainer.I would rather spend more time with my one and only relative.He is 21 and we get along more like friends.He knows everything about me and I know everything about him.We can depend on eachother for anything.As his fathers side of the family doesn't want anything to do with him.Friends come and go.He will be with me forever.Whether he like it or not.LOl

Well,I will prefer friends.Bcoz with them I can share my words,it is totally different feelings.I dont have to bother for any movement.Its totally free from mind.

I have a couson who is of my age. So I prefer relatives more than friends because my friends are so much busy in their practical lives now that they don't have much time for others.

There is that school of thought that your friends are the family you choose. In that sense, it all kind of turns into the same thing. I tend to get along with my family pretty well, so it is not a chore to spend time with them. I also enjoy my friends a great deal. For me it is all good, I guess. If I did have a more difficult relationship with my relatives I would certainly gravitate toward my friends instead. After all, a friend is with you completely by choice (on both ends) and so if it was someone you were not comfortable with you would not still be with them, right?

I always prefer my raltives when compared to friends, but for me my cousins are more closer to me than my friends well it differs from person to person right...anyways thank you so much for the discussion, thanks and have a nice day take care Keep smiling:)) Thanks, Vani.

I guess it depends on the occasion. I do not have a problem with my relatives except those I less know. hehehe. With that I prefer to be with my friends. If my relatives would sponsor me to go somewhere out of the country, well, I could be with them. I go where I think am benefited more. lol

I don't really have any friends so, actually, my friend is my dad. I can tell him anything and he will listen and not judge me. If I ask for advice he will give it but won't offer if I just want to 'vent'...He's a good man.

My friends will stand by me when my relatives abandon me. Friends are better than relatives in my life. I have friends that will always give me unconditional love and relatives that are mean and vicious.

it depends, its not always we our relatives have a get together, so i miss their company, i miss my cousins., with my friends lately we havnt been seeing each other, we've been busy with our daily lives and current relationships so, given the time, i would love to have both for them all.

I prefer to stay with my true friends, they uplift my spirit and they make may day complete. I don't have close cousin nor close uncle or aunt.

Unfortunately i don't have any friends, only aquaintances, because i have been moving around my whole life. And i am not close to many relatives. I am close to my sister but not close enough to tell her everything.

I have one cousin that I like to spend time with. Unfortunately she lives a long way from me, so I only get to see a couple of timnes each year. Other than her, I would prefer ro spend time with my friends. I have two very close friends that I have had for over 25 years.

My family is very close. I am an only child however, I was raised with my cousin. For a while my two cousins lived with my mom and me. Then my one cousin lived with her grandmother which is my aunt. The other cousin lived with my grandmother, which was his great grandmother. We were as close as brother and sisters could be. My cousin Nancy and I are extremely close still. We talk to each other every other day to make sure everything is ok. I could not picture not being able to talk to her. I have a friends but not as close to me as my cousin is. Now my daughter has chosen to be closer to her friends than her family. This is hard for me to understand but I let her go her way as long as she is safe. I can not picture being without my family in some way. I confide in my mother as well as my cousin.

I would prefer to spend my times with family. Friends are of course important too. But friends are usually will be more willing to be around in time of enjoyment and happiness. Through experienced, I found that the moments any family was very sick and being hospitalised, everyday, family members will make their way to visit. Rarely one or two friends will pop up to give some encouragement. But some friend can be like a family. Then we will regard this friend as family or relative. This kind of friend will make an effort to visit you or your sick family everyday. Emotionally, I'm closed to a friend who I'm now regarded her as my sister.

When I was growing up I preferred to spend my time with my friends. But as I've gotten older I would rather spend my time with family. I don't get to do it that often though as we all live pretty much apart. As it is I haven't seen one of my dearest cousins in over 8 years! I tend to keep problems to myself rather than tell family or friends. I'm sure they have enough to deal with without having to deal with mine. I like to keep my private life, private and if I need to confide in someone I will do it online instead of in real life (AKA offline life).

I will go with the friends to spend my time, when I am given an option. Unfortunately most of the relative for most of the people in the world, will not be of the same frequency. But most of the friends will be in the same frequency, which will be easier for us to spend some quality and fun time with the friends. Also relative are more troublesome than the friends, in my personal opinion.

I think I would prefer my friends! They know me batter than my family ever will. I think we pick our friends to enhance our lives and family is what we get. while I am close to my family, my friends and I have shared more experiences over the years.