acceptance

I think the wife should divorce her husband and move on with her life. The husband has no more respect to her, does not even give consideration to her as the mother of his children. Nobody deserves to be treated like trash...if the husband wants to marry someone else..why did he marry his wife in the first place??? For the wife, why did you marry the guy if he does not love you???is it because you got pregnant???regardless of reasons...I think its time for you to leave that person, start a new life...focus on the children...be happy, you deserve it after being treated like trash for 7 years.

Has the marriage always been that way? Was there a part at the beginning where it was good? This is a very sad situation for everyone. Could the man go to the woman he really wanted? If not then the feeling he has will never go away. But that also does not give him the right to be cruel to the woman who loved him enough to bear his children! I have been married for 43 years, and we have had times in our lives when we thought we wanted something different. Luckily we never felt that way at the same time! I believe that the man and the woman should try to talk honestly about what they want and need, what memories their children will be left with, and even about the dreams they each have for the future, because it sounds like they don't know each other very well. If they decide to separate after that, so be it. But in so many cases, understanding brings peace.

Why would he marry here if he wanted to marry someone else. I can't speak for everyone but I don't want anyone who doesn't want me in return. I don't think I could have married as long as I have with out love.

I'd say the wife needs to set him free to go find whatever it is he wants and take her kids and move on. AT PEACE WITHIN

I would say that the wife in question should either kick his dumb @ss out, or pack up herself and the kids and move. If he doesn't want to be with them then it's time to find a life without him.

Hi, thats a sad situation to be in, and its not nice at all to have to dealw ith such a person. I would like to find out as to why the girl lived on for so many years with such a person,and have kids with him too? Maybe waiting for him to change, i also know of such a kind of a wife, who was mistreated and not loved, yet kept living with such a person, reason i felt was coz she waited for him to change, or was not financially independant to move out, or kept in such a marriage for the kids sake.As i see no love between the husband and wife, and just living under the same roof, makes no sense at all. If they do manage to have serious talks and she can confront him to ask why he treats her like this..that would be ideal, but in such circumstances even the communication doesnt take place well. And like you say he other people to share his life with, and if that is his priority,i wonder why should she stay in such amarriage? Because of the kids, or shes not financially independant, or just got so used to him being like this that it doesnt mater to her any longer,whatever the reason, she must move out i feel, if nothing else works. First do try out, if somehow she can get him back, and talk out that whats gone, the past, is over, what is here is the present etc, talks at times do help too.

I wonder wy the wife fell in love with the guy in the first place. After that she should dump him. it is no use living with someone who does not really want to live with you. She deserves better then that someone who is treating her like that, also for the children