would you still hold your friendship though you are hurt..
By leia2007
@leia2007 (6)
Philippines
August 18, 2007 10:03am CST
we've been friends since college, our relationship is as close as brothers and sisters, he knew for once that i have special feeling about him, but i said that its just an attraction, and there is nothing to worry about bcoz its nothing. BUT IT'S NOT TRUE, coz until now the feeling is still here in my heart. and i can not tell to him my the true feeling because she had a gf now. i was hurt everytime he confide me about his problem with his GF and he treat me as his bestfriend. i want to keep distant myself to him so i will not get hurt, but he always call & texted me. what should i do? do i still continue to pretend that im not hurt and act as nothing happens?
2 responses
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
18 Aug 07
It is really a problem.. a big problem and a very difficult situation to be in. it's better since he knows that you have special feelings for him before.. but the problem is, he doesn't know that you still have feelings for him until now..that is why he is so open to tell you and confide you about his problems especially with his girlfriend. That is because he treat you as his friend , his best friend. And in my opinion, he needs you as a friend : no more, no less. For now, even though it hurts you.. you should be there for him especially when he needs you the most. It will definitely cause you pain..
You can always talk to him and confess to him that you still have feelings for him (not just an attraction but definitely a "feeling" ) and you get hurt every time he talks about his gf, their problems and whatsoever.. But you have to face the consequences afterwards.. It is either, he accepts it and talks less about his problems with his gf.. or he will not talk to you anymore about it or maybe you both will separate or set gaps from each other. It really is different when someone you think of as only a friend , loves you more than being a friend.
It happened to me in real life, he was my best friend. We were so close but then I realized one day that I love him, so much! more than a friend.. When he knew about it. It was then. all of it ended. our friendship and all. We never talked to each other. :( and its been 5 long years. we never rekindled that friendship, that bond. That was from my experience. I hope yours will be different. But if you won't really admit your feelings, the more you'll get hurt. So open yourself and express him what you feel. But still be a friend that he wants you to be. Best of luck to you!
