Okay this is to find out if you would do this? Please Guys need help!
By Lonelyme
@Lonelyme (43)
United States
August 18, 2007 8:52pm CST
Let me put you in my situation Please. Your heavy and pretty smart not lazy. You have been with a man for many many years and one day this sexy hunk of a guy comes into your life. You become friends with him and this guy really can't stand your drunk husband cause the drunk is always in your face not talking sense talking about things that you don't really care about. But this hunk shows up at your door and ask if you want a job. Would you tell this guy no but you can take my wife to look for work with you? This hunk is a gentle man and says he don't want to do that but will since the drunk offered. Then one night the hunk shows up and to speak to the wife without listening to the drunk so he ask the guy if the wife can go for a short ride to his house? The drunk says yes! Nothing happens! Just ride down the road! So would you let you fat wife go with this guy thinking that nothing will happen cause she isn't really that beautiful anyway?
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
19 Aug 07
I am not a guy but I sense that the "fat wife" may not be all so unbeautiful as she thinks she is. I sense that the hot hunk is attracted to this beautiful wife and is trying to send a message to the dumb drunk. If the dumb drunk does not get the message I see trouble coming between beautiful lady that thinks she is fat &ugly and the drunk guy. I see drunk man losing insecure lady!
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
19 Aug 07
P.s. Be aware of the beautiful man that senses where trouble is brewing and hones in and plays on your emotions. I am not saying this is the situation. Maybe you just need some space to sort out your feelings. I don't reccomend jumping from a bad relationship into another relationship too soon. Maybe this is the eyeopener you need to realize that the relationship you are in is just all wrong. I would not recomend jumping into this other guys arms but realize that you are attractive and do deserve better than the treatment you are getting.
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@bojo96 (46)
• United States
19 Aug 07
This first thing you should do is have some self respect. If you are calling yourself fat and "isn't really beautiful" why should your husband not feel that way too? You are who you are and should be proud of yourself no matter what. Second...why are you with a drunk that sends you out with other men? Set priorities for yourself...and I see one of them as being on your own either for a while (until the hubby straightens up) or until you feel up to breaking it off with him and starting over. Starting over can be a scary thing, but that doesn't mean it is a bad thing. Find a job, support group, whatever...but get out there and live without the burden of disrespect from yourself and others.
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@Lonelyme (43)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I am proud of who I am I was mainly relating what this husband of mine keeps telling me. I have been with him so long it is just not that easy. Since I haven't really worked what kind of job do you suggest? I mean really what is out there for an inexperienced 56 year old woman? Waitress, cook, making up beds in a motel, perhaps taking care of kids. I have thought many many times what I might be able to do. The question I was asking would you as a person send your wife out with a man all alone that you really didn't know that much about? I lost a lot of self esteem many years ago. I don't disrespect myself I don't respect a man that would do this. Thanks though for your input.
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Hi Lonelyme, I would hope that I'm not dumb enough to allow my wife to be in the position that your husband has put you in. I wouldnt let her go but I think I keep my wife happy enough that she wouldnt want to go but obviously your husband isnt doing a very good job. I would think that if your husband doesnt care maybe you should consider leaving him. Also, you might be overweight but you should stop calling yourself fat. To me that sounds like a dirty word. All my best, Terry
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@Lonelyme (43)
• United States
29 Aug 07
Thanks Terry. I am heavy and carry my weight very well. But my husband says when he is drunk that I am fat. I don't say it although I know I am heavier then I need to be but just have gotten to the point that I don't listen to him anymore. I keep asking myself that same question why do I stay with him since he won't even try to please me. And really don't have an answer to that. I just haven't found the out I need yet. I will when it is Gods will. Thanks for all of your advice your wife is very lucky to have you. You sound like a good man and wish I had it as good as your wife has it having a good man.Thanks again.
@birdearly2 (2)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I'm a little confused here. First, you have been with this "drunk" for many many years. You must have a reason for staying. Next, what is the point of taking a ride by yourselves down the road? Is this hunk strictly business or is he looking for some monkey business? What is the relationship between you and the "hunk". But if I was the husband, there would be no way I would allow my wife to go down the road just to talk. It seems to me you are the one who is looking for a reason to get out and move on with your life.
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@Lonelyme (43)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I have been with this drunk because I kept praying that he would change and I do love him just drives me nuts with his yapping about stupid stuff all the time. And once in awhile he gets violent not too often he used to hit me once in awhile but since I had him put in jail for that he knows better then to hit on me. My sexy hunk can't stand my husband. That is the reason we went for the ride. And seems that my husband don't give a hoot if I go with this guy anywhere. I needed a shoulder to cry on that night and my hunk seen that. Yep if I had the chance to go I would go. If only I had some work skills and knew what to do I would go today if the hunk ask me to live with him. But don't think that will ever happen. But it does give me something to dream about anyway thanks for your comment.
@clntigger (90)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Well I probably wouldn't go with the guy anyway. but my husband trust me and I love my husband and will always be faithful to him. so my husband probably wouldn't think nothing of it because he does trust me and I trust him.
@o1happyday (16)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Your crazy if you think it can't happen. Most guys will take it if it falls into their lap. Sounds like she probably needs it anyway.
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