If women are marrying later these days, are men?
By phantomamy25
@phantomamy25 (9)
United States
August 18, 2007 11:33pm CST
I was just wondering, since women seem to be marrying later in life; I know I am, are men waiting to? And are women really waiting to marry later, or is it that men don't seem to want to marry when they are young anymore? I wanted to marry young and start a family so that I could relate to my children as teenagers, and that didn't happen, and I know now that that was for the better, but I was just wondering is it really because of career always, or is it that we all want to be free for longer instead of being tied down? Or are we all so afriad of the high divorce rate that we wait thinking that if we are older and more mature and know more about ourselves,life and the world we will know better how to have a successful marriage? What do you think?
7 responses
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
19 Aug 07
I do agree with Women have started to marry very later nowadays. The reasons are different for them to choose a late marriage, but scientifically its better for the ladies to get married at around 21 so that the pregnancy risk can be avoided.
The risk of Pregnancy is more when the ladies become pregnant when they are older. I have heard this from a friend.
@ForbiddenBeauty (209)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Honestly, no men arent waiting longer- the reason being because throughout the entirity of History men have always married later than women. Women were sent off to be married at very tender ages even in the ealry 1900's women in their middle twenties were uncommon to be unmarried, it was almost shameful. But as womens rights grew they depended less and less on men, so they didnt need to get married so quickly. With men however there need to be Men have decreased, as one researcher put it we are being raised to a society of Boys. They are dependant much longer and have less of a desire to do anything with themselves, the whole image of man taking care of his wife and family has been altered with the addition of women joining the workplace.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
19 Aug 07
I think a lot of it is because people are now waiting until they know what they want to do in life, and that is taking longer because of the educational opportunities and career opportunities available. It's easier to follow your dreams if there is just one of you.
I guess it depends where you live. In my city, the average age for a woman to get married is 30.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Yes, it seems both men and women are waiting nowadays. I can't speak for everybody, but from my point of view it has to do with economics. The world is far more competitive now than it was decades ago. It's very expensive to have even one child. Weddings are so expensive nowadays. Hell, even an engagement ring is so expensive, not to mention buying a house! So guys need more time to save up for that engagement ring to give to his girlfriend.
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
19 Aug 07
Married later is due to the tough competetion. One could not select his or her life mate easily. Ladies take care before getting themselve married. Similarly men also look for ladies of their demand and need. This causes the marriage latter. Love marriage is one of the blind way of arranging the marriage. Lovers do not care of any thing in future. The get marriage as soon as they can, but on other hand the careful people take time to select their life partner. Both wise men and wise women do this practice and they loss when they come to know that time of marriage has been gone, and they are too late now.
@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Let's see... I have two theories about this. One being the most common, is carreer. Kids want to get through school and be successful before adding the stress of a family to their lives. And I suppose, also, the staying single and having no responsibilty is pretty popular as well.
My second theory is that with teen pregnancy being so high, it's harder to date and find a suitable mate when you already have a family in tow. I feel that kids shouldn't be brought into a relationship until there is a commitment. But pre-marital/casual s*ex is so much a part of life these day, and everyone ends up pregnant eventually.
