does being a protector make it harder to find a girl?

That's a tough one to answer as everyone is different and every situation is unique. I've found myself lumped into a similar category and have women a lot of the time come to me when they have problems with their s/o and I just play the part as the "unjudging ear" let them vent and occasionally throw in some encouraging advice. I don't know if this trend really affects a person's ability to find a girl, but if you leave yourself open to be stereotyped as someone who just listens and doesn't act you'll end up falling into that role.

ok Mr protector i dont think u should have any problem finding a girl.Dont worry..girls will find u soon.cause girls do like being protected ok..but mind u dont be over protective..that they start feeling uneasy.ur protectiveness is a lovely concern u r showing to them.i would like to warn u to be away from the feeling of possessiveness because people who r very protective tend to be very possessive too n its very hard for girls to accept..it scares.so let ur protectiveness not scare them but attract them..all the best.

I cant say if it will keep you from getting a girlfriend or not, however it could possibly make it harder to keep a girlfriend alot of girls find it easy to get jelious or at the least a bit upset when random females come running to their boyfriends when they are in some kind of trouble. As far as being used that can go either way I know when I was younger I had 1 male friend that I guess might have felt "used" by me and I never ment for him to feel that way, he was older then me and was nice to everyone male or female (like if you needed a ride or paying for food ect.) but then as he showed that he wanted to be more then my friend I backed off because he didnt seem to really take NO very well so then he told my mom that he felt I had been using him for a long time when I felt we were friends. I listened to his problems with girls and gave my ideas and ect. just like I would for a girl friend but after he went out of his way to tell my mom he felt used I was upset that he didnt tell me that and basically stoped talking to him. I noticed while being friends with him that alot of females would really use him all the time and not seem to be interested in being his friend for anything more then his car money or what ever they wanted so I seem why he might have felt I was just like them. My hubby is one of those guys who some females call when in need of help and it does at times bother me depending on the situation and the person, sometimes I feel that they are making their case sound worst just so he will help, but we have managed to deal with it and he is understanding to my feelings so it works out. Try not to leave your self open to be used but then dont stop being helpful but make usre yourgetting something in return, a friendship I mean LOL.

Possibly - being the nice guy to the girls might rarely get you dates with the girls you are friends with but perhaps you should find "new" girls to date and not to befriend. I was really close friends with a guy back in high school - same kind of situation - my "go to" guy for troubles, problems, etc. We ended up dating for years...but I have to tell you that it ended our friendship once we broke up. We took what we had and we ripped it apart.... (Springsteen song) - I'm not sure if giving up our friendship was worth it...try new girls not your girl "friends"