Need advice on a 15 year old dating a 21 year old

Oh I have recently been in almost the same situation only it was my own daughter - he was 20 and she was 15. This age difference is WAY too large at this age. Being 15, 16, 17 - still in high school and dating someone older who's out of school and not having the same type of day to day life is tough. They're in two totally different places. Not to mention, I don't know where you live, but here in CT it's ILLEGAL! I asked the guy my daughter was trying to date behind my back to stop contacting her, and it ended up to the point that I had him arrested and pressed charges against him. It was his 2nd offense, and now at the age of 20 he's on probation, is facing jail time, and has FOUR felonies against him already. He's also registered on the National S*x Offenders website! Don't worry about her being mad, she'll get over it. If you really care about her you'll get this relationship to stop now. I told my daughter she can be mad all she wants, I'm not trying to be her friend, I need to be her mom first and foremost. She actually wasn't mad, she needed to get away from him and she knew it and this was her "out". Good Luck - it won't be easy, but it's sooo necessary!!

this is becoming so rampant these days. the more we intend to educate our children with the advent of the massive media, the more they get to know what to do. i mean, educating them in a way that is in time and proper is alright but, almost everywhere, many kids at young kids see those things everywhere, and thru almost all forms of media. tendency is they get to imitate. just my opinions. if you want to help that 15 year old girl, try to talk to her in a nice way. you don't want to see her suffer in the end, i bet. if anything fails, hope not, at least you did your part.

That is not a good thing. She is only 15, she still has her whole life ahead of her. She should be with guys her own age first, think about school, think about going to college or getting a good career, and then she can think about dating someone older than her.

If the mom is worried that her daughter will go behind her back if she says no, then she has already made one mistake that a lot of moms and dads make. She didn't build a trust between herself and her daughter. I have a 14 year old that tells me everything. We have a very honest and trusting relationship. The mom needs to sit down with her daughter and talk to her. Not yell at her or punish her, but talk to her about the decision she has made to date this guy. And the repercussions that is could have on her future. The most important thing the mom can do right now is talk to her daughter openly. And show her daughter that she is there for her and that the daughter can talk to her about anything.

While there are always exceptions of course, i have to say from experience that most of the 20+ that looked to date my girls when they were that young were serious trouble. It is a very tough spot because you know that as soon as you "forbid" that person then they are going to be even more determined to be together. The age gap at that age is so huge. What i found in most of these guys is that they could not find a woman their own age to give them a second glance. Most had already done jail time. Young girls always are flattered and look up to these older guys. You really have to wonder about what kind of 21 year old is looking at these young girls and ask why he is not looking in his own age group.

aww man!!! u should stop that foolishness, come to think of it, what if the guy just hurt her. or abused her think of the worst

it is no big deal cos they can still date . cos if it was the girl older than the guy it then be a problem.

Have you told her that most guys this age will only date a girl her age for one thing. Then when they get tired of hanging out with a child, they dump them. She's going to get used unless the 21 year old has a childish mentality. Tell her to be careful. Also he can go to jail. She is going to mad more than likely no matter what you say. She is 15 and most 15 year olds think they know everything. Good luck