To You, Is A Kiss Cheating?
By Malyck
@Malyck (3425)
Australia
August 19, 2007 9:18pm CST
If you or your partner exchanged a kiss with another person (a passionate embrace, not a kiss on the cheek),
would you consider it cheating, and to what degree?
If your partner told you he kissed someone the night before, would you forgive them, or break up over it?
Personally, I think it would depend on their track-record, the person they kissed, my mood and if they seemed remorseful.
I would definitely tell them that it's unacceptable, that's for sure.
I ask, because recently one of my friends said that she didn't care if her girlfriend went out and kissed other people, as long as she came back home and slept with her in their bed at the end of the night.
I was taken aback to say the least.
I think I could forgive one time, but no more than that!
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19 responses
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
20 Aug 07
Depends on many things. Did he tell me about this kiss before hand or afterwards? After all, trust is the main issue here. Was it part of a vampire role playing game or maybe a play?
I think it would be difficult but I think I might forgive the person I'm in love with. Not many times like your friend. One slip - especially if she wanted more and he turned her down - and then told me about it!
Malyck, this was a great discussion because I think its something we all ask ourselves. I wonder though, if whatever our answer is, if actually in the situation, we would respond the way we imagine...
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
20 Aug 07
And then there is a situation I've thought of, but would never do. Go out and if there's someone who is obviously a um not a nice person, I would say witch but that would be insulting to witches and I can't say a word that rhymes...at a club - not that I ever go to those- but likes your husband have him go up and flirt and maybe even do a teasing kiss - then its your cue to sidle up, smile like the cat who just ate the canara and say hi honey, and then really kiss him...or something like that. Tyud.
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
I didn't even think about games/plays etc.
I suppose because as far as I'm concerned, it's not cheating in those situations,
although i would like for my partner to tell me when he found out in the case of the play, otherwise i'd feel like there was more to it, because he kept it from me.
Yay, I made a great discussion! *dances around the kitchen*
Yeah, I think that when you're actually faced with the action, you kind of forget what you always swore to yourself.
Hmm..
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@snowprincess (1)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
If my husband kisses someone passionately, I would definetly kick the hell out of him! Of course it's a form of cheating. Married or not, you should not kiss anyone besides your partner.
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@mistissa (1349)
• Netherlands
20 Aug 07
I think kissing other than just a kiss on the cheak would be cheating, my hubby thinks the same way about it. If it was to happen once, I might be able to forgive him if he was really sorry. I he would make a habit out of it, I would break off with him
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
21 Aug 07
Is that kissing absolutely anyone on the cheek?
In my culture, it's custom to kiss family, friends and people you are introduced to on the cheek (if you feel comfortable doing so), so I suppose I don't see that side of things as cheating.
A more passionate kiss definitely is, though.
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
20 Aug 07
If a person is married or in a serious relationship, there's no business at all for him/her to kiss someone else passionately. If this is not considered wrong, then holding hands or spending the night with someone else can be considered nothing wrong too. Who in a relationship can accept that of his/her partner, except those who are not serious about their relationship themselves or have done similar things on their own with or without their partners' knowledge. If my partner does this to me, I can forgive a first time if the explanation is credible and forgiveness is asked, but I will not except it if this is repeated.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 07
it is cheating. period. no discussion needed. either dump or kill the partner is the next course of action.
@lilaclilith (20)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
Personally, i'd consider that cheating. a passionate kiss is supposed to be the exchange of emotions between you and that special someone. if your partner goes out to kiss other people, with the same pair of lips he/she uses to kiss you, then you'd better start assessing your relationship. are your kisses sacred enough to be shared just between the two of you?
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Good question and I am really not sure actually. But than again it can lead to other things all depends how the person's feel about one another.. I think as of right now if a partner says it's ok to kiss they must be saying it's ok to cheat as well.. Just my oppion!
@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Yes that is cheating to me, If I found out that my B/F was out kissing other girls or anyhting else I would be out the door in a heart beat just right after I beat his A**. No matter how you look at it it is wrong and one kiss will lead to another and then more after that.
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
as for me... i think i could never forgive him for doing that considering all circumstances... i can never accept him back for that... what was he thinking? why would he do that? because if my bf does that to me... i'm sure i can never ever forgive him... that is actually cheating! if i know that he does something like that i know i can't trust him again in not doing something like that again... and i believe that in order for a relationship to work it's not just love that comes first but it's trust... so if he breaks my trust he can never bring it back to what it was before and i can never truly love him because eventually i will have many doubts in him... and i can never have someone who i cannot trust... get my point? hehe that is just my opinion... (n_n)
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
20 Aug 07
In my mind it would be cheating. When I'm in love with someone, it does not matter how drunk i am or how attractive the other person, I will not so much as kiss another man. I care about our relationship too much to poison it with such temptations. yup if it were my man, I'd have to wonder how much our relationship meant to him.
@cherry2 (43)
• United States
20 Aug 07
A passionate kiss is for your spouse only.Any other would be consider cheating.Not even your family you would kiss like that[unless there is something there].Passionate kissing stirs up feelings inside and produce thoughts in the brain.So whether you plan to cheat or not it will eventually happen if you persist along that line.
As for me,if it happen i will get to the bottom of it but i don't think i can trust the person again.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
20 Aug 07
I would mind. A lot. I think I could forgive one time, but I don't think things would be the same again after that. Fortunately, this is not something my husband would ever do.
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
20 Aug 07
if he kissed someone else I would consider it cheating.
if he is with me, what is he doing with his mouth on someone else?
and what else would he do if he would do that?
it would be over, I would kick his butt to the curb so fast his head would spin.
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
20 Aug 07
For me, a passionate kiss is cheating. Passionate kissing is an offering of one's self to another and can lead to offering more! It just isn't what I would want my spouse doing.
@jynxypanda (394)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
I would consider it cheating because why on earth would they do that then?? Unless they lost a bet or something, I think that's inexcusable coz like they said, kisses can start something. Maybe it's forgivable the first time but if it goes on then there's seriously something wrong.
@bucketkid (237)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
It sounds like your friend is pretty insecure and just wants someone to 'be in a relationship with', no matter how she is treated.
That's a real shame, you should tell her that her girlfriend shouldn't treat her that way, and she is less likely to be cheated on if she told her gf that she wants and exclusive relationship. It's really not a big ask!
So yes, I do think that passionate kissing someone other than your partner is cheating.
I think I could forgive, though, but I've never had it happen to know!
