Is there anything you wish your friends/lover/family knew without explaining?

Thank you for your reply. I don't know what your disability is, but many are 'invisible'. Lupis, RSI, MS - to some degree, sometimes they cause limping or deformities, but on 'good days' you can't tell. Sometimes on bad days. Its hard enough for these individuals who face this challenge to initially convince doctors that they're not goldbricking without having to convince family and friends. I don't have anything disabling (although I had EBV for years as a teen) but I get migraines - for me they've become more frequent and severe since the baby was born - and since I'm nursing I can't do anything about it. I don't even like to take Tylenol - besides, I have them so frequently then even with out nursing, who knows what all that medication would do to my liver. I say this just to say that the other day I had a migraine - now I get whoppers but this was the whopper of all whoppers - slammed in as soon as I woke up - and was accompanied by dizzyness, nausea and the eye problems - I had to give the baby over to my husband who works nights - sleeps days and I did whimper my way downstairs to do what I normally don't - take excederin migraine - then I whimpered my way upstairs. I didn't whine but I whimpered and it made me feel a little better. :)

Not just learning but doing. Like when I was younger and a few people - who weren't close friends tried to convince me to drink with them. My reasons for say, not driving aren't just, I don't feel like it, or I'm afraid, I have other reasons for never doing so...hearing over and over how helpful it is but knowing I can't due to slight dyspraxia, and not wanting the stress that comes along with driving - even for the most laid back person and all my other reasons er I'm explaining again... and this is what I feel I shouldn't have to do...anyway again thanks for your post, good to see you once again!

Wow Faith210, once again I'm blown away at your ability to be honest with your thoughts and feelings -and convey them so well! It must be hard that the world expects so much of you. Have you ever talked about this - in real life with family and friends - oops that was the discussion - what we wish they all just knew - could get a clue and figure out without having to have a long discussion on it. Its nice when people just get us.

Hi artemis432! Well sure, I did! But they seem to be more sad than I am when I get into spilling my heart out. And when I see them that way, I tried hard to shake off my sad moments because I really don't want them to be saddened or depressed in any way. Oh never mind me, I guess I could always be strong enough for them because I do love my family. It's life, I think. Haha...Take care.

Just remember you're important too. Have you heard what they do on planes? Tell you to give oxygen to yourself and then to your kids? If a parent passes out - what good ar they to their kids. By the same token, its important to take time and energy out for ourselves - even to talk about what we're going through. If a friendship is true or strong its mutual. I feel offended when I find a friend went through something and didn't share, it seems a reflection of how good a friend I am. I always listen to my friends, and let them know their value by sharing my day and problems with them.