Teenagers, dating, moral issues, 15 year olds, 21 year olds

WOW, I got up this morning with this topic in mind as I have a 15 yr old that has been spening alot of time with a guy that lives down the street.He is mor my age that hers. I do remeber being young 13 or so when I had a relatonship with a 21 yr old. I trie to talk to her not tring to judge her and made her feel really bad. The age thing is one thing I do know I was emotionlly hurt when it didn't work out with my 21 yr old. I had issues with my father fighting wiht my mom and would leave for a period of time. My daughter also has a very distant relationship with her father. She is mature for her age and doesn't have a body of a 15 yr old. She won't talk to me about what is going on and I don't want her to feel bad like I am judging her. She is a smart girl. She say's there nothing going on. I belive her,but rumors are going around and I am afraid shes going to get hurt. she doesnt hang around with many friends, except this man. She tells me she talks to other people about thing that she doesn't talk to me about. I had my firat daught at 17 and ther father and I were together for 15 years. Maybe the divorce promted an intrest in older men. The older guys are mor mature and she doen't seem 15, not even to me. she seem older. I know rules and judgment will not change a thing. It will create distrust for her and I. The only thing I have is my experiance and I din't think ther was anything wrong with it when I was young and liked older men. And when I thought I was in love and maybe really was alot of times. If you over 18 it doesnt much matter in the eyes of others. her grandparents on her dads side had 20yrs difference. I dont really what to do. part of me says if they really have feelings for each other it shouldn't matter, its just numbers.But I also know mental development has not matured to what it is when you get older. Maybe its something has have to do to grow up I dont know. He is really the only guy that she has been nice to and hasen't tried to kick his a**. I love her with all my heart and wan't to protect her. Morally judging her will not help and she is probally not going to tell because rumor has it about the statatory rape charges, and my partner I am with now will kill the guy and he is a good guy I hang out and watch movies at times and go there to let my 5yr old play in the pool. I never seen any thing. And he knows that my partner would kill him. All 15 yr old will grow up and look back and either regret or remember it as a life experiance. All I can do is let her know I am here and will love her no matter what.I dont want to see her hurt.

Well my mother was ten years older than my father. Six years difference with you two is nothing. BUT, what freaks people out is you are 15. Therefore you know nothing; you have the best years to come; education ahead of you; etc. etc. In fact, the two of you seem to have your heads screwed on a damn site better than some twice your age. First step has got to be a meeting with your boyfriend and your parents. You have to get it in the open and expect a lot of flack to come your way. If you can ride that out then you will be well on the way to winning the battle. Good luck.

I would never let my sons date someone whoo was overage, they could be frineds if they wanted to be and if they are truly in love then they can wait till one or the other is older.