don't you hate when people accuse you of things you haven't done!???

Yes its happened to me many a times and i have learnt something new with this, that i would love to share with you. I feel that when you are faced with such a situation, firstly you know you are right and the person is wrong, then be rest assured that the person 90% of the time will not hear nor listen to your explainations as they feel they are right and you are wrong. Secondly they are angry and mad at that time, making it all the more tough for them to listen to anyone at that time. Thirdly they know they are wrong but dont want to admit to it, so they will not spare anyone who tries to make peace at that time. So its best to leave the discussion at that very moment and walk off. No, i dont mean to forget it, i mean just leave the room for a while, so that the person cools down , and once they are back to their normal self, then discuss out the problem and try reasoning out things. You will see that they respond better, maybe after 3-4-5 hours or so, give them some time to cool themselves as half the time they dont know what they are saying either and will just keep on and on for no reason. Its habitual in such kind of people and become their nature too, so just let them be , when it happens. Hope this helps you, as i have experienced this, so thought of sharing it with you too.

It hasn't happened to me recently, but it did happen to my wife, and it caused the break up of a close friendship. My wife's closest friend won't even take phone calls from my wife or me, because she thinks my wife has done something, which she hasn't. It revolves around selling some land on commission. My wife and her friend put in a lot of work together to try and sell the land. However, the owner sold it directly to one of the prospective buyers, and paid no commision. My wife received nothing even though she introduced the buyer. Our friend thinks she was paid and won't give her percentage. A friendship ruined.

i would suggest that yo udo not mind them because they are only a waste of your time and energy.plwase, do not get affected by it.These kind of people are not considered as friends. They are very selfish. Even if you would have the time to explain to him , his mind is already made up, he is too proud.stay away as far as you can , he can never hurt you, and do not give him the permission to do it to you, so do not react nor respond.

It happened to me back in college when I was riding a jeepney. You see, here in the Philippines we pay our jeepney fare via honesty system. There's no ticket or receipt. Anyway, I had already paid the 5-peso fare, then got off at my destination. The jeepney was moving slowly and I was walking alongside it when the driver's wife gave me dagger looks and yelled at me "Hey you haven't paid yet!" I said to her "I did pay, stupid!" I think the driver sided with me and told her that I did pay because she just shut up after that. I was offended for being accused of a cheat but I'm glad the driver backed me up. So if you can find a witness to back you up in your problem, that would be great and your accuser would look stupid.

I know exactly how you feel, rnk. I, myself, have been in the same position. I think that others have their own motives when they will not hear you out. They have already closed their minds to any other explanation but their own.

yes,i do.in special that ihave a partner that everyday or almost everyday accuses me doing things i haven't done and doesn't believe my explanations.is such a unpleasant person.i hate this.nothing can make him change his mind,he strongly thinks i have done that thing.i think that he should listen to me first before making his opinion.that's fair i guess to have the right to defend myself

Yes, I hate being accused of something I haven't done. Unfortunately I must admit that I have accused people of doig things before, I suppose that's not fair.

I totally agree and this Person is totally in the Wrong for not listening to you I really hope that you will get this Person to listen to you and get it sorted

I had a talk with a friend about a thing he had doubts about me. I explained it to him and he accepted it. I wish he really do accept it.

I know exactly what you mean. Just yesterday, a person called me up and started nagging me about why I went directly to their head office and didn't check first with him if he read the letter I sent or not. I was furious because the letter was sent to them a month ago, I would have expected he had read it already. He claimed that he never received my letter, and told me that I should have at least called them up to check. Yeah, sounds valid, but you see, when I went there a month ago, they wouldn't give me any contact number for that person. They told me that it was SOP that I wait for him to contact me, all I could just do is wait and there's no need for follow-up! So how would I follow it up if that was their ruling? In the first place, I'm not from their organization so I don't know how things worked. Plus since he didn't reply, I found the email address of their main office so I emailed them about my request. What's so bad about that? He was really furious at me, but I know I didn't do anything wrong because I merely inquired. This is such a stupid way to talk to a client isn't it? I was shocked and really angry yesterday for that attitude. It was good that I was busy so I wouldn't have emailed his main office and tell on him. Whew! Was really pissed. But oh well, maybe he got tongue-slashed by his bosses for failure to read my request. That's good for him!

At times people might just accuse you in frustration, you can't blame that person but if that person goes overboard then i guess you got to try your best to solve it before temper flares.

OMG, people accused me a lot back in my early college years. And what's worst is that those people who accused me of stuffs are my relatives.. It really makes me mad but then just thought that karma will always find its way so i just let it pass. I know myself more than they do. But then if the accusation is really harsh that people perceives me that way then something has to be done.

I had this happen in college. A girl I thought was my best friend assume that the reason the guy she was dating no longer wanted to talk to her was because I said something to him (I was dating and am now married to one of his friends). She treated him really badly and that is why he left and I knew this. I tried to tell her he was just transferring and didn't want to have a relationship. She never believed, spread rumors about me, and I lost a few other friends as well. But I never told her she was the one that drove him away or told any of our mutual friends this. I was almost done with school and left it alone made a few other acquistances to last through the last few months and then said goodbye to all. To this day, my ten year reunion is this month I have had no connection to people that I spent three very close years with. All this because I was blamed for something I never did. I decided that if no one believed me than I guess they were never really friends to begin with.

I hate that also. People can be so stubborn. What makes it worse is when the other person knows they were wrong and does not apologize or show any remorse. I understand that misunderstandings happen, but when you find out the truth don't just ignore it and pretend it never happened.

Sorry to hear that but we need to have some patience as there are such people who takes time to cool down so let them cool down and you aproach after that and surely they will say sorry to you. Its really hard when people accuse us for the things that we haven't done and we feel like killing them, but we have to wait for them to cool down if they are of that type which we could not speak with.

I think you have the right to be mad at him.If he doens't want to listen to you then it's his problem his loss. If someone would do that to me and falsely accuse me i would send him/her a letter explain and when he/she comes to apologise i would get so mad and say that i don't want to see them for a while.

Yes that really upsets me!!! I have been in this situation and it made me sad for about a week because I kept going over in my head that that person does not trust me! I had never done anything!!! Its all sorted now abnd I never want to go through that again!

That's really annoying. I hate it when people accuse me of something, no matter how trivial, that I did not do. Even when they're members of my family. I will really threaten to sue these people who accuse me falsely. I tell them that if they don't have proofs, they should not conclude anything. What happened to you was really awful. But don't mind that person. I think he has a really big psychological problem that we cannot solve. Some people can be like that. Just clear out your name with the rest of the people who might think that you are really guilty. If you can't clear things out with that person, you can't do anything about that now but once he will discover his mistake, he'll be in great embarrassment. Just hang on there!

Oh yes i have had that happen too many times. Usually the person does come around after a while. I think they just need to calm down and think things over. I don't push the issue and especially if i've been wrongly accused. I dated a man that was forever getting wound up and accussing me of stuff that i never even dreamed of doing. He too would clam up and it did make me feel horrible. I got tired of it after a while and broke it off with him. I don't know your situation but if it is not something that happens all the time with this person, I would just give him time to get in a spot when he is ready to talk to you about it.

we always do. i mean it is by nature that man hates when you are being accused by the others mistake. even if that man would just be quiet in a corner doing nothing but just listening or watching or doing something but i know whats in side the heart, he or she is being embarrassed or would really hate that situation. though other people wouldn't voice out but still they hate it. for some they really express what they feel inside, well thats good because you are exercising your mind on how to handle a certain situation.