In Love.,Does Age Really Matters?
By myliezl0903
@myliezl0903 (2726)
Philippines
August 22, 2007 9:26pm CST
there are a lot of controversies going on among the age gap relationships. Many of the experts have pointed out a stunning fact that in relationship were the wife is elder than the husband, the things are calmer and there are higher chances of understanding and good adjustments among them. It was considered to be much lower than those wives whose age was considered to be much lower than their husbands.There is another study which says that the happiest husband were those who had wives of age twelve to more years younger than them and the happiest wives were recognized to be four to ten years elder than them. but talking about the couples it is noted that those couples with husbands about three to five years elder than the wives are considered to be happier. age gap in relationships always exist among all such as those dating married, romancing and many more. there are lots of principles that are to be looked at while pondering into age gap in relationships. it is said that there will be no such problem of age suitably if the man is considered to be the same age of the wife or years older. in the same case there won't be any serious problems associated with it unless any of them finds themselves inferior.with the modern world and growing earth, the fact of age gap in relationships have not much role to be played as everything is considered to be trend these days. thus it is given no importance for age gap in relationships and so not at all considerded to be significant. but whatever the world grows and develops relating to age gap in relationships, it should be processed with great care and certain things are to be followed.when couples have a gap of twelve years, it is very important to carefully review and sort out various related problems. it is to be understood that with such wonderful age gap in relationships the taste of life and also the interest in physical activities varies and there might be real differences. but in case if the man is elder then it won't be same, as men are always healthy and interesting in lively practice and usually this problem always occurs with the females. thus with various interest which does not match would make them even more uneven. mostly the age gap in relationships occurs as a result of the variation in their interests and plays a major role in breaking up the relationship. the perfect solution would be to have a compromise always as this would ensure long lasting relationship. eventhough there are lots of confusions and compromises involved in such age gap in relationships. there are may who prefer such relationship.the main fact lies in the truth that older persons are psycholigically a substitute for a parent and not for a mate. so while choosing a partner always think about the age gap in relationship... Ü
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18 responses
@medstudents4 (826)
• India
23 Aug 07
hi myliez|0903,what i believe is when you are not in love with a person you may consider his/her age..but once you start liking that person this belief or thought starts fading away and when you are actually in love with that person this age factor will stop bothering you all along..this mostly happens in love marriages as you can guess too..and in arranged ones if something is like that the there can be many reasons like some priorities for a special age for marriage by people or some family factors or economical independence etc..etc..
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@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
yeah, actually i also agree at some point that age doesn't really matter but when some of my friends started to discuss these things since most of them experienced to have a relationship with a guy ten years or fifteen years older than them i would say that in a way it really matters.,especially if you do have a child. you'll gonna see what my point here...Ü thanks for responding to this topic Ü
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@soulsister_16 (738)
• Switzerland
23 Aug 07
Well, I think it varies from person to person. I mean, it may not matter to me while the person sitting next to me might argue otherwise.
I think it could be a factor on choosing a partner and for how long a relationship will last but is not necessarily a major factor.
Also, when we say age, it doesn't necessarily pertain to our actual age. For instance, some people are looking for someone more mature than them spiritually, mentally, etc. So, even if they met someone who is 5 years younger than them but are about 5 years more mature than them spiritually, they might you know, give the relationship a try, and eventually the relationship may last.
As for me, although I think baing with someone more than five years older and 2 years younger than me seems a bit awkward, I believe the most important thing is we love each other. As the saying goes, "Love conquers all" and "Love knows no boundaries".
@heartsick (832)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
for me it doesnt matter if a girl is a year older to the guy.. as long as you love each other and your ready to fight for it.. but in my case, my parents don't agree with it.. i used to have a relationship to a guy who is 2 years younger than me.. they dont want the fact that i'll be the one who provides things for that guy.. although i'm not doing it.. but still they dont understand.. and i end up breaking up with the guy because of my parents.. and maybe i'm not ready that time to face love problems like this.. :)
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@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
well, maybe your parents don't have any idea how much you really love each other...point here is everybody in this world whether your an older or he's ten years older than you when it comes to love age is a pointless thing...right? lol Ü thanks for responding!
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
i believe that the saying "AGE DOESNT MATTER" applies on a relationship where there is a long gap on their age..on my own points of views,age is just a number..I believe that its more important that you know how to handle your relationship with your partner.age shouldnt be an excuse not to love at all or not to love with somebody whom you think you had a long age gap.age is just a number..and it is not important at all..for as long as i am happy..^__^
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@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
we wouldn't know when love comes in and yes its true that age doesn't really matter for as long as you feel that both of you still have the love and respect to each other then i guess it is right not to tackle the age of the person you love...Ü
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@trickomm (309)
• Hungary
23 Aug 07
i think it's not exactly true. It's OK age is just a number, but.
I am 24 and i had a girlfriend (or womanfriend:) who was 39. She looks nice everybody thought she is just 28. But we had lots of problems. Her thinking is more difficult. She grow up another times, another thinking, i dont like the music what she listening and opposite. she thinks conditions what i disagree... she wants to live as a housband and wife, i go to work and stay home with her because she doesnt like parties, concerts, etc. so i had to stay at home and i hate that. lots of my friendship connections lose for a little time about her.
so yes, it's just a number, but this number makes difficult thinking what makes lots of fights.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I would really love to see opinions on this. I recently had a man that was 20 years younger than me proposition me. I was very flattered but i just couldn't do it...he could have been my son! I would have been so self concious of every bit of flub and celulite! Now I have a man 10 years my jr. asking me out. I lie and tell him i am seeing someone because that even seems to young. Still, we get along...he makes me laugh. I never seem to think age matters when it is with other couples but when it comes to me...here i am second guessing.
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@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
ahuh, well that was actually my point...Ü i hope i had given you enough idea on these.thanks for responding! Ü
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@lilaclilith (20)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
well... the truth of the matter is that age DOES matter in relationships. I've had personal experience where i was stuck with men sometimes twice my age. it can be quite frustrating sometimes, more so when they treat you as though you're a daughter rather than a partner in the relationship. but being with an older man can have its perks sometimes - if you're the type who likes to be babied.
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@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
hehe Ü yeah thats true., and sometimes its kinda hard to adjust coz you both have different view in life because of the age gap.anyway thanks for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead!Ü
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
I am 8 years older than my husband..so what you guys think abouit it? of course like ordinary couple we have problems but we are going stronger and stronger.
I don't think I am superior to him because of my age,I consider him as the head of the family.I have no problem with that either.
As a matter of fact, I don't feel older than him and alot of people say I don't look older too.
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
23 Aug 07
For me at first age does matter but later on i have realized that it does not really matter as long as you love each other and be able to bridge the differences and understand each others weaknesses then its the key to a growing relationship.
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
29 Aug 07
You are most welcome.
take care and have a nice day.
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
nice answer., yes, thats is true...as long as there is love and understanding then i guess your relationship will last...Ü thanks for responding to this topic. have a nice day ahead!Ü
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@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
24 Aug 07
The guy I'm dating is 14 years younger than I am and we seem to get along ok. We don't argue at all.Of course we don't spend 24 hours a day with each other and he works alot so I guess it works out.I just like spending time with him if I can and he seems to enjoy being with me.My family even likes him which is really strange because they never like anyone I like.
@LadyDulce (830)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I don't think chronological age has any real bearing on a relationship; it just happens that those around the same age tend to have the same or similar life experiences. It's more the level you're at in life that you should be considering. My bf and I are 17 years apart, but we both have young children and have experienced many of the same things. I passed on most normal adolescent and young adult experiences, so we don't have many of those to compare, but as for the here and now, our lives are pretty well aligned. The same has been for many of my exes, most of whom have been considerably older.
Blessed Be
@sefnopre29 (143)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
it odes not matter. but you have to choose wisely, there are people who act their age, if their age is young they act young or immature, you know those childdish things. thoguh some don't so you really have to look in their attitude and not their age. because it is attitude that we look for right and notthe age?!
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@yesah65 (157)
• United States
23 Aug 07
If two people really like, or love each other, they need to spend less time worrying about what everyone else thinks, and spend that time with each other.
No matter what, if you start asking other peoples opinion about YOUR life, you will never have one.
If you are of legal age to do your chosing, then just tell everyone else to live their own life and you will live yours.
@tito4puchu (61)
• India
24 Aug 07
No it does not really matter till the age difference is in limit. I mean as the girls are a few years more matured than they are old......there might some problems if the girl too much older than the boy.
@Frozen2ice (152)
• India
23 Aug 07
for me it is all about compatibility and understanding , age is not a concern in any relation ... as long as the couples are understanding... life s so damn cool with the one who cares,loves n understands regardless of how old he or she is.
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@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
23 Aug 07
I think age does matter, not always but in most cases i think it does. I think if the woman is a lot older then she has self esteem problems. There is nothing a 48 year old woman could possibly have in common with a 26 year old man. But when the sexes are reversed it is sometimes different, only because men are usually more immature than women, so when the she is a lot younger she is on the same level of maturity as the older man. When there is a huge age gap of 30 or more years then i believe money or psychological problems would have to be involved. My daughter's father is 17 years older than me, it didn't work out between us, and the age gap definitely had something to do with it.
@pinnibabu (135)
•
23 Aug 07
I personally feel age is no bar for love. I have known couples where the girl is elder to the guy and they simply adore eachother and take good care of eachother. Love has no age limit. As long as both of you stay well together, bond well, nothing else should bother.
@OrangJuice (687)
• China
23 Aug 07
I don't think the age is a big problem between a couple. Actually, there are many other things more important than it.
But the actuality is it's so hard to stand in my country. Many people including your parents, relatives will talk scandales on it, then you can't bear the pressure. Then you'll give it up. Even though you insist on it, then the pressure will affect your life and the relationships between you and him/her. So finally, it always gets worse.
It seems I'm more attractive to younger boy (youngger than me 1-4 yeeas). And my parents are always against. I have to give up all the time. And now they force me to make friends with a boy, who make me so suffering and be elder than me.
Now I'm so confused if I would be submitted by my parents. How can they do this for me?
Now I'm in despair, meanwhile I won't reconcile to this.
@furious2668 (16)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Age doesn't matter in a relationship its the love you have for each other is the most important ingredients to have a relationship last.If u love someone you don't mind if he/she is younger or older than you as long as you are happy and you have these mutual understanding nothing matters.