My daughter wants to drop out of school!

There may be a deeper issue on why she does not want to attend school. Is she having trouble with other students, are they bullying her, ridiculing her, making fun of her. What about her teachers, not all teachers are a positive influence in children's lives. If she wants to drop out, what about homeschooling. There are many postive aspects of homeschooling. Many of the homeschool children go on to univerisity and they do quite well from the stats. Or another alternative is GED. What is imporatant is that you don't kick her out. I have three children, my last is starting grade 7 this year. Don't throw away your child, as parents we have to dig deeper and draw on strength we didn't know we had. I know many families that have taken the homeschool route and their children do well. One family oldest is going in her firt year university, her grades are outstanding. My children do well in school, my youngest gets high grades. However, I have always been prepared to work with alternatives when the need arises. I hope that helps. hugs from one parent to another.

Many kids do not like the school environment. Does she have many friends in school? It could just be that she feels like she doesn't fit in there. I felt that way for a long time in highschool, but when I started making friends, I felt better about myself. Does she have any interest in a trade school? Maybe she can take some vocational classes such as beauty school, auto tech, computer repair, etc. There are a lot of options in vo-tech and maybe learning a hands-on trade is a better option for her. If all else fails, she will have to learn the lesson on her own. We can't protect them forever, and my motto is that whatever doesn't kill us will make us stronger. I hope for the best for her and hope she finds her way and is happy in the future, no matter what she decides. Good luck to you and God bless!

I would keep trying to persuade her to stay in.If not have you tried COVA.It's the Colorado Vocational Academy for home schooling,Look it up on the Internet, and could she take her GED test.I would also try maybe night school.It may not be the best solution but it's better than nothing.

hold on to her school seat and ask her to get a job of her like, and she will understand in a months time what is good for her. also, when she is getting a bored or unhappy with her dollar shop job make it a point to invite some people who have earned their diplomas and are enjoying life so she gets to understand that that is the best for her, to study further. all that i thought of, prayers, apple.

That is very sad, but it is happening more and more among teenagers. I don't know when going to school became an option. When I was younger, going to school was just what you knew had to be done until you turned 18 and graduated. Sure you skip classes or a couple days here and there, but to drop out completed was few and far between. Does your daughter state a specific reason why she doesn't want to go back to school? Are kids picking on her, it is something about her appearance or clothes she doesn't like? Any of those things can have a devastating effect on a teenager making them just want to give up and not go to school. teenagers have enough changes going on with their minds and bodies, i would hate for her to go up so early and regret it on down the line. it is sad when people lose all ambition and dream. I really don't know what you can say, she might need to hear it from somebody closer to her age or someone that dropped and out and feel that they didn't make the right decision about it. I'm sure she probably feels like you don't know what she's going through and she doesn't believe that it's that hard to make a living without an education. A lot of jobs these days don't check education backgrounds and some people do get good jobs, it just depends.

You should do everything within your means to stop her from dropping out because it will be very hard for her to come back once you've allowed her so skip school. You should put your foot down and be firm that she stays in school.Education is the best inheritance that a person can have from their parents.material things can fade but education is with her all through her life.

How difficult for both of you. How did the appointment go? With more information, you might be able to help your daughter make a better plan than working at the dollar store and getting by. Everyone should have hopes, especially at 16. There are a lot of options for kids like your daughter in the area that I live; I hope this is true of your area as well. They can try going to a different school, they can do an apprenticeship program where they go to school in the morning and work as an apprentice in the afternoon, they can try to test out and apply for college, or they can apply for vocational or trades schools.

I went through this same situation when I took a seventeen year old girl in to live with us when she had no place to go . She had quit school when she was in grade six and had never went back . I was agast at the idea that she had been able to do this and that legally she had been allowed . I talked to her constantly , spent many hours crying , talking to her and talking to the school . The school didn't want to take her back as she had been a problem child when she had been there as a child with disrupting the class and misbehaving . In the end she agreed to go and now has her grade 10 and is going back this year for her grade 11 . Do whatever you have to do to get her to go back . Children don't seem to realize that we don't want them to go for us but for themselves as it is them it will affect in the long run . Without an education she will forever struggle in life and will later regret her decisions she made when she was younger . Talk to her , talk to her school if you have to , talk to the authrities if you have to but stick to your decsion about her not staying in your home if she doesn't stay in school . She needs to realize that you are doing this for her and that it is for her future . Have her talk to others who have dropped out of school and let her see how it has affected their lives . Hopefully she will see that even though she does not like school , it is something she has to do for herself . She needs to realize in life we often have to do things we don't want to do but do them anyway because it is something that needs to be done to make our lives better . I sympatize with you as it is hard when you are not sure what to do or even how to go about doing something to help our children realize that we only want what is best for them as it is them that will suffer in the long run . Best of luck and hopefully she will realize how important education really is and how she will get so much further in life , even if she doesn't have the best of marks but has her grade twelve . Take Care !!!

Is she depressed? not liking high school? It sounds like she needs some better aspirations! Yes a dollar store job will "get her by" but it will get old after a while.... IMO she needs to at least explore other options, correspondence courses, alternative school, GED...

Well i guess, your daughter needs a little acceptance in her actions. Like what you said, she was treated with a mild case of ADD. SOmehow, regular academic curriculum can sufficient their needs. There will be a specialized program for these kids in order to enjoy and use fruitfully their attention disorder. As in my case, I have a pupil having a add also. But I have advised their parents to try to see a Developmental Pediatrician to know what they can do to improve on their child's behavior as well as his outlook in life. Your daughter showed a sign that she wants to prove something to you and that she wants to be independent. I know she felt what you felt when you cried in front of her. I definitely would say that she was moved with your little disappointment because you only wants the best for her. Let your daughter take a decision. Later on, she will learn something and let her discover that.

I am so happy too!!! This discussion kind've stuck with me I kept thinking of anything else I could tell you to help in the aid of her going to school. I have a college degree and I am struggling to make ends meet, I can just imagine the struggles it would be with no high school diploma. thank the Lord and Good luck to you!

I am sorry to hear your daughter is having such a hard time enjoying school and has decided to drop out. Children now days are constantly hit with "bad influences" that seem to advicate good education as unimportant or unnecessary. Whenever my kids have issues with something I always try to dig below the surface to find the "real" reason for the distaste or lack of motivation. What's on the surface is usually a side effect to the actual problem. Your daughter may not be responding well to the conventional teaching techniques issued in the current school system and may require a special kind of school focusing on kids who, for example, experience test phobia or require hands-on teaching techniques. My girlfriend's son doesn't take tests well and responds better to hands-on teaching as opposed to learning out of books. It was recommended to her by a therapist to enroll him in a school in our area to address these needs. He also wanted to drop of school and this sounds to me to be the same situation your daughter may be experiencing. So check with any family counselor or therapist for recommendations to any of these alternative schools located in your area. If you let your daughter drop out, she will regret it - drop outs always do and they always say they wished they would have stuck with it.

Quitting school is not the end of the world at age 16.My daughter quit at age 16,got her GED.She is going to college and today having an interview as a lab tech.Whats the problem ? You are trying to force her to do something that is just too trying for her and sounds useless.You are very wrong to not want her to live in your home,wouldn't you be concerned about her safety on the street ? Just roll with it and be there for her all the way.She can start out working at the dollar store,nothing wrong with that to start out and get experience in the real world.Its sad but sometimes you have to face the facts when something is just not going to work for your child, don't push it and make her feel bad.Just help guide her in what she can do.If you don't let her live with you if she should quit school then that is child abuse in my book.Good luck.I hope this helps.