If family steals from you while living under your roof, do you forgive?

I think if they needed somethings from you they should have asked and not stolen. I don't think I would be able to ever forgive someone taking my things...and especially my pet. I think you should cut all ties and try to move on. I know if someone betrays you it can be hard...but you don't need someone so toxic in your life!

Hello jennifer611, thanks for your post and letting us(yourmylot friends) know your situation.Personally I have not gone through incidences like you till now but I have very closely experienced multiple times similar incidences that happened with my close friends and I have seen their mental state that time.The truth is when you know you are right or speaking the truth and every normal humanbeing agrees with you except your own blood/family members, I can understand its very very painful.I can only tell you never let anyone exploit your kindness, and also always please remember if someone one has some fixed ideas/concepts, or not ready to listen your reason, you would never ever make that person or persons understand even with your best of your reasoning ability with proves cause, that person/persons are determined not to accept your points.So if I were in your place then I would have left physically , as humbleme is a peace lover and dont like unreasonable fools around him.

It almost sounds like you have aready made up your mind on what you should do but just need comfirmation that you are doing the right thing . I believe that you know what would be best for you and you will make the right decision . It is very hurtful when someone you trust and when it is someone from your own family ( which somehow makes it worse because they know you and all you have been through ) that they would do something like this to you . I had a family memeber from me before and although I still talk to her , I never trust her with anything in my house and never leave her alone . Although I don't trust her , I still talk to her as there is so much going on in her life that even though she hurt me , I still feel bad for her . I have forgiven her but will never trust her again with anything I have and am sure to warn others that she is not to be trusted . You know your family better then anyone else and the fact they were able to fool you into believeing they could be trusted is always a scary situation not to mention how hurtful this can be . Best of luck in whatever you decide .

Wow...I can't believe anyone would take advantage like that. I guess the dog shocks me the most b/c the other things are material that can be replaced but to steal a pet is like stealing someones child to me. I'd definately never help them out again and maybe you should adopt a hands off attitude. I've had to do that with certain members of my family. I'll talk to them on the phone or in a letter but they are not welcome in my home. It sounds cruel but I can't stand ppl that steal from me or lie to me. I hope things get better for you. AT PEACE WITHIN

I've never had that problem, but i do know a co-worker who had told me of a situation where she had let her niece stay with her and she stole her bank card and spent like $400 and lied and said she didn't, but my co-workers had the card traced and video showed her it was her niece at those places. Her niece as well wasn't putting in on the bills and she was using my co-worker's teenage son as the taxi. But eventually it got so bad my co-workers husband told her to get it together or go. She quickly left to move back in with her mother and now she is doing missionary work for a church and seems to be getting it together. i would probably distance myself from that person now, until they show some kind of sign of change and even then for a long time, i wouldn't leave them unattended with my stuff or in my home for many years, but i would still speak to them if i seen them at a family gathering or something.

I definitely wouldn't forgive them. Some of the stuff they did wasn't too bad. But stealing your puppy? THATS JUST GOING WAY TOO FAR!!!

ohh Jeenifer i am feeling fo ryou right now.,and im nort sure what family meber did this to you..but shame on them!! shame for taking advantage of your kindness,,and then stealing behind your back.it makes me sick and i feel bad for you..I had my best friend and her 3 kids stay with me foir about 6 weeks..and i tell u what it was hell..they were always soo bad..and trashed the house..she would yell but they didnt care,,,they have no respect for her..so why listen,,and whn i tried to disapline then toi stop hurting my son or trash the hosue she got mad..well they finally left..and i was never paid the rent she prmised..just the money she owed from shopping for her kids clothes sionce they moved here with nothing and i felt bad for them..after they left..i found ciggerette holes on the doors on my sons room and bathroom..my 3 cell phones are gone..alot of my makes and even money from his piggy bank he was saving for a skateboard..hell even my favborite blue towel..they werent family by blodd..but i considered them to be anyway ..I saw to you..never make this mistake again..let them hurt soemone else and take advantage of soemone thats not you and your family..i am just appaled a real family meber would do that especially after everythingu did for them..i say..take your steps away..for a long lomng time,,,u dont need this,,ur a wayy nicer person than for soemone to do this to you..so play the tough love card and keep them away for a long while..i really hope things get better for you..plz take care!:) April

This is simple to answer, They are human being justlike US. mistake happens. Do not keep them in mind. Instead ask them whether he or she took it or not. Do not let them fell like crime. Take it casually

I forgive but I never forget. Unfortunately my daughter seemed to think forgiveness was a sign of weakness and therefore continued to steal. Now I will never have to forgive her again as she will not get a chance to do it again.

It is a really tough situation to be in, and all I can say for sure is that I might be able to forgive them, but I would certainly not forget what they had done. I also would never give them the opportunity to do it to me again.

Mine didn't even live with me but I let them have a key to my place and we got into a fight and I came home and they taken a bunch of stuff even off my walls.I still have trust issue with them and I won't give them a key anymore.This is my home and I pay the bills so too bad if if hurts their feelings.

you were betrayed. It is really sad when family members behave in such a way. I guess it is better that you ignore these people. There is no use having such people in your life. What say?????? If I was in your place, I would ignore them and keep a distance from them. I havent faced such a situation in my life

I've had similiar situations happen with my mom and my sister. Now my brother is living with me and Im just praying he doesn't screw me over. It's always good to try to help people, especially family, but some just don't want to help themselves and thats when you have to show tough love. You were right for kicking them out. You can't jeopardize your lifestyle because someone else wants to act a fool. They say forgive and forget, or else you'll be bitter and angry. Just love that person at a distance...a very long distance.