divorce sucks!

Pardon me for saying this, but your soon to be ex is a real ding-dong! That's not a dirty word is it? Well it should be. Just replace that with the dirtiest word you can imagine and that's what I am calling him. Yes, men are babies and spiteful and vengeful. They think their childish behavior will convince you that you are in the wrong and made the wrong decision. They do not act like adults and that is sad. Just be sure to keep track of all of his comments on paper, video, diary, etc. That may help you establish a pattern of abuse if you ever need to do so in court. Take witness statements of anyone involved. And, get your financial affairs in order. If you have tax returns of his for the past number of years keep those. He will probably try to get at you financially when the real marriage dissolution takes place. I heard about one guy who literally hid everything in his house in storage and quit his job and claimed not to have money. He had three kids with his ex-wife and they ended up with nothing. Men are so petty and pathetic sometimes. Also, single moms have a better chance of getting student loans and grants from the government. So, fill out an FAFSA (think that's the name) and you may be able to get more education and money for living expenses as you get back into your life post divorce. Best of luck with your new single mom life. As far as good stress relievers, you might try posting more on My Lot. It doesn't pay that much, but the benefits can be tremendous. When my three kittens passed away on the same day, I was devastated for weeks and didn't want to eat or talk to anyone. The only way I came out of depression was to post to my friends on My Lot. I didn't talk about the situation, just everything else and it was very cathartic. Hope that helps.

The first thing I see wrong here is you said you got permission to move? you dont need anyones permission to move, and also you are entitled to your belongings he cant keep those from you , next time he calls the police tel them your there to get your things and he wont give them to you.And involving the children is so very wrong, anyhow yes there is light at the end of the tunnel , it may be a while getting there but as time goes by it will get better god bless and good luck.

my goodness....men can be such babies when they get mad and act like jerks. he should not be involving the kids in this. I don't know the situation of the divorce, but i seen on the court show where a couple were suing eachother and they talked about how the kids got to choose who they wanted to live with and the father kept bad mouthing the mother so the son ended up moving back with the mother and resented the father. Kids know who is in the right and who is the better parent in the end. As far as dealing with him, I guess it would probably be wise to have a police escort or something when you do need to see him to save him the trouble of calling (lol) and until things calm down. That way won't nothing be misunderstood or lied about in the end shall you go to court.