Will you take care of your parents when already old?

I wouldnt oput mine in a nursing home either. I have heard the horror stories and seen first hand how poorly the elderly are taken care of in them. My parents gave me the first 18 years of my life and I fee that I owe it to them to give it back to them. I will not toletate someone letting my parents go unclean or sitting in a chair all day. Their quality oflife deserves better than that.

No never. I dont know hw can a child send there parents to nursing homes, i hate these types of persons.

ya know what. that is such a hard spot to be in. I would have always responded before with "YES!!!, I will never put my parents in a home!" I did say that... but until you have been in that situation, you just don't know. My father got really sick, he had heart, liver & lung disease, alzheimers & dementia (probably spelled it wrong - oh well) anyways, he was so different. I LOVE my dad soooooo much.. I swear I do. but he was living with me and after a little bit I couldnt keep him here anymore. I just couldn't, I feel so bad about that but I was scared. he was a different person. he got really angry and mean and I was scared he would hurt my kids or someone else. he would start screaming if my kids were making noise. they were just about 3 and 4 years old. I couldnt chance him hurting someone. sometimes my dad would be sooo great. sometimes it was almost like he thought I was little again, he would talk to me like I was his little girl and so special. and sometimes he would go back to being "normal" and then all of a sudden he was so angry. you didnt know how long this was gonna last or how he was gonna be a second from now. it was so hard. I thought I would be able to take care of him but I just couldnt. and I had to have him go some where else. now that he passed on I will probably never forgive myself for that, but what choice did I really have? I never would have thought I would have turned my dad away but when it comes down to you being in that situation, you never know.

Hi Caroline, I am already doing that. My parents moved in with me 8 years ago. My mother said to me, please don't ever put me in a nursing home. My father would not do well in a nursing home. My parents are still spunky and get around. If and when the day comes, instead of giving a nursing home money. I would use their money to bring HCA in to help. These are my parents wishes and those are the wishes I will abide with. I agree with you, we may not of always liked our parents rules or positions, but at the end of the day, they are the very reason why we exist and they gave to us. When they get older, we should take care of them, not cast them off to a home with virtual strangers.

I love my parents ,when i was a child ,they looked after me.Even now ,i grow up,they also look after me as before.

i know our parents brought us up, severed us, kept us well.we should repay them. but that don't mean living togeter is a best choice. if they stay in nursing homes, they could get better care,just ok! so, the nature of filial respect is make our parents live happily, wherever they are!

Oh you bet I will take care of my parents when as they age. As you described, my parents did their best by me when I was growing up and it is my turn to do the same for them! I love them with all my heart and will do all in my power to keep them out of a nursing home.

I will take care of mine definately. Its part of our prayers in Africa to be able to take care of our old people,because what goes aroung comes around. i love my parents, they love me as well and i love my kids. Althogh if i have the money i can build an old people house for those who cant take care of there old people so the old people can have a sense of belonging.

well..i really believe my parents would enjoy that point in their life.. adn really, all i can do for help is to give them some financial assistance, visiting them,, or letting them take care of my babies while at work.. heheh.. they're really understanding and caring.. and i wouldn't want them on nursing homes, too.. and when they get a lot older, i know they'd be just so happy together and all my brothers and sisters would come there to just celebrate our togetherness..c:

my mother passed away when I was 16 years old.I looked after her in her last years..My dad earns enough money and his health is better than me.so he doesn't need my help..maybe my brothers would like to take after him when he is old enough.I need helping myself..it's my opinion..

I would never do that to my parents. I think they will need some company and a nursing home is so cold.

I would take care of them myself until I could not give them the proper care they deserve. I then would have to put them in the nursing home. There are some good homes out there. You just have to keep checking on your parent. They need you to visit often. I use to work in a nursing home. It's hard work but very rewarding. I loved it.

of coursed i will take good care of my parents when they got old.They take good care of me when i was a kid till i have my own family.And besides i own them my life so its just right to return all the cares they gave me.And i can't also see myself living without them

i think thats an obligation to a sun or daughter to take care of his or her parents when they get old. they did it for you, why wont you do it for them? ;)

yaa, i will always. they have taken care of me. Still now they care for me. I will do my best to look after them.

I don't think I would have the time to take care of them. The best option would be to put them into a nursing home, or call a service to take care of them while they can stay at home.

There is no question about my parents being in a nursing home, they will always remain with me, no matter what. The thought even never crossed my mind till i read this discussion, to be honest. There are some people, who eithe if they have had a bad childhood for whatever reasons and blame their parents for it,would prefer to have them in old homes or nursing homes, or those people who hate their parents ( i wonder how they can ) would not like to keep them and would be only too happy to let them go, or those who have monetary conflicts and want their parents share in the property etc. I some how cannot understand that no matter what, how can any child even see his parent go, after all that they have done for us, life long, and are still doing for us. They have borne and raised us to what we are, and we can never return them all that they have given us. And it doesnt matter even if they mayve done somethings that we may not have liked in the past, that maybe either for our own good or for what they thought was best for us at that time, we should be forgiving, and forgettig such things. All i can say is that we should be blessed to have parents and keep them with as much pride and love as theyve always kept us.

Yes definitely!!That's the only way I can pay them for all the years that they spend taking care of me!!I will never bring them to nursing homes. It is not right to dump them in those one of the many nursing homes.For me nursing homes is like an orphanage!!

This is a very interesting topic. When my parents got old I would love to take care of them and attend to all their needs as they have given me. I would like them to feel that I love them so much and that they are one of the most important and wonderful thing that God had given me.

Think about the next generation...Even though some may say that new generation is deviating from the old ones...they are inheriting something from the old ones...when we dump our parents in nursing home...the same may or may not happen to us...but one thing is for sure...they will definitely ask you directly or indirectly about the terrible thing you have done ...a mistake which should not have been committed...In this days of degenerating decencies we tend to lose relationships even with our parents... Actually we are not repaying the debts...its a duty which has got no explicit explanation... we are bound to do that not only physically but also mentally....love is a special kind of energy which will prove its existence in these circumstances.....