work and love

Just make a choice. Pick the path that is right for you and go for it. If you can find a job similar to the one that you are working now, that would be great but if you can't then maybe you should find another field to work in. If you have made a career for yourself ask, Is the man I love worth the hassle of finding a new career? And he should ask himself the same guess, just remove 'man' and put in 'woman'. Just sit down, look into each others eyes and imagine where your lives can go. If they go to Shanghai, go and be happy. If not, stay but most important of all you must be honest with yourselves and stay true to your hearts.