"Human Nature"

The other phrase is 'I'm only human'... this attitude grates on me badly! I can find no disgrace in being a human being, for what other choice is there? And human nature is NOT base, conniving, manipulative or cruel... I have seen a lot, and I know better! People use these phrases as excuses to get away with the wrong that they do... and to bring the rest of us down to their level. It may give them the lie that they are not so bad. But if they were truly human beings, and not unfortunate 'glitches' in our species, they would know that taking responsibility for their actions is the first priority of a sentient being!

it is not a blame on human nature , it is life itself manifesting itself right to our face.It is reminding us that life in general are full of screw ups, it became a screw up because it means it did not go as planned.we were meant to believe that if things are planned that nothing will go wrong, there is always something that will go wrong because we cannot prdict the fututre nor we are mind readers ,knowing what the other perosn will do or react.We are endowed with a software inside our head to respond to such adversities and it is all up to us to manage it, not control.It is not about survival it is all about knowing how to live life, overcoming adversities in our lives.

In a way screwing up IS "Human Nature" BUT that doesnt mean we should use it as our excuse or to justify any stupid move we've made..YES its Human Nature to make mistakes, bad choices in varying degrees etc etc throughout our lives, its how we learn really BUT that doesnt mean we shouldnt own up to whats ours? We can used the Human Nature fact as the BASE very BASIC reason as to why something happens or why we did somethign but ultimately its OUR CHOICE that put it into action... make sense?

I believe that people use this to say that some of the things we do that are wrong, are part of human nature. As in these are things that humans did on a regular basis before we became enlightened by education and religion and such. We are not doomed to this behavior however. It does cause a misconception when a person speaks of human nature, as if we cannot rise above this behavior. It seems to make the person feel like it was not their fault, and they have no control over what they do. This is extremely false. We always have control over our actions and choices, regardless of "human nature." We are no longer animals guided by instinct. We have thought and reason. And to do something and look upon it later as human nature, is renouncing those things that humanity has fought hard for over the decades. I, for one, accept all my mistakes, and never blame it on some instinct leftover from caveman days. I did it, and if it was wrong, I atone for it, but you will not catch me saying "Don't worry about it, its just human nature."

How about just admitting I did it, or I wanted to do it or I wanted it. I feel a person has to own up and take responsibility for their behavior and not blaime someone or some other reason for it. I was raised being blaimed for all that was wrong with my mom's life. Still mom wants to blaime us girls espically my twin and I. We made her fat we where the cause of problems with mom and dad's marriage. I feel mom needed to blaime someone instead of taking responsiblilty for herself.

I think that this statement is a way to pass the buck and now accept responsibility for the cause and effect of choice. Ownership is a tough thing for people because it is easier to play the blame game than to become accountable. Our society is full of those who blame everything and everyone and that gives them an out. We hear it all the time.."my parents/upbringing/societal influences/religious dogma" are to blame for the way I am. Well, yes we are all a product of our environment and if that conditioning works..keep on with it. However, when peoople 'screw up' and things cease to take people in the direction they want to go that is the time to stop and look at why things went that way and to examine their part in the dynamics. In my view we are not doomed by our human condition because we were given a basic human right...choice. It is this choice making ability that can lead us to new pathways of discovery...if there is a willingness to exercise it. No one has complete contraol over what happens to them. However, they can control how they CHOOSE to respond to the events in life. So the idea that there are imprinted patterns of human nature that can never be altered is an erroneous belief system that people buy into. The traits that I do think most of have in common are a need to be loved, accepted and understood. Those needs may lead to some unusual behavior patterns..but choice is at the root of everything. People talk about addictions...but to me they are compulsive coping patterns. "Addicted' individuals overcome their patterns by deciding they are going to change...and choosing whatever form of therapy will assist them in achieving that goal. So even within the most compulsive thought and behavior patterns people change through choice. It is the path to liberation. I know from personal and professional experience once a person decides to change the way they think...they change their lives! There is an amazing truism I have consistently seen in action...whatever people assume to be true usually becomes their reality.

Every action we take, good, neutral or bad, is within the boundaries of human nature. However, it does not necessarily justify all actions. We do, as reasoning human beings, have the ability to control our human nature, barring a mental defect of course. Therefore we usually praise the very good and punish the very bad. It's the neutral area that is rarely mentioned as human nature. The degree to which we control our human nature is, with few exceptions, a matter of choice.