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It is really annoying to have such an experience. You would feel shy to ask for the money lent to her for fear that she might not be happy for your asking her to get it back. But then you will feel unhappy if the money is not returned. Anyway there must be one party that won't feel happy. It is still better to make her feel unhappy so that she will later remember not to borrow things or money again from you. Don't worry to ask for it. It is yours and she is supposed to know that. Otherwise no more money will be lent to her. Good luck to you, my friend.

Yes it is really annoying. I have a friend when I was young and she borrowed my comics collection. I really trust her and thought she will take care of it and keep it safe but she let some other kids borrow it from her wihout asking me for permission. My collection hasn't been returned =(

I think you should be more direct. After all, she is already being rude, so I think you should call her on it, because otherwise she'll be like this forever. Ask for your stuff back. And don't lend her other things until she's returned the previously borrowed items. I guess, though, that this is easier typed than done. friendships can be tricky, huh?

I had a friend like that, she has what I call a busy mind. She was so busy that she would forget and then if she has it long enough, she loses it. The last thing she borrowed was a music tape that was bought for me, but I am not worried about it.. She no longer is in my life anyways, but if she was and wanted to borrow something, I would say, "sure, where is my _____ that you borrowed last time, I could use that right now?" I would tell her that to borrow any more, you must return the last thing you borrowed..

Before I lend anything, I always consider if I trust that person enough to take care of my belongings the way I would. I don't lend anything I wouldn't want to lose or want to get broken. That way, I avoid getting annoyed when they don't return it.

have a nice sleep,and waiting for the sunshine of the next day... a friend is not a frend you did discuss it here,it means,you could not give up the friendship,just let it be and some day tell her what you are thinking now,good night.

Yes! When I was younger, I used to loan out things to people all the time. But when lots of things did not get returned, it made me mad. Then it affects the friendship in a bad way. Also, when you have to pester someone to get something back, it just makes the whole situation bad. So now I do not loan out my things anymore. It is better that way.

I'd just get angry on them and demand they give it back...eventually call their parents or whatsoever. Anyhow, I haven't encountered any problems with my friends and borowing things. We borrow eachother so many things, and everything stays fine :)

Hiee friend yup even i experience that..!! like my friends take things but they won't return it back i feel guilty to ask them back it looks odd..!!when i need it urgent that situation is very bad... i experienced it many times..!!so friends listen if your taking some thing your friend please return it back to them of their respective things even if they don't ask okay!!so thats very bad if you don't give it back..!!

It really annoys me coz when I want to use the items I lent to my friends,I found the items had not be given back to me,so I had to ask them to give my items back.

if i met that kind of people: first time, lend it to them. second time, lend it to them. remind them to give the last thing back. third time, remind them to give things back. won't lend them anything else until i can get my stuffs back. three strikes.

it has happened to me a lot of times. that after awhile just got tired of always at the receiving end finally decided not to lend anything anymore, let them think whatever they want to think,l i don't care!!!!!!!!

Yeah I always hated , when I was kid.My mum used to borrow some books to my cousin and I was really kinda sad, because it was mine.I have never seen those books again.Today , nobody ask me to borrow something and I am really glad, because I am not good at all to say somebody no.So for this time I don't need to deal with it.

I went through this stuff for years with a neighbor, but when I needed to borrow anything they never had it. So, I finally got tired of the neighbor sending her children to my front door with a cup for sugar, milk, or coffee, or whatever. They even borrowed a tube of caulking, which never got returned. It got so bad that it was like every other day. Both father and mother worked and their children always had everything they wanted. It wasn't like they couldn't go to the store like anyone else and get it, they just didn't want to be inconvenienced, but it was okay to inconvenience you. I finally said "Sorry, I don't have any every time they came to the door." I found it funny, it was never the parent who came, and when they saw me I never got a thank you. I gave up on the idea that anything would be returned. When they got ready to move from the neighborhood, the mother brought me two books she thought I would enjoy reading. I had to laugh when I didn't say "Thank you." They were books she had borrowed from me. I looked her straight in the eye and said "I didn't think you would ever return them." Guess she couldn't read my name in the front cover. She left with a very red face.

I know exactly what you mean, it happens to me all the time. They borrow things and 2 months or so later you ask for it back then get excuses,first they say yeah if they can find it, that they haven't a clue as to where it is and your thinking they should know and take care of something that is borrowed but they don't. I sometimes ask for things and they say they will look for it later then I call back 2 days and get oh I didn't look yet. Sometimes I get stuff back broke and worthless and they don't offer to buy another one or pay for the one they broke. It gets on my nerves to no end. It got to the point where if it was worth money or cost to much for me to replace I would make up the same excuses they would I don't know where it's at, I'look for it later,etc..I cannot keep buying stuff then hardly get to use it and then have someone else tear it up, things are to expensive now days. I know to some that it is bad not to let friends borrow things but there has to be a stop point. They say revenge is sweet so you could try to start borrowing their things and be forgetful in returning them and doing just like them, but then again two wrongs don't make a right. So I would just day follow your heart and if it keeps up you will have to think if the relationship will be strong enough to withstand a big talk with them and the things they do. You will have to set limits saying hey if you borrow this it has to be back by so and so day and make sure they know you mean it. Start putting time limits on things is the best bet. I wish you luck and hope this works for you.

I had a friend like that once so I had to give up the friendship as it wasn't worth it. This friend did the same thing as your friend is doing.

I do have friend like that. She borrows books and videos and I don't see them for a couple of years if ever. The books wouldn't bother too bad except that most of the books I own are part of a collection or series so if I'm missing one then I have to replace it to keep the collection intact. I have the entire Anne Rice collection of Vampire novels. The last book I got for the collection she borrowed before I even read it. Then she let her daughter borrow it without even asking me, then her daughter let a friend borrow it and it disappeared after that. I ended up having to replace it.. and yes I made her pay for it. She's never borrowed a book from me since. I have had this happen with so many "friends" that I no longer lend out anything to anyone unless I don't necessarily want or need it back. It may seem a little selfish but it's easier on a friendship to tell them "I don't lend things out to anybody" than it is to feel used by them and damaging a friendship permanently.

Yes, it annoys me very much. I hate it when people "borrow" things and don't return them. THey might as well just ask if they can have it.

I've lost some things that were irreplaceable, mostly books, by loaning them to friends I thought valued them as much as I did. I picture them in a dumpster and it breaks my heart. My friend and I now borrow each others craft books, but we are putting name-plate labels in them so they don't get discarded by mistake. If this is a habitual behavior with certain people, I would simply start today with learning to say no. Its a lot easier in the long run than getting into fights. And YOU are not the person who is being rude!!!

Well,she should return it to you in time ,she may don't need it after she have use it,but the thing is yours and you may need it sometime.So itis wrong for her.We should learn from it.