How do you feel about fear of rejection?

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Fear of rejection is really about ego. If I meet someone and they decide that I'm not the right person for them...should that matter? If my ego says that somehow my value rises when I am wanted and diminishes when I don't fit what someone is looking for, is that true? But, really, neither of these situations has to do with my inherent worth. If I'm in the mood to buy a sweater and I find a red one that I like, does it mean that all red sweaters are superior? If I walk into the supermarket looking for apples and they only have pears, does it mean that apples are no good? Fear of rejection is also about self-centeredness. If I spend an entire date afraid that you think I'm boring or foolish or needy, I might as well be on a date with myself. My own feelings are all I'm thinking of. If I focused on you for a minute, I might snap out of my self-centeredness enough to learn something about you. So how do you feel about these statements. I have had a problem with this my entire life. While it is in the basic sense self-centeredness, it somehow seems to me the very opposite. I care too much what others think and far less about what I think. I have somehow always thought to be confident and not care what other people think is to not care at all and to be self-centered. So where are you on this?