Can you be friends with an ex?

I guess it is nice if you can, I never have been able to but then I have had some pretty dramatic finishes and I prefer to put the past behind me, shut the door so to speak. I think it would be hard for most people especially when one gets a new partner and it would be a little hard for their new partner whose feelings should be considered.

well for me,i think its possible to have friends with our ex's. I and my Ex's are still friends except for one because i'ved never seen him here after the break up. All I heard about him from his couz' that his already married. And im happy for him and wished him lucked and his family. Relationships wether it may be friends or much more than that really depends upon the persons involved in it. If you get along together and managed to stay as healthy as possible i think it has no problem with that. It will only become a problem when you two go beyond your limitations.

I say yes deff!!! I dont see any reason why not if you both agree it wont hurt you emotionally..like seeing your ex with a new woman and vice versa..thats why i always give my relationships breathing time..and come to peace with myself..before i go back to the friendship we had..theer have beeb many i wouldnt never be friends with let alone same building lol..but i also have soo many ex friends..thats its like we know..it didnt work..lets get over that..and move on back to what friendship we had..although it takes a little time..its stil worth it in my opinion..have a good one! April

I think you can still be friends with an ex. I'm still friends with one of my ex's. In fact, I saw him a few weeks ago and spoke to him. We kinda broke up due to a mutual feeling also so maybe that's how I can still be friends with him. Maybe if it was a bad break up or it had been a violent relationship then I probably wouldn't stay friends with the ex.

I think its possible for ex's to be friends, but in some cases I don't think its for the best. In my situation, I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago because we were fighting all the time and I was no longer happy. I went on with my life and I soon realized that without him i was extremely happy. I had somewhere down the line, fallen out of love with him. Well, needless to say he is still in love with me and wishes to be my friend. I have told him everyway possible that I don't want him as a friend. There are a few reasons why...I have a feeling that if I'm still in his life, he won't be able to move on. Another reason is because even when we hang out, we still fight. And third, I don't see him in my future and I don't see this as a life long friendship, so why should I string him along even more? I think it all depends on the situation, some people can handle the frienship, others can't. Good luck!!

Me and my ex are good friends too even if our relationship before didn't work. We had accepted it deep in our hearts that we could not be together as husband and wife because we were not compatible in it. But we were not saying that we could not be friends. :) He always ask my help like asking me to make programs on his wedding and I ask some help from him too. It is healthy because we forgive and forget about the past. They are still part of us so why not make them our friends too. And yes, they knew us better for many years. And so they should be our friends.:D

I think that if ending the relationship was a mutual decision then being friends could work but if the break up was bad and only one person wanted out and the other didnt then I think there are harsh feelings and friendship isn't possible. I know I am not friends with my ex. I left him almost 2 years ago and he won't even talk to me. But I am married now so that's probably better.

I think whether one can be friends after a breakup depends upon the particulars of the breakup. If a married couple just drift apart and neither have been unfaithful and there are no really bad feelings, then I see that it would be easy to remain friends. However, often there are terrible circumstances surrounding a breakup that make it difficult or impossible to be friends. I do feel that each party should be 'civil' towards the other if children are involved and not try to turn the children against the other. That serves no purpose except to make the children uncomfortable and feel as though they have to chose sides.

yes, sometimes i have heard that a couple are better off as friends and even closer as friends than when they were married/together as a couple. this seems to be common amongst previously marrieds...it seems that either they hate each other or get along as really great friends lol!

Yes. It is possible.. but not for me I think. During that time when my ex and I talked on the phone for just a friendly chat, my boyfriend got jealous and so I didn't communicate with my ex anymore.. also, It was not such a friendly chat at all since when I told my ex about my new boyfriend.. he was like.. feeling sad about himself and all other sentiments that we had when we were still dating are being brought up.. something like recalling what happened to our relationship, etc.. but i do want us to be friends.. normal/ordinary friends.. no more no less. :)

In the past I didn't think we could even be friends. Especially after we broke up. I didn't hate him, but I was just so depressed and dared not to have a contact with him. I was afraid that I would accept him again and couldn't let my sadness go. Finally I got married with another and had a baby after 5 years. I contact him again as I still would like to be friends. After all, I have my own family and I can really treat him as my friend. Except for the love between a man and woman, we can still have many interests to share. I just wonder whether he thinks so.

I think that if you can have a friendship after a break-up it's very healthy..I am really good friends with one of my exes...We dated for a year and got to know each other very well he is a really good friend...We just drifted apart for any relationship type of love and he gave me his blessing to try and work things out with my sons dad...We are still really good friends and he gets along great with my husband too..I call him when I need to talk because he understands me sometimes in away that my husband doesn't..

It depends.If the two have a moderate individuality,maybe after break up they can still be frieds and keep on touch with each other.Or someone loves the other very very much,he or she will maintain contact with the other even break up and not want anything but contact and pay out.

Oh am an indian here such ex term has no relation with lovers. Here that goes with retired people only. We consider love as something godly/divine.

yes, I believe so..I am in good terms with my ex, during our relationship,I became so close with his whole family and even when we broke up and I got married I still feel close to them, they loved me and I kinda maintain that good relationship with them.

It depends upon how the relationship ended. If it was a mutual break up and it ended ok, and you both agree that you can still be friends, then I think this is good. If the relationship ended badly, it may take many years to regroup and become friends again. I know this happened with my husband. We were married many years ago, we divorced because he cheated on me and left me for someone else. It took me over 5 years to get over that. Slowly we mended the fences and became friends again. He realized his relationship with her was not the answer to what he was looking for. We ended up getting back together a couple of years ago. But we have become such close friends and that has just increased our bond.

I think don't see anything wrong with an ex being a friend if only the breakup is on a mutual understanding. since you know each other better one can seek some advice from the other but mind you, check the feeling and gesture when receiving the advice and the content very well if it should be taken or not. if she/he is jealous may give a misleading one. however, for the virtue of the fact that you've brokenup on matual grounds makes it healthy friendship.

Yes, it is very possible and much healthier than bitterness. I am very good friends with a couple of my exes. And am on good terms with all of them except for one and that is one where we just avoid each other entirely. Even in the worst relationships, it just never made sense to continue the battle after broken up. I mean isn't that why you break up....to end the battle?

Yes, I still am friends with my ex even after 20 years of marriage. I am happily married and have told my husband everything. Except for some sporadic periods of jealosy from my husband, he has never stopped me from being friends with him. I loved his family very much and they loved me in return. Till today, we are in touch and its fun.

It depends on the situation. If you have loved him or her too much, then the very site of them after you break up will kill you and seeing them as friends is almost impossible. Even if you try to behave as a friend, you will have all other feelings inside your heart and one fine day it will explode and you will get a heart attack. LOL