Leaving home
@GardenGerty (160696)
United States
August 26, 2007 9:58pm CST
A friend just asked this question, about her daughter going to college. Her daughter has been gone two weeks, came home for a visit, and left, and mom will see her again in two weeks.My friend is finding each parting incredibly hard. Her question has made me think about the same experience I had, when my daughter left. She only went about two blocks away. My daughter had left many times, to go to Hungary, to go to Mexico, to travel around the United States, but when she left for college, my "little girl" died, in a sense. She never would need me in quite the same way again. It was poingnant, and sad, and final. The good news is that I have, in return, gained an awesome young woman as my friend. I admire her so much, and am terribly flattered when people say she is like me. For the trade to this new, wonderful friend, I would say losing my little girl was worth it. How did you feel when your children left home?
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@superwzp (3)
• China
28 Aug 07
First time I left my parents is 4 years ago,when I had to go to my college.At first half year,I went home every two weeks.I don't like stay at school,I always miss my parents.But about 1 year later,I find I should learn to independent,so I find some intereting things to do.Then I jioned in school corporation and acted as the heading of corporation.Now I left my school and have my job,I can take care of myself.
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I don't have kids, so I can't relate in that aspect, but leaving my dad when I went to college was terribly hard. We exchanged sentimental letters to one another and I took mine into the college dorm bathroom and shut myself in a stall and read it, so that I could be alone. It was so sweet adn heart wrenching and I cried and cried. Even to this day I can read that letter and cry and my dad is not with us anymore, so it is more valuable to me. I know it was hard on him, and it was hard on me. But he was such a good parent, that I wanted to come home and see him all the time because he was so good to me, and was interested in my grades and what I was learning at school. And because he was such a good parent, we were always best friends, when I was in college and afterwards. He had to let me go and because he did I loved him even more.
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@itshalom (355)
• Singapore
27 Aug 07
My parents were separated when I was in my teens so along with my brothers we were independent growing up with work, and friends are what we have enjoy having for they shared many experiences with us. We were so busy with our career that we only visited our mum once or twice a fortnight but it was always her phone call that connected us. In the past my fear that she interfered and telling me what to do makes me distant her. I felt for her as i matures and has been expressing my true feelings of communication on our views now. I learnt that we have to respect each other opinions. A mother's heart will always in the thoughts of her children. May all mother thinks that way.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
It uis hard to say for me, as my daughter is 14 years. I know I am going to face this, as she really wants to be a vet. There are no vet raining university courses in my state, so she will definitely need to go interstatye. The closest university is Melbourne, where I would prefer to go, but being the top uni for vets, she will almost certainly need to do part or all of a science degree first.
The other unis are in Brisbane, Sydney, Perth & nerw Zealand, all a very long way from home. I think I am going to find iot very difficult.
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
honestly it's painful to let go of our children. but we just have to face reality that they grow up and no longer our babies. they go out into the world to seek their dreams and life just like what we did in our time. it's a cycle really, and that's the realities of life.
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@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
i dont have aby children yet,.. but to the part as a child leaving home.
i am 21 years old and is studying away from my mothers or families care. for me it was hard. but later on, i got used to it. the beginnings are hard but in the long run you will get used to it. i guessed that is what has happened to you and your "child"....
@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
27 Aug 07
My daughter is still too young to move out, but I often think about the moment when she´s going to leave home for good.
I think it´s going to be very hard for me. I´m going to miss her so much. My daughter is trilingual and she might end up studying and, or working abroad. I always encourage her to do so, because it´s extremely difficult to find work here in Spain.
If she decided to stay here I would obviously be happy to have her near me, but the choice is up to her.
The most important thing to me is for her to be happy, but I can´t help feeling extremely sad when I think about her leaving.
I hope we´re going to be good friends like you and your daughter...
A great discussion topic, Garden Gerty.
Dana
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Aug 07
Well Gerty in my case I left Home and yes it is hard but there are several reasons I moved to the South
But one of them was that my Kids where living their Lifes round me because I am sick and I did not want that as they have their own Lifes to live
But the main reason I moved here is to be closer to the Man I love
But every time I go to see the Kids or they come to me it is hard to part again and yes I guess the Babies have grown up which sometimes is hard to accept to
To me they will always be my Babies no matter how old they are
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
3 Sep 07
It’s not something I have to deal with yet in the sense of leaving for college- My daughter is 10- But on Wednesday I’m dropping her off at her dads and they are going to Florida until Tuesday- we live in NY. This is super hard- I don’t want her to go- but at the same time I know she will have fun- I’m hoping she changes her mind at the last minute and decides to stay home! I had hoped it gets easier- but I see it does not!
@yanjiaren (9031)
•
7 Sep 07
I had to kinda let go of my son pretty earl..I mean too early via a divorce and it still kills me inside. Everytime I get to se my son I feel the pinch of not being able to be a full time Mum anymore and it makes me a bit sad. On the other hand I know that I haven't lost him deep down as we still have a good relationship and he knows Mum is working hard to make a better future for him. Better chances than I had.
@yemberzal (301)
• India
27 Aug 07
Though it is heart breaking sending our young ones away from our home, we miss them a lot. But for better future of the children , we have to be contended. However, children after coming home look more wise, tolerant and matured.
@lisa_wxy (393)
• China
9 Sep 07
i have been leaving home since i went to my highschool.and then i went to college,it is thousands miles away.i never sensed that my parents worried about me so much when i was a third-year college students.
now,i would like to choose to work close to them,then i can come home and visit them from time to time.
