Do you have an Inner Critic...How Much Do You Listen?
@Perspectives (7131)
Canada
August 27, 2007 12:23am CST
To one degree or another I think many of us have an inner critic. You know the talking voice in your head that torments you with the 'wouda, coulda, shoudas.' It is the same chiding voice that creates self-doubt, perfectionistic thinking, and is endlessly critical about what is not being done...or should be done. Sometimes it pushes so hard that it forces you to push beyond your limits in a valient attempt to shut it up!
Some psychologists think that the harsh inner critic has actually been programmed into the psyche from a parent who made a child feel that they were not measuring up to their exacting standards. In adulthood the pattern is subconsioulsy carried on because we tend to treat ourselves the way our parents treated us unless we break the cycle and change our beliefs.
So do you have an inner critic...and how much do you listen to it? Does it affect the choices you make...push you beyond your limits...or can you tell it to put a sock in it? For me I used to have a really tough inner critic and it drove me to patterns of perfectionism and Type A personality traits...until I figured out that it my really a carryover from childhood...and the voice was not mine by my alcoholic father's.
No matter what I did it was never good enough...and once I got that it was him..I was able to change the dynamic and start living life from my own center. It took time but now when upon rare occasions the old inner critic voice tries to dictate to me...I stand in the resonance of my own power and tell it to take a hike and remind it that I am choosing to live my life the way I see fit. Thankfully it is silenced very quickly because I mean it!
How about you? Are you aware if you have an inner critic and if it affects your sense of self when it starts ranting? Or do you have a gentler, more loving inner voice that is able to give you pats on the back without feeling guilty when you do a good job? Thanks for being willing to share your perspectives again if you choose to.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
27 Aug 07
Oh I had one when hubby passed.
I kept aftermyself of what more could I have done . Did I really go by his wishes os not being put on machines.
WHile in the coma his right eye was open a little bit and I kept thinking he wanted me to do more and that it was acussing me of not helping him to come out of coma.and I dont know what could have done than what we did.
we played all his favorite song almost 24/7 talked ,loved on him , kissed him even did some massages on arms and legs to no avale.
For months after he passed I could see that eye staring at me. I am just hoping that he was trying to tell me all was ok with him.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
28 Aug 07
The thing about it is we had talked for years of what we wanted done but really when the time came (way to soon ) wasnt sure if I was right at the time but I do know he isnt hurting any more. and he was so good he never moaned at all.
thanks as I am soon off to baed too the wings are getting wrapped arond hugs and blessings
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
You are welcome dear friend...sometimes we carry things around inside because we formed a perception that maybe isn't valid. I sense your hubby's presence around you...and there is great love and understanding between you. Right now I am sure he wants you to release any remaining concerns about your choices...and put all your energies towards your needs right now. Please nurture yourself as much as you do everyone else!
Signing off now...but my prayers will be sent to you again tonight...wrap yourself up in your hubby's love...and those special Angel wings of yours!
Many big hugs and blessings...
Your friend Raia
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@ZenDove (698)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I developed an inner critical voice after my first marriage was over. Surprisingly, it wasn't that husband's condemnations I kept hearing - it was his mother's! I mean, complete with exact tonations and everything! She criticized everything I did or didn't do - my posture, my ironing, my cooking, the way I burped my baby, my very existence! "Unh,unh,unh, terrible, terrible", she would mumble and shake her head in pity and disgust. Years after the divorce, I was still hearing her voice. Finally, I realized that what kept "her" around was my hidden desire for her approval, which I would never, could never, receive. I looked at her life and realized how sad, bitter and angry she was and I sent her back where she came from, wrapped in the pink light of love and forgiveness. I told myself that it wasn't personal, it was karmic. I had never lived with that kind of constant criticism. All the women in my life before her really loved me - what was her problem?! It was actually a blessing because her criticism helped me to closely examine my own insecurities and vulnerabilities. I learned to wrap MYSELF in the pink light of love and forgiveness. My existence here is ordained by the Universe, even with all my faults and foibles and that's perfect enough for me!;-)
Thank you again for a great discussion.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
27 Aug 07
You are welcome glad you like the topic..and thank YOU for another open, honest response. While reading about the harsh, critical voice of your ex mother in law all one cannot help but wonder what kind of a threat you represented to her. You are a gal after my own heart in the way you stand back and do your best to assess what you need to learn from the events in life and then move on.
Wrapping yourself up in the pink light of love and forgivenss and truly 'owning' your connection and purpose to Universal light and love reveals your true spiritual nature. The more I read about who you are and your world views I know you will discover all the answers you need to live your best life.
Wishing you and yours many light filled blessings.
Raia
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@sunshinecup (7871)
•
27 Aug 07
Wow, what a nice unique topic! I love it!!!
I have a few voices really, LOL. Yep go ahead and call the men with their nets. :oD
The first one and most dominate one I will tell you about first. My parents were horrible abusive parents. But this inner voice didn't come from them, I can't say where it came from but not them. It's what kept me from being like them and was what pointed out at a very early age to me, "hey these guys aren't normal". I call it the wise old women, really. She has helped me make better choices and seems to know better than I do, (I know I sound nuts). Yes I do tell her to shut up and ignore her advice and yes most of the time I regret doing so.
Now there is that other "voice" that sounds much like the one you mentioned. I can say it came from my parents, in fact it is my mother's voice. It tries to hold me back and tells me very often I am nuts and wrong. Now that voice I know right from the start and I know to ignore it. It manly comes out when I am charging ahead into something new in my life. I like to picture the wise old women shoving a cork in that one's mouth, LOL.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
27 Aug 07
Thanks for your cudos about the topic..yes it is one I think many people can relate to. After reading your open, honest post about your earlier life I can appreciate that somewhere along the way your inner critic developed.
I can relate to your intutive knowing that 'these guys aren't normal'...except it took a lot longer for me to 'get it.' And no it doesn't sound nuts to me...I think the inner voices are there in a lot of people's consciousness...it just isn't something any of us are willing to share until there is a place to do so. The great thing about Mylot is that we can open up and post discussions that might be more challenging face to face.
Your image of the cork works for me...only mine is a sock! Thanks for being such a great participant in Perspectives topics. Your wonderful attitude and solid views always add so much everyday wisdom.
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
Yes I have an inner critic in me.
No matter what job I decide to do... I am not satisfy until it is perfect. And it is never perfect enough because 100 per cent perfection is physically impossible. Take my word for it... I tried...(laugh)
Luckily... my customers are not as critical as I am... and when I think it is only 97 per cent perfect... they tell me it is wonderful. It is only after they told me how wonderful it is that I can let it rest and forget about it. If the customer is happy... I am happy.
My inner critic did turn me into a perfectionist... but it has cost me a lot of money over the years and kept me poor. Because being a perfectionist is time consuming... and time is money. You simply cannot make money and do a good job at the same time. That is why it is so hard to find someone who will do a good job for you. I always took pride in my work. I don't think about the money all that much. What's important to me is to make people happy. And I did achieve that much.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
27 Aug 07
Do you have any idea where your inner critic came from? I am always curious because children come into this world as 'sponges' and they absorb ideas and a sense of self from those around them.
Perfectionistic thinking can be demanding and unrelenting and that 'never good enough' mind set can be exhausting. Oddly enough I overcame that mindset after learning how to do ceramics. The 'artist' in me loved to hand paint the pieces and if, in my mind they were not 'perfect' I took little creative satisfaction in the finished piece.
When I placed them in the garden and people 'oohed' and 'aawwed' it gave me reason to pause and do a reality check and I slowly allowed myself to see things through their eyes rather than my perfectionist view. My hubby has also been a great encourager as have friends. Somehow I have reached a point of doing the best job I can...but then reaching a point where enough is enough and I let it go and move on. It has allowed me to keep my perfectionist in check...I still value her input but she is no longer allowed to drive me the way she once did. Thankfully, life is much more rewarding, satisfying and less draining.
From the various topics we have discussed it sounds like you have genunine integrity and a great work eithic. Your customers are obviously wowed by what you do...is there any chance that will eventually allow you to take a breath and say..."I've done d@#m good job here...I'm going to give myself an 'atta boy' and tell the fussy perfectionist to back off?" Maybe not...you did say you tried before.
On the topic of work...what type of work do you do? In any case it sounds as you have found a way to truly live life on your own terms...and that is what most people are looking for.
Enjoyable chat again...thanks Aussie.
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
27 Aug 07
I like to think that my inner critic is genetic.
My father was a perfectionist in everything he did.
And I have a sister who is like that as well.
I think perfectionists are imaginative and creative people who are good with their hands and use their brain to find new ways to do things.
I am a painter decorator. I was an excellent painter at 25. But along the years I came up with so many new little ideas to improve things... that by 40 I was a super painter. Some of my customers in Sydney are beging me to comeback because they cannot find a painter to produce the quality of work I was doing for them. I sort of spoiled them. (laugh)
Painting can be very hard work because of all the preparation which need to be done. But it is a very rewarding job. Because you come in last, after all the other trades. And you are the one who make it all pretty. You can build a new house... but it is not pretty until it has been painted.
In the last 5 years I have learned to let go and be a bit more relax about it all. But this is because I have been dealing with some more important issues. Perfectionism had to take the backdoor versus my agoraphobia.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
27 Aug 07
Your view of perfectionism being a genetic trait sounds feasible...couple that with the evirnoment we are raised in..and role models like your father. I can see why the agrophobia has become a higher priority.
I apprciate hearing about the work you do...and how well you do it. I think I have used this quotation by American baseball player Dizzy Dean..."It ain't bragging when you do it!" My hubby's uncle was a painter and I agree with your view about a fresh coat of paint making everything feel pretty and fresh.
Our house is starting to need new paint on most of the rooms. Speaking of that...how often is a new paint job in order? Does it depend on how badly they require spackling or something else to fill in holes and knicks? Does the quality of paint really affect how things look and last? Hope you don't mind me picking your professional brain here. We are moving off topic here but I am finding that on-line discussions can go in different directions just as they do in face to face chats.
Anyhow I hope you know that I value the way you come back and keep the disucssions going until we've talked them through and moved on to another one. Your on-line friendship is something I have truly come to appreciate.
Warm regards,
Raia
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I do have an inner critic although I don't know where it came from. Alot of times I will have to do something to keep from going nuts like if I know I have a chore to do it will bug me to end until I go do it. Once it's done I'm fine. Also when I do stitching or quilting I am my own worst critic. I see every mistake I made and they seem to be bright and glaring in my eyes where most ppl don't even notice it.
Have a great day!!
AT PEACE WITHIN
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
Wow...just noticed you have reached your 1000th post...congrats on that! I am finding it goes faster than it did when I was trying to reach the first 100...then striving to make the 500 club.
Anyway that sense of being overly critical was something I got over after doing ceramics. People who saw the pieces in my garden were wowed...and all I did was point out all the mistakes. My hubby pointed out that it was my issue...and the fact that no one else saw what I did helped me realize I needed to get over myself and just enjoy my hobby and the positive feedback. Life is much sweeter in this place than my old way...and like I said in the discussion..I tell my inner critic to put a sock in it! Works well!LOL
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
Wow...just noticed you have reached your 1000th post...congrats on that! I am finding it goes faster than it did when I was trying to reach the first 100...then striving to make the 500 club.
Anyway that sense of being overly critical was something I got over after doing ceramics. People who saw the pieces in my garden were wowed...and all I did was point out all the mistakes. My hubby pointed out that it was my issue...and the fact that no one else saw what I did helped me realize I needed to get over myself and just enjoy my hobby and the positive feedback. Life is much sweeter in this place than my old way...and like I said in the discussion..I tell my inner critic to put a sock in it! Works well!LOL
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
7 Sep 07
The only place I feel I have a critical voice is in my art and other projects... my parents were both level-headed, realistic, and very loving... even through their divorce it was clear that all of the problems were theirs alone.
I think that, no matter how well-rounded you are, there's a bit that isn't quite sure... and yes, another person's voice is required to let you know that it IS good, that it needs nothing else.
But you don't ask just anyone, you go to a person whose opinion you respect.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
What you describe sounds pretty healthy to me. I certainly agree with your view about seeking wise counsel from others as we are learning and developing our skills and talents. We all need mentors!
So from the sound of it you have a healthy sense of self..and a level head on your shoulders so you shouldn't have any trouble in sorting out the constructive/destructive aspects of any inner/outer feedback. Good for you!
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@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
8 Sep 07
Well, Raia, I'd be lying me hiney off if I claimed to not have that little critic harpy sitting on my shoulder nagging like an old wicked step grandmonster. To be honest, the only things I'm even hearing from that little hate-everything-about-me voice are these:
1) Hold your temper, dammit! Save the rage for something more important.
2) Do those crunches, girl, those belly shirts are waiting for you!
3) Don't wait till 8pm Sunday to start that homework!
LOL
Seriously, tho, that nagging little shrew has screwed me up way too many times. Getting good at only hearing what I want...it's kind of like listening to my mom.
Great discussion, as usual.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
11 Sep 07
Well that you for your comments about the discussion...and your entertaining little commentary! I love th 'little critic harpy sitting on your shoulder nagging like an old wicked step--GRAND MONSTER! What a very vivid image that portray..the perfect visual of what one would imagine she'd look like Good one!
Your final comment...its kind of like listening to your mom...hmmmm that is a really good clue to where ALL our inner critics originate...from the critical voices of parents or caregivers. Surely kids don't make this stuff up themselves! Also in our work we KNOW that people tend to treat themselves the way their parents treat/treated them. So ironically...we end up in familiar comfort zones...and keep on doing what we know until we have some kind of 'awakening.' These fascinating concepts are why I love my work!
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
27 Aug 07
I have a number of inner voices... amy I crazy or something? *giggles*
For me the inner voice that is usually critical of me is my grandmother's voice. When I lived with her, it seemed like she was behind me every moment telling me how horrible I was, how fat I was, how I wasn't good at anything... blah blah blah. So anytime I'm down on myself about something, I always hear her voice in my head.
There are a couple different voices that I think of as mine... one of which is sort of "the old me" and one of which is sort of "the new me". The line between those time periods in my life is when I moved to Michigan, getting out of my family situation. As time goes on, that new voice gets stronger and stronger, which is good, because it's the one that is more positive and encouraging. =)
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
27 Aug 07
As I read responses you are not the only who wonders if the inner voices sound crazy...not in my view. Discussions like this are great because they give all of us a chance to reveal our idioscyncrasies and realise we are not the only ones who have them!LOL
Anyhow, good to know that you are phasing out the 'old crone' voices and developing the confidence to trust that great inner knowing you have and allow that to more of the Authority rather than someone who lacked the capacity to love others the way you do. I think we are of the same mind that our true strength comes from our connection to whatever means of "invisible support' we are connected to. You have a strong and positive voice and it comes through loud and clear in your disucssions and responses. Hopefully you will continue to trust what you already know and stand in the resonance of your own power...you are a bright light on Mylot and in your corner of the Universe. I value the connection we have...
Warmest regards,
Raia
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@lifeluver (743)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
Having been subjected to physical, mental, and emotional abuse for much of my life, my "inner critic" started speaking to me before I started school. It is so sad now that I think about it, how little I thought of myself and, therefore, was extremely critical of anything I did. I expected perfection on the first try (we all know that perfection IS possible...just not consistantly). I wouldn't volunteer any imput in conversations and if someone asked me a question, I was always certain I'd answer them wrong.
Now, after 2+ years of support from mental/emotional developmental programmes and services, as well as my spirituality, I am much less harsh on myself. Sometimes I will say in my head "woulda, coulda, shoulda....but didn't" and so I am able to "move on".
I still have a hard time praising myself, so to speak, but I'm getting better. Like, when I planted the flowers here at work (I'd never planted a flower garden before), I was very pleased with the finished results and did give myself a little pat on the back.
As my spirituality matures, I truly believe that my own potential is limitless and I continue to learn how to allow that to happen.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
1 Sep 07
Thank you so much for your open, honest, accountable and very insightful comments. Even though we have only been chatting a short while I am genuinely struck with your way of getting ideas across and offering valuable additions to what's being presented here. So having said that I would strongly encourage you to keep on speaking your unique brand of truth and trusting your perceptions...because from where I sit they are worth hearing.
Your background sounds similar to mine in the abuse department. My father was emotionally, spiritually, mentally and sexually abusive to me...and my sense of self was greatly diminished for years. I took the path you are...and just as you are finding I no longer allow myself to buy into his perceptions of me because I know they were completely invalid. Taking the multi-dimensional approach you are I know you will continue to let your special light shine...and do as I frequently do when my inner critic tries to gain a foothold. I just say.."Go away...I am not listening any more...so put a sock in it!" It works for me!LOL
Good post as always...thanks!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Aug 07
You always have such great topics!! :)
I think everyone has that inner critic--I don't know if it's necessarily due to our past experiences but it sure is a contributing factor. I do have a Type A perfectionistic personality even still, but only if I know it's some project I'm working on that I know I can do better. For instance, I do crafts for sale, and if it weren't for the perfectionistic attitude to create only the best I know I could do I would be making well..dreck..LOL--my crafts are after all a reflection of who I am, so I wouldn't what to make something that I would feel wasn't up to par with my standards. I really don't think this is too unrealistic of a viewpoint...in other words I want to make quality things I can be proud of.
So on the one hand I think that little critic can be constructive at times especially if you know that you are capable of great things from yourself, to challenge yourself to go the extra mile or go further in one's accomplishments.
But oh,yes I do recognize the other side...what may have been the more "destructive" Type A "critic" and that most definitely came from my mother who made me feel very unworthy at times--my parents were divorced when I was very young...growing up I never heard one positive thing about him...but then she'd turn around and say "Oh, you're just like him." So oh, my goodness, heaven forbid I be just like him so all through my life I was always trying to prove myself worthy, to be mommy's good little girl, result....the perfectionist, and trying to seek her approval. It took me so darn long to realize I didn't have to get approval of anyone --you approve of me fine, you don't, well I'm not going into a frenzy about..the main thing is how I FEEL about ME.
I much more able to give myself pats on the back for accomplishments...from the very small to the very large--another way of patting myself on the back or giving myself a hug if you will is to treat myself to something...doesn't have to be expensive, but just some little gift to myself--Heck on my birthdays, I buy myself a really fantastic card for myself that has special meaning, get a birthday balloon and fix my favorite dinner to celebrate my existance and life. Why not? I deserve it! :)
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
Thanks for you appreciation for the topics...they are made even greater by all the wonderful responses from you and other special Cyber-friends. I agree that having a bit of 'critic' can assist us in striving for excellence...as long as you balance it the way you do..with validation and self-approval for a joy well done.
From what you have already stated...you deserve really HUGE accolades for the way you have transformed your sense of self from the 'old you'...to the 'new you.' I understand how challenging it can be to disengage for all the old energy that came within the family of origin. Good that you have the ability to realize your Mom's narrow view of you and her life is something you are no longer buying into and are living life on your own terms.
Celebrating yourself on special occasions or even on an 'un' day as a way of saying 'yes' to who you are and the life you have...great idea!
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
27 Aug 07
Its also called an inner tape that may keep running constantly or turn on in certain situations. I've had it for similiar reasons to you, plus being the ugly duckling through out school. It was so bad that even when I became a swan, I didn't see a swan in the mirror for years. The tape would run and tell me that a duckling stood there.
Now I tell myself that its going forward that counts, and going forward, I'm going to be the best mother and person I can be.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
Good to know you inner tape has been scrubbed and you are imprinting it with new messages that celebrate the uniqueness of who you are. I am also doing my best to forget the past track record and celebrate the cycles on fresh beginnings we all have. Your approach to motherhood is a great one...they say the best way to teach is by your own example. Being raised by a strong, confident Mom who loves herself will be a gift your children will received every day in every way.
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
6 Sep 07
Hello again Raia.
I always have an inner critic. But before, this inner critic drove me to a point that if I don't push myself even beyond the limit, then I won't be good enough to be respected or accepted. But it did made me weary listening to that harsh critic eventually. Because there are times that even if I listened to that, the outcomes were still not the way I expected. Sometimes it's much more worse. People tend to see me as a person who seemed not happy with myself, as if I always have a reason to prove something.
I think I'll always have the part of a harsh inner critic in me. But the good thing is I now have the more gentler critic, like what you've said. I listen more to that gentler one, these days. Perfection rarely brings happiness to a person. And I believe we should make an allowance for ourselves to make mistakes. Because from them, we grow and learn. Be the better person we always hoped to be. I know it's not easy to admit the mistakes we may make, but that's a part of living. And we just have to learn to accept it.
God Bless and good day.^_^
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
Everything you have shared is so true. If we can reach the point where we view everything as an experiential lesson in life...then there truly is nothing to regret or beat ourselves up over. Many of the greatest minds in the world have touted the benefits of 'do-overs.' They refined their inner strengths and invented many great things by learning from their mistakes. Not too much to lament when life is view through that lens.
Good that you are learning to be more gentle with yourself...you have so much goodness in you and there is no reason not celebrate it! Remember 'it isn't bragging when you do it!'
Raia
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@insanity01 (48)
• Canada
3 Sep 07
First of all, I'd just like to say that I'm thoroughly enjoying your discussion starters, Perspectives :). But yes, I do have an inner critic and from my last reply on another one of your topics, I did mention my father. Because of my father for years, I had very bad bipolar tendencies and chronic depression. At the same time that my inner critic would put me down, destroy myself emotionally and mentally, my own voice within myself which I had control over I used to assist the inner critic. Over the years I've bettered myself with the assistance of kind friends. Over the better years of my life, my bipolar tendencies have lessened and so has my depression but with the scars left from that childhood which will never be forgotten have left me with a still bitter inner critic. Sometimes as I do something, I realize that I should be more considerate of others around me. And at those times when I do realize, my inner critic tells me not to care. I find that this has been the only thing the inner critic has been saying as of late. I don't find it all that difficult to live with my inner critic but sometimes I just wonder why it was even necessary at all to have said something like that. Even if I don't listen to it, why does it bother to respond in such a way? I know these things are hard to break but the logic doesn't add up to me.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
3 Sep 07
I am glad you came back and I hope you accept my friend request. I understand where you are coming from..I grew up with an abusive father who abused me sexually, mentally and emotionally...and also had a very harsh inner critic. It sounds as though you are making inroads in healing your life...and feeling more whole. It takes time, effort and commitment..but with a strong intent and solid action plans transformational changes do occur. My personal challenges lead me to a very satisfying career as a life coach, group leader and public speaker. I also am a professional free lance writer and know that much of my painful past created openings for the wonderful life I now enjoy.
So doing inner healing work is the way to improve the quality of life on every level. I respect the fact that you have already done a lot to work with your challenges. It takes courage to 'fight our demons.' Changing the patterning and the inner voice of your critic can be done. When I woke up to the fact that my harsh inner 'condemner' was really the voice of my father...I was more determined than ever to silence it. I refused to have the dictates of someone I neither liked nor respected remain the authority in my life. So I began changing it...telling it to take a hike...or put a sock in it..or simply giving it a firm command to STOP...then LEAVE! Cognitive choice making can change anything..because we cannot change what happened to us...but we can change the way we respond to it. As we begin to love, honor and respect ourselves more it becomes easier to be kinder and gentler towards others. It must be hard for you to feel compassion when you didn't grow up with it. After all we usually treat ourselves....and others the way we've been treated...we do what we know. Once there is an awakening to the idea that "Hey...I do not have to stay this way...I can change...they often do!"
For me I always encourage people to remember that it is not the past track record that counts...but what they choose to do right here...right now. Once you really accept that it is never to late to have a fresh beginning the past begins to lose its hold on us.
So I welcome you to Perspectives...and once again to Mylot. I think you will be delighted to meet the wonderful people who inhabit Mylot land. Hope to see you come back and continue to add your own perspectives to things...that is why it is called what it is.
Wishing you light filled blessings on your journey of discovery..
Raia
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