If you smelled an unknown fragrence on your partner,what would you do?
@sirensanssmile (3764)
Netherlands
7 responses
@bhbirdie6 (1765)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I'd ask him about it. He'll either tell you the truth or lie. If you think ht's telling the truth good. If not you can hire a private investigator to do a little snooping.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
26 Oct 06
I think I start snooping before the investigator. I think they would be hard to come by in Amsterdam though.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
27 Oct 06
I have your number too. Since I can't show you i'll describe it.... it is between my first and ring finger. You're number 1! lol You are too funny. I want that picture as my avatar.
@carlennj (589)
• United States
27 Oct 06
What if he had been shopping for you? Don't assume the worst. You must trust to build a relationship, right? One clue doesn't mean he's cheating. You find lipstick on his clothes, perfume on his body and some other laddies undies in his apartment, then you have an issue!
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
27 Oct 06
I admit that this time I over reacted, but I know how he is. He is insane about being on time and being where he says he will when he says he will. That is part of the attraction. He hates to be late. This time it wasn't a problem for him and the perfume smell on him. He was also drunk when he normally doesn't drink. He came back after midnight and stores around this area usually close at 6-8pm. We don't have 24 hour shops like some other countries. That and the fact he was gone 5 hours. It was just the little things that added up to my over reacting.
@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
27 Oct 06
I probably do the same thing you do, check his wallet. I also check his truck too.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
27 Oct 06
If there is a reason or a thought, I don't feel bad just looking. It doesn't really hurt anything.
Normally though if I just did it to do it, I would feel bad being nosey.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
27 Oct 06
knowing me, I am going to say nothing..the next day, I will go and buy a bottle of cologne he doesn't wear and spray a little on before i come home from work..when he gets a whiff, he will know how it feels
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
27 Oct 06
This is an interesting idea. He doesn't take a second to think about how he would feel if it happened to him. Sometimes if I ask him a simple question like "Did you get the mail today." He won't answer because he is watching tv. So instead of asking him again I wait until he asks me a question and ignore it. It deives him crazy and I just tell him "That's how it feels." lol
@Cindyh2k (308)
• United States
27 Oct 06
I would just ask him who hugged him with perfume on. My best friend is a guy - and when we see one another, we hug. Sometimes, I smell like his cologne after hugging him. But, my relationship is also based on honesty, so my husband knows who my friends are and I know who his friends are - and we both have friends of both genders.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
27 Oct 06
Yeah I hear you. Most of my friend's are male too, and the frangrence transfer has happened to me too. He doesn't have female friends though otherwise I would have just let it go as that. We also both know each other's friends and I think that is very important in a relationship. :) Thank you for you responce.
@countessta (35)
• United States
26 Oct 06
as my relationship is based on honesty, I would already know where the perfume came from. However if I asked him he would tell me.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
26 Oct 06
Good that you feel comfort and trust in your relationship.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
28 Oct 06
I am a man, a married man, and have been true to my spouse (we celebrated our silver jubilee last July) and I trust my spouse too. So I really don't know what I'd do if I lost that trust.
Maybe if I do come up with an answer, I will respond with a better post.
All the best though!
