What will you do if your best friend deceive you

@Odille (54)
China
August 27, 2007 11:28pm CST
or speaks bad of you under the table? She is my classmate in my senior school. Both of us were the top students in my class. We studied together and I treated her as my best friend and admired her and told her whatever I thought. Some classmates did tell me that she dislike me and cast aspersions on me. I didn't believe that. But one day I saw and heard something like that happened before me. It hurt me deeply. And I don't kown what should I do? I lose my heart to get access to the society. Is the world really so cruel? If you are suffering something like this, what will you do?
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6 responses
• United States
28 Aug 07
A lot of my so-called "best-friends" turned on me, they were not my friends to begin with.
• United States
29 Aug 07
No, I don't really, I have been deceived by people a lot of times, I get angry about it at first and then I realize that they are human and that they do not know any better.
@Odille (54)
• China
29 Aug 07
So you have the ability to identify people. Hope you won't get into this situation. Good luck.
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@shaeki (42)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
I've experienced this too. My ex-bestfriend did something similar to me. He spread bad rumors that weren't true. Eventually, almost everyone in school thinks I'm that kind of person he said I was. Almost EVERYONE(hundreds of them) picked on me, pushed me around and said terrible things everytime I'm in school. After a year and a half of torture, I was an emotional wreck and transferred to another school. I just couldn't handle it anymore. I became reclused and stopped talking to anyone. I went under depression for 2 years and went to school only once a month. Sometimes even once in 2 months! My family just didn't understand what I'm going through even though I've tried relating it to them a hundred times! I just recovered from this a couple of months ago. Though, I still feel awkward around people, I'm alot better now. Sorry if this is so long. I just want to say, don't let any of this affect you and continue on with your life. I think the reason why she's doing this to you is because she's jealous of you. She's insecure and the only way for her to make herself feel better is to ruin someone else life. I know it's hard but if you don't cope with it now, you'll end up like I was a couple of months ago.
@Odille (54)
• China
29 Aug 07
It's fine and I'd like you to say something as much as possible. It's just a practise or a talk that I really thought in my heart. I'm very sorry to hear that. But you are brave to recover from it. I'm trying now. When that happened, my feelings were beyond words. All of you here have given me courage to recover. I really feel beter now. Thanks.
@lesnan (537)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I had a friend do such a thing to me in high school. I severed all ties with her immediately. 25 years later, I still couldn't care less about her.
@Odille (54)
• China
29 Aug 07
As raijin said, their loss is not your loss. Your former friend lost your trust. And other people kowning this would not like her. It is her loss,not yours. Now I'm feeling better and she means nothing to me. Treat ourselves better. Good luck.^^
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
First, I will not call that person as a bestfriend. I think it could be better if you'd refer to her as a "former" friend, that's most appropriate (I guess)! LoL I will stop any communication or any connection I had with that person, I believe that people should atleast respect one another to be considered as friends or the most, as best friends! Leave her, ignore her and don't even bother to pay any attention to her anymore, because she'll only waste your time. No friend stabs his/her "best" friend on their back, so you move on. I have this one rule in having friends, that's if someone violated my TRUST, I would dump them with out saying any word. I'm sure that if you lose a friend, two or more will come and befriend you. Their loss is not your loss, you have nothing to lose but everything to gain!;)
@Odille (54)
• China
29 Aug 07
I'm doing exactly what you suggest. Now we are in different cities. She was my friend, right? yes, their loss is not my loss. Great! It's very kind of you to reply.^^
• United States
28 Aug 07
i know it hurts to hear, but she was certainly NOT a best friend. a best friend doesnt do that. unfortunatly you put your trust in someone who didnt deserve it. try not to let it eat at you. move on and definatly do NOT consider her your best friend. she has proven herself unworthy of such a title and isnt deserving of your respect. find a new study partner and dont waste your time with her anymore.
@Odille (54)
• China
28 Aug 07
It's very kind of you to say that. I like something simple. As a young girl, my mom was always telling me that people around you treat you in the same way that you do. And I find the reason is funny. I'm more popular with classmates and I am cleverer. However, it's over.You are right, she is not my friend any longer. Whatever happens, I should set forth. Tomorrow is another beatiful day. Thanks for your advice, I won't waste my time. A nice day!
• China
28 Aug 07
Real friends do not act like this. of course, she doesn't desearve your respect and concern. no matter what you have gone through, you should be happy that the deceit is open and you know what she really is. and by this awful experience, you get growing up and will be alert to what relationships you have had. from this, you would find the hardness of real friends, so be careful and learn to cherish when you find the real one.
@Odille (54)
• China
28 Aug 07
With the help of you all, I am feeling better now.^^