Is 16yrs girl matured enough for marriage?
By 12051976
@12051976 (231)
Ghana
August 28, 2007 2:33pm CST
The way i see marriage, am surprise when i see people rushing into it. Currently, in my country people are saying the law should allow the age 16 for girls to marry if they so wish. But i asked, is the age 16 conducive for marriage in any way? people tell me your mind it.........
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
29 Aug 07
I think it is too young for a 16 year old boy or girl. A 16 year old thinks different and has a lot less experience that a 21 year old and the 5 years make a big difference.
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@lovesfreedom (1245)
• United States
4 Sep 07
As the mother of 2 daughters, I would have been horrified if they had been able to legally marry at 16 without my consent. Luckily for me, neither showed any desire for that until into their 20s and after they both had completed masters programs in college.
I just think 16, while only a number to some, is way to young. My mother was 16 when she married, they were married for 32 years when my dad passed away. There was also 25 years difference in their ages which is frowned upon these days. They were happy, we had a happy family. But that is not the norm for ones marrying so young (my mom in this instance)...back then though, my mom had to grow up fast.
Then I think back to when I was 16, I thought I knew everything...I am 49 now and one thing I do know is that I haven't even come close to knowing everything and never will. I could not imagine getting married at that young age. I was 19 when I married the first time, and it lasted 24 years, but once my girls were grown, I found we did not have all that was needed anymore to keep it going.
I am remarried and have learned alot about what it takes for a marriage to be good, really good. Notice, I did not say I have learned it all, since life is one big class and we learn everyday.
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@lovesfreedom (1245)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I do think there are instances where it possibly does not matter. It was a much different world when my mother was 16, she was the eldest of many children and had taken on somewhat of a parent role while helping my grandparents. She had to do much that an adult would be expected to do at a very early age.
As a rule, I believe 16 is just to young, there is to much to experience to tie yourself down to a family of your own.
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I think the right age for marriage varies from person to person. What matters is their maturity, what they want from life, and their reason for getting married. I have a friend who married at 15 and has been in a happy marriage (or so it seems)for 40 years!
I think in the US, most 16 year olds are too young to get married, but other cultures are different and younger marriages may be more acceptable.
@besoftandsweet (53)
• United States
7 Sep 07
16 is young but it is also only a number. Marriage is a big step and yes 16 is normally too young to get married. However, some young ladies are very mature some many years ahead of themselves. I say if they are going to allow 16 year olds to get married they should devise a maturity and responsibility test to see if the child is really mature enough to handle commitment and her partner should take the test as well. I was married at 15 but I'm an old fogey now. Take care
@besoftandsweet (53)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I would say absolutley I know some 30 year olds that are more immature then most 12 year olds
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
19 Sep 07
I am not married and I have a lot of experience. To be honest two years ago I would still not have been ready for marriage because I had some immature behaviours. A 16 year old has all those still childish. Maybe matured in body but lets face it the emotional maturity needed is just not there. I was sixteen once and was matured for my age but honestly marriage never crossed my mind. I guess it all depends on the priorities too. I am just syaing not trying to force what ai think down anyone's throat. I beleive a 16 yr is immature. Look at the older ones who marry they end up in divorces and separations. Ever thought of that?
@iceprince7 (108)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
I think 16 year's old is way to low she's not matured yet to enter such a big situation. And marriage should be done if you know each other very well not a one day met or week. It takes time to understand each other and know each other much better. I also think that maturity is big factor on keeping your relation if our not mature enough you might just misinterpret each other.