How to deal with "shy"?

If you are shy, you are not alone. A number of people claim that they are shy although many hide it well. Shyness means feeling sensitive or timid in social situations. In our culture, shyness is sometimes viewed as a weakness but there are a lot of positive qualities about shy people. Once you learn to accept being shy, you can overcome some of the more negative aspects of shyness. Think about the things that make you likable. Shy people tend to be good listeners, understanding and empathetic--all good qualities in a friend. Put these qualities forward when establishing new friendships. Use the positive attributes of shyness to find success. Shy people tend to closely observe their surroundings and are better able to process the information than extroverts. These qualities can lead to success and being successful can help boost your confidence. Focus on the positive qualities of being shy. Shy people rarely get bored and are able to amuse themselves and keep themselves occupied. Express yourself. The more you speak up the easier it will become. If public speaking is difficult, consider a career or a hobby in art or writing to express yourself. Seek activities and relationships that are comfortable for you. Being shy doesn't have to mean that you're socially isolated. There are plenty of other shy people in the world.

Dont worry so much dear Molly about being shy. Of course you are only young it seems. AS you grow older you will know yourself better and be able to communicate little by little. Its not so bad as you think. I am a man and I used to be so shy, my god I thought it was terrible, but I can see now it is not such a difficult problem. The best things in life take time, nothing good ever happens quickly. You will learn to speak up, just keep trying!! -CliffCliff

I think you have to ask yourself WHY, why are you shy? Go to the route of the problem, find out what has happened inthe past to make you shy, was it rejection, or were you bullied? For example. Yes read self-help books, try going to see a counselor they can be very helpful or if you don't feel confident enough try small steps at first. Good luck to you and sometimes shyness is NOT a weakness.

First of all you need to think about activities you are confident with. Maybe a sport, a church group, a craft, or whatever. Then join a group that participates in this activity. At least if you have a common interest with people, it makes it easier to socialize. Secondly, there may be a support group for shy people. If none of the above works, perhasps you will need to see a therapist, who will help you build up your confidence bit by bit. Good Luck.

i'm a shy girl too. if you really to give it up, then you have to try many times to overcome it. for example, if you are afraid of communicate with other, then do it, although you will feel you will have a bad performance, but take it easy. i hope you can be a openly girl in the future, good luck.

You shall believe to your ability,deem all are foolish guys so that can talk relax

yes you're right when you feel so shy you can't probably ask or say what you feel is right before others. However, there are people who feel shy but excessive of everything isn't good. You ca do away with it by discussing issues with others always and when doing that you look straight into the face. whenever you're talking with or to other look straight into their face but make some limits to people you respect very much.

I used to be very shy too. I felt awkward looking into people's eyes when they talked to me. I often looked away from their eyes but this made me appear rude. A few years ago, I was taught to look at people's nose instead of the eyes when they talked to you. This helped to relieve the awkwardness and also made me appear less rude. Another way is to have more confidence in yourself. Always walk with your back straight and smile more. A smile is the best make up. It brightens up the entire face. With that confidence, you can face anyone.

read some good books, read books on kings and queens and their personalities. apple.

I think the most effective thing you should do is that practice as often as possible,even it will be difficult.