someone is using you

Philippines
August 29, 2007 8:08am CST
what will you do if someone is around you, let say want you to be his/her friend...but he/she only does that because he/she likes your friend? and only using you to be with the one he/she likes...
5 responses
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
29 Aug 07
Keep away from that person. Out of personal experience I know that confrontation takes one nowhere and so, keeping away from this person who uses you would be the best solution because you are the person who will get hurt the maximum. Transparency and openness is an absolute necessity in any relationship and why should we be with people who have different motives other than what they profess to have? When we are honest, we tend to expect a similar approach from the other person. When persons use you, you cannot allow it. There is a saying that the person who gets cheated is as much to blame as the one who cheats.
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
thanks for your advice!im gonna think about that! coz the person im talking about is my new friend and i enjoy his company...
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
29 Aug 07
The very fact that you say that you like his company will blind your eyes and make you hope that he will really prefer your company some day. But you will only get hurt. I am talking from personal experience, though it is not a friend or a lover but a different person.I am fifty years old and let me tell you , just give this very serious thought and cultivate detachment. Don't be used and get hurt in the process.
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
now he's asking me to do something for him so that my friend and him will become close...your right but how will i do that? honestly, as of now, i feel little pain, coz i felt he does not like my company...please tell me what to do....thanks!
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
It must be so funny.He or she just want to be friends with you because she or he likes your friend,Well for me if im in that situation and i found out that he or she just want me to be her friend because she or he likes my friend,ill jst ignore it,as if nothing happend.As long as he or she still my friend.
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
yah your right!friend is friend...thanks!
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
That is so sad. For me, that's really an insult. If anyone would do that to me, well, I probably would just let him or her have what they want. That is, to be friends to be with the one they really like. But after that, I probably will not continue keeping a close friendship with this person. People who do this are not worth keeping at all anyway.
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
you think so, me too and that makes me sad...huhu! maybe i will keep distance between us...thanks!
• Egypt
30 Aug 07
for me i have been throw this before there was this girl evry body but me for sure can see she likes my friend but she turned on me becuse i'm his best friend but worse she tried to break me a part of him i left her but she say's she really love me i don't know what to do next !!!!
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
thats humiliating!how did you handle it?
@cheska26 (34)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
if you know that the person is using you, why don't you talk to him or her about it and the situation calmly? and if proven or admited w/apology then go on and be his/her friend but not that clos anymore but w/o apology then leave that fu**ing person.
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
lets see, for now i wont do that coz i have no strength to confront him...thanks for advise!i really appreciated it!